March 2012 - buxom and blooming in the second trimester (we wish!)

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Here you go ladies, somewhere for all soon-to-be March mums to share the ups and downs

buterflies boys name OS totally dotted but the only girls name we both agree on has been used by 2 different people we know in last 6 weeks do I won't have it anymore so if we end up on team pink its gonna be tricky! Slept like a log last night mainly due to dp working might so I could spread!

Hope you feeling better kniterati

Apologies for appalling use of predictive text!

dragon I know what you mean. I had a lovely girls name in mind but then I moved and next doors little girl is Freya and then one of my friends called her daughter Freya so good job this one is a boy lol. At least the scanner thinks so, she didn't sound too sure eek. My mum has been knitting blue clothes so bump had better be a boy now lol.

knitterati its such a shame you are going through a tough time at work. Take the money and run would be my advice as once you have baby you wont care about the job anyway.
Its very unfair what they are doing but I personally wouldn't want all the stress. Its their loss and when you are ready I am sure you will get a better job some place else.

Sorry if this sounds defeatist, you know best what is right for you x

25 week check-up today which was all fine. Baby gave doctor a hefty kick/elbow just as he put his hands on my tummy, so he or she is definitely a feisty one who doesn't like to be disturbed. I have really been suffering with post herpetic neuralgia for the past couple of weeks (due to having shingles twice in the past 5 years, the second time being at 13 weeks pregnant ) It has left me with nerve damage across the top of my back which causes excruciating pain at times. I have been feeling rather run down lately so am guessing that's why it has flared up again. The only thing gp can prescribe at the mo is a cream that is plant based, that plant being cayenne chilli peppers! It works by blocking the pain signals to the brain. Very odd stuff and usual rules apply when handling chilli products, wash hands thoroughly before rubbing eyes/nose etc. Bizarre!

norfolk sounds horrible :( hope you feeling better soon its a nightmare when you can't take any good drugs for pain I've pulled a muscle in my back and rib and paracetamol really doesn't cut it but it does also make me take it easy which is a good thing I guess.

My 25 appt went good and measured 26cm which mw said was bang on so all good and a shut up to everyone who keeps tellin me how small I am!

Gp didn't measure my bump, he said he just estimates measurement from eye and by where bump is in relation to belly button/rib cage. I have a growth scan in 3 weeks time so am hoping to get more reassurance about my size then. I just feel much bigger than last time, but it may be the amount I seem to be snacking on at the mo... I have a rather voracious appetite!

Morning ladies! I haven't posted for a while, so thought I would say hello!

Midwife said she wouldn't measure my bump till 26 weeks (next appointment) I won't be getting my MATB form till then either. My boss is putting pressure on me to decide my maternity leave as he has just got another job and wants to get things sorted before he leaves. I can understand where he is coming from but HR aren't interested in me till I have my MATB form. I have contacted HR and asked them to give me some rough idea of what I'm entitled to. Hey ho. Wait and see :)

BUT that's not the reason I have popped up! I am now 24 weeks! dances AND my boobs have gone rock hard and If I give the nipples a little squeeze they leak!! (sorry for the TMI) has anyone else got this? I have done a google and apparently it's normal so I'm not worried just wanted to share as when I told DH he was a little freaked (he loves the boobs) and it's not something you can just bring up...

Loving the Facebook group by the way x

Kitty My nips been doing that since 18 weeks! Freaked my DP out as well!

santa it does make a huge difference, makes things easier to deal with. I can't stand gaviscon! Tastes too chalky to me, my hearburn is definitely getting worse though :(

babydust glad your 25 week check went well, lovely hearing the heartbeat :)

knitterati so sorry to hear of your work problems :( Must be such a strain on you, it's all stressful enough without more worries adding to it.

dorcas viability is a good milestone, I've reached that now too :) Glad your scan went well and congrats on a girl! :o

peapod welcome

norfolk I've been feeling the opposite, stressing far more the further on I get. Glad your checkup went well. That sounds painful :(

Ilove sympathies, sleeping is getting harder for me too now. I wake so many times a night it's horrible, needing a wee, heartburn, thirsty etc. Hope you get some proper sleep soon

kitty My boobs are leaking too, have been a while now!

I've been stressing so much and really worried, had a few scares with reduced movement so went in to be monitored etc but all is well and baby is still doing nicely in there. She's certainly keeping me on my toes! 24+2 today which is a good milestone but I seem even more anxious than before. I'm going in weekly now to be checked over and my next scan is next Tuesday and I think it will be fortnightly now. Going in tomorrow to the day assessment unit which should help and going back Friday as that's the year anniversary of when Scarlett died although she wasn't born until the 6th. Difficult time of year so just doing what I can to get through it at the moment.

Evening ladies

Geez it's very quiet in here! Am assuming everyone is super busy and has far too much going on to be posting here! Or perhaps everyone's on the FB page [makes mental note to log into FB properly and not just skim it on my phone]

cheese I'm glad that you're getting the care and support you need. This must be such a sad time of year - am thinking of you with Scarlett's anniversary [hugs]

Big waves to everyone else. Hope all is good with mamas and bumps

Not much going on with me, bar being knackered with work and general life. Roll on getting a break at Christmas! We went to Bath for the day today, to catch up with some friends and check out the Christmas markets. Was lovely...but knackering! Off to my sister's tomorrow for our last hanging out before Christmas (she's off to the States with her family and we're off to Ireland). Developed severe pain in my right forearm/elbow out of nowhere this afternoon - no idea what it could be but perhaps tendonitis? Baffled, and hope it clears up as quickly as it arrived!

24+1

Im really tired to flip ive started going to bed at 9pm!!

Im on the count down to maternity leave only 8 weeks to go!! I think it will go really fast as my shop is crazy (store manager in WHSmith) at the moment and will be until the Jan Sales are over. Its nice being busy as the day goes so quick but it does make me tired and grumpy by the time i get home.

Im spending the day writing christmas cards, putting the tree up and wrapping the presents. DP is playing football this morning so im enjoying the peace n quiet in my pj bottoms n hoodie! Just how sundays should be!!

Im 27+3 now, got my 28 week check up on thursday. no-one else thinks i have a bump but im sure i do!! Baby likes to kick especially when im lying down

Hey ladies!!

Not much going on here excpet lump having excessive parties atm!!!
Went to Lakeside yesterday shopping and that just about killed me!! Was ok when we were there but once I got home I kinda collapsed and was totally ready to go to bed at 8!!! Also feel like ive been kicked in the groin today all that walkin I guess my hips can't cope!

Hope everyone is well
26+2

Just to say hello. I am 25+2 now and finally it is starting to feel more real and exciting. I think that getting past 24wk and baby being officially viable has helped. I am letting myself get excited now and can't wait to buy more and more baby things lol.
Hope everyone is well x

Need a quick rant!

DP and I went to the hospital yesterday for a tