Nov 2011 - almost time to push!

[TerrysNo2]

Last thread was full so thought I would just start this one off - hope you don't mind as I know I've not been a regular but god forbid you guys having nowhere to chat ;)

Right, caz what's happening, I am stalking you all over the shop and need more news :)

Congrats to alicat, kate and gold! I haven't written a birth story as don't want to scare anyone who is due an induction.

I've posted on post natal thread about how we are getting on, I fear I'm going to be agrophobic if I don't start forcing self to leave house every day- got out and about today and feel a million times better for it. Looking forward to another merry up with babies this time. I hoped we'd meet again whilst on mat leave but hey ho!

Very much loving the mama thang. I'm just burstin' with love for him, and for OH too.

Must channel that feeling at 1am, 3am, 5am, 6am

Oh MrsA - hopefully they'll send you a card or something to say good luck! I had my last day in the office last week and got a bunch of flowers and apparently there's some goodies on the way after baby girl arrives, but I'm not expecting much of a fuss tomorrow for my last day.

Have given up work early today as have headache and v uncomfy.

Yoga tonight though so hopefully chill out a bit!

terrys my DH read over my shoulder just as i got to your post about your show! That'll teach him!

sorry folic x posts! Glad you're doing well! - off to have a nosy at post natal thread! x

Sorry, forgotton who asked but thankfully no, not back to back that I know! My 1st was and it was excruciating. I get why your asking though! The backache isn't too painful, the stomachache more so. It's right at the top of my bump and I've got crampy feelings and the achy back to match it. I know it sounds silly but my boobs are burning hot too. Also feel like a bit yak down there too. Sorry tmi!

I've just got home and appear to have come home with a Brazilian wax job I had a few errands to run and called into a salon that I know does hot waxing, rather than warm and she just said 'why don't I do you now?' and then once I was in there saying I wanted just a normal bikini wax, 'why don't you go for the Brazilian? It's really clean and tidy' so I did! It did bloody hurt though, although it's ok now.

Have done a load of washing and the washing up and am now snuggled on the sofa watching 'Location, Location, Location' whilst listening to the pouring rain outside. Poor DH is going to have to get home from work in this shortly

Are there any ladies in London who fancy a lunch meet up in the next week or two? Am thinking of things to do before the baby arrives

Hello just popping in to say congrats to Kate & Mash!

We are home - hurrah. Shattered, aching but so besotted with my new little boy :)

No real birth story as it was an elective CS. No op is particularly pleasant but the staff were lovely. Arrived at 8am, in theatre by 10:15, baby at 10:45 - all good. As with previous 2 CS I majorly got the shakes from the spinal (completely normal reaction apparently). Also v nauseous & giddy but thus passed when I eventually managed to be sick despite anti nausea medication. 2 noisy sleepless nights on v busy ward (room with 4 others) so bailed home today. My boy is proving to be a bit lazy at sucking so BF had a slow start - he stressed me by not waking himself for food so I had to wake him after 6 hours. I had lots of colostrum v quickly so was able to express this to be syringe fed to him when we couldn't get out act together and now he is wanting to feed very regularly albeit every latch on takes a lot of work but I am hopeful we'll both get better at it soon!

Evening all.
Midwife today BP etc all fine. Baby 4/5th. Did ask about swelling but she doesn't appear overly concerned so thats all good. No more appointments now until consultant 15th (day before due date) I guess it is just a waiting game now... Although TMI alert- lots of discharge today so hoping there are some changes going on

sasaunde Fingers crossed your hubby doesn't need op and that he recovers soon.
Terrys ooh hope this is the start for you
Mrs A hope you manage some relaxation time after finishing work before baby arrives.
knockedup Hoorah for canestin!!
Voodoo sending serious "go away back pain" vibes to you
Sorry if I missed anybody and have a lovely relaxing evening ladies

Ali Cross posted with you. Glad to hear all went well and you are home safe and sound.

Congratulations Ali and glad you are home now. Hope the breast feeding continues to get easier and you are enjoying lots of baby cuddles.

Wow wow wow what a crazy busy thread! Look at all these babies!! Well done everybody.
Folic and other Edinburgers would be lovely to do a meetup. Maybe in December? Willow's still got to be rationed to 90mins a day when it comes to time in a carseat so I'd like for her to get a bit bigger before we finally resume gadding about. A weekend would work best for me so I could bring her alone and DH can take Jacob swimming or to the cinema or on one of their other boy fieldtrips together.
I'm touching wood here because we've had such a good day, I don't want to tempt fate, we had Willow's final ROP eyetest and she's been discharged on that score with everything looking fine, she wisely held her bowels closed for 36 hours which meant she'd gained enough weight for them to agree we no longer have to do premmie formula top ups we can just use my pumped milk instead. They worked it out and realised that she was only gaining four additional calories a day from the nutraprem because she refused to take anything more than 35mls a day, and best of all they've agreed I no longer have to medicate her 10 times a day, including four horrid doses of salt water which she hated, so now I'm just giving her two meds a day, plus the two-hourly breast feeds in the day and three hourly at night and it almost feels like mothering a regular newborn!!! Oh yes and a toddler too, but he's just a sweetheart right now. when he isn't in full blown screaming terrible twos meltdowns Big hugs to all.

congrats again ali - good to hear it went well. I have my ecs on monday, so am a bit nervous but yours sounded mellow. Are you very sore?

truffkin I wish I could do a lunch meet up in London...I am missing the UK a bit at the moment.

I just did more erranding around town today and then had a long lunch with my friend who is a stylist. She basically lives in the shops or on shoots, which actually seems like a bit of a nightmare.

I got my final bits and pieces - more breastfeeding bras, some pajamas bottoms and vest tops and a lovely camel jacket, stocked up on contact lenses, fixed my camera, got two bags mended, bought some household stuff, went to the bank and picked up a parcel from the post office. Also bought one Xmas present for my mum - a lovely squidgy soft leather shopper from a sample sale pop-up shop. It would sooo be my nappy bag but the handles won't go over my mountain buggy.

I also managed to squeeze in a sneaky Ben & Jerrys too - a scoop of Raspberry Brownie and one of Macademia Nut. Yum.

Oh yes and I forgot to add, her weight is now only an ounce off 5lbs!! That sounds like almost a respectable baby weight for modom and her 38 weeks of gestational age.
I also got to pop into the triage ward today and took Willow to meet one of the mws that helped us when we were first admitted way back when on August 21st. Was just lovely to keep my promise and bring her back for a cuddle and on the way out of the front door I bumped into one of my favourite neonatalogists, a wonderful south african doc full of enthusiasm for kangaroo care and attachment parenting and trying to raise premmies in as natural way as possible and he told me well done for being so persistent! It meant such a lot. And my pumped milk is now winging its way to the Northern Ireland milk bank. Well once I've gotten someone to take blood off me.

DH had op today at lunchtime which apparently went ok, appendix out and they found a hernia so they fixed that while they were there... just went to visit him and he looked really poorly, cue breakdown from me. He's in again overnight tonight and fingers crossed will be well enough to come home tomorrow. No backup plan for birth partner and can't think of anybody suitable - my mum or MIL would just make matters worse I think and actually my mum's away til Sunday too :( Feeling a bit teary now anyway and keeping these legs TIGHTLY crossed! No increase in BH or slime anyway so hopefully I'll last till EDD and be laughing about it all by next week

Ali glad to hear you are home! Hadak, good news about the swelling. Poppet yay for willow. Clever girl growing big! Sasaunde, crikey what a few days you are having! Hopefully your DH will be on the mend now and home soon!

I went to bed in a mood last night. Bloody OH is doing my head in. I'd just got comfy draped over the birthing ball and watching telly. Had just managed to explain to dd that I was fine just uncomfy and he sits down and starts wiggling about to get my attention. I tried ignoring him cos I was trying to relax but no. So when I said 'what man' clearly irritated he refuses to speak to me!! Ffs!!! So I lost my rag and stormed off to bed. got up this morning and has he washed a dish? No! Doesn't he get am like nearly 40 weeks pregnant, really uncomfy, tired and ratty? :( sigh. I'm going on strike. At least I had quite a good sleep! Woke a few times but managed to pretty much get back over straight away. Happy with that.

morning ladies,

ali glad you're home now, hope you're getting lots of cuddles.

sasunde oh dear, glad he's had the op so quickly though, so now he can concentrate on getting better, fx you're a little late. (or on time if your dd is a little while yet, sorry can't remember when.)

poppet yay for Willow, so pleased she's doing so well.

voodoo i know a little what you mean, dh seems to forget everytime where the dishwasher is and just dumps stuff in the sink or on the side, even though there's nothing else there so he should really think hmmm obviously everything is in the dishwaher already. nope he just leaves it. or like last night when there was a few stuff there and i was putting ds to bed would have been nice for him to have put them in the dw, but no. Have to admit i don't get the not talking to you though, (although thinking about it, sometimes it might be nice for dh to not talk to me rather than bloody moan all the time.)

Does anyone remember me complaining several weeks ago that my mil brought her own meal to a roast i'd done for us all? well apparently she's doing the same tommorrow, we're doing fireworks and i'm doing a cottage pie and chilli (not hot), with tortillas and different breads. (pizza and hotdogs as back up if not enough) And apparently she's bringing something. Grrrr why not just eat at home before coming, we're not eating till about 6 so it's not like it'd be early. I swear i'm going to start doing the same thing to her.

If you can't tell i had an awful nights sleep, ds woke up at about 3 crying i went in to settle him, he went straight back to sleep, i was awake for a good couple of hours after. i'm really tired and stroppy now. Ds is supposed to be staying at mil's tonight, that's going to be fun, she seems to think we're going to come running if hes crying. fat chance, may seem mean but she's the one who whinged she never has him, so now she'll have him till tomorrow and have to deal with whatever comes up. (obviously unless he's ill or injured.) Plus we i need an undisturbed night.

sorry i'll go back to my sulky corner.

cep laughing at MILs own food provisions! That really is awful!

sasunde glad op went well and hope DH is on the mend swiftly!

voodoo i think going on strike is defo the right thing to do... i just hope he notices before the mess drives you mad! lol!

Last day of work today!!! Woooo!!!

Before I get started, i'm actually going to blow dry my hair and put some make up on! I don't know why but I haven't done anything like that for weeks, but decided if baby comes I'm gonna have a lot of pictures taken and I don't want to look truly awful!

Happy Friday all!

xx

Stace fantastic! Enjoy your last day in work!

sasa hoping for a speedy recovery of your DH.

cep I remember the food provisions. How annoying!

voodoo definitely go on strike! I wish that everyone had a supportive and understanding partner in pregnancy. I wouldn't know what to do if mine was different :(

ali yay for going home!

Poppet I was thinking of you and Willow yesterday, so I am very pleased to read your post. And such good news too!

Cep, my mil drives me insane too. She would bring food too if i was cooking. That's just how she is. It's very annoying. She keeps 'offering' to come round and 'clean' or 'tidy'. The answer is always ah no thank you I'd die of boredom if I didn't have that to do. Not the case but she would rearrange my house! I can't help think it's a bit erm intrusive. She used to be a home carer, everything swims in bleach and daft as it sounds, she over cleans! The bath you have to wash out before you get in it as it's over clean and is bleached to an inch of it's life if you get what I mean. As much as it drives me nuts and I've reckoned 2 days after the baby is born before we fall out, I know she's trying to help.... Cep any chance she just doesn't want you to have to do to much? (am just being devils advocate here) I do totally understand how frustrating it is. Just smile sweetly and let her eat her own food and enjoy what you've made yourself! And breathe deeply!

truffkin I know how you feel about being alone and actually had a hissyvfit with OH the other day as he keeps making all these plans with other people and it's doing my head in, we have done anything together since the beginning of Oct when I took him on a date. This last week consisted on him working late about 3 nights, him going out for a 30th on the sat and him working all day Sun OT. This week he is out tonight with his work friends, tomorrow another 30th, sunday he wants us to go to his parents for dinner, during the week hes going out for his nieces birthday and he's got a concert 3 days prior to due date.... And he doesn't understand shy I'm upset? I keep telling him we'll never have this time again!!

Sorry for rant!

twojacks real housewives of new york is the highlight of my afternoons :) it's soooooo funny hahaha I have it on series link

Cep ah, yes remember her weirdness . Maybe she's too polite to say she doesn't want what you are cooking? If it was me, I would ask her if there was a prob with what you were offering. Though my mil is so laid back it's unbelievable. Had to force my change bag on her when she took DD out on tues as she didn't think she needed it. Had to say DD is teething, has explosive and foul runny nappies which need to be changed ASAP as giving her nappy rash.

How did you ds op go? It's been a week now, hasn't it?

Stace woo, to last day at work.

sasunde hope your DH recovers quickly and baby stays put until you are ready.

poppet was thinking about you yet as well. So glad to hear willow is piling on those ounces. Thanks for updating us x

voodoo I can't believe how much you get done in a day. I am exact opposite to you. I am the queen of laze, and luckily my DD takes after me. I am a sahm and as i don't drive I walk every where. Have had tonshorten all my walks as I get v tired quickly. But then I am also walking with a buggy and 2 stone toddler who isn't walking yet.

I'm due on Sunday, so DH has plans of walking baby out this weekend. He's already picked dishes for Indian takeaway tonight. I normally have mild but it's medium tonight for me . He's getting v excited, bless him.

Cep my MIL won't any of my food, I think I'd be happier if she brought her own as her not eating stresses me out. She says she can't combine protein & carbs for medical reasons but will eat an egg sandwich so I just don't get it plus is super fussy even if you do try & follow her diet. For DD's birthday a couple of weeks ago I got a load of m&s platters - rolls, wraps, sandwiches, meat & veggie & she couldn't find a single 1 she could eat (the egg had Mayo in which apparently made it a no go) so made herself a jam sandwich. I have long since given up!

h007 wow, that's a lot of socialising! Have you asked DH to cut down on drinking as near your due date? Assume he will be driving you to hospital?

I remember coming home with DD, putting her car sear down in front room, looking at her and we both said, what do we do now? Both v shell shocked! We had planned lovely medium rare steak dinner fir me. Needless to say it went cold as she was upset and we couldn't calm her down.

I would highly recommend doing your favourite things together in the run up to due date as you will both have to put newborn first in everything. Even if it's cooking, walking or snuggling on sofa watching a DVD.

Hope that doesn't sound patronising. Sorry, if it does.

Sorry for rant in advance:

Really bad night last night, max 2hrs sleep which was in smaller chuncks. Been getting strong irregular contractions since Weds (they go reg stop for an hour then start again). DS up in night as I had light on which meant trying to get a tired DS ready for school this morning - managed it just. Then had to take dog to vet, she was due her annual jabs but injured herself earlier in week & seems to have got worse so now she at vet awaiting sedation & xray. I have 20mins before I am due at GP for BP check & am really tearful which I know isn't going to help me have a good BP reading. To top it all off DP is still in bed and hasn't helped at all (not normal for him too often). Oh & it has just started pouring with rain & I have no suitable coat or shoes that fit...

Sorry again for the self-absorbed post, kinda want to start the day again. Will catch up on other posts later xx

Bump, this level of stress is not good. Prioritise. Go to gp's and tell them your bp is probs going to be immense and they will probably either redo it or discount it. Tell your OH to get up (believe me I know just how frustrating that is). Give him jobs to be done. My OH complains he's not a mind reader and will do stuff I specifically tell him what. Then go and have a soak in the bath or read a book or watch a film. You need to conserve some energy. Ring mw if contractions are too much. I'm sure I could say something more positive or constructive but just didn't want you stressing on your own!

mooseymoo he hasn't drunk since I've hit 37 weeks just incase..

I know exactly what your saying and it's what I keep telling him but he just doesn't listen.... It's like about a week ago I told him I'd had enough and coul he not book anything else then he come back with my parents want us around Sunday followed the next day about goin out for his nieces birthday! He doesn't get that I want to spend my last few days just being me by doing things that are nice for me, instead of spending all day at home alone and now spending most evenings doing the same grrrr... He did text me the other day saying that he wouldn't plan anything else, but a. I think it's too late now and b. He's not planning to do anything with me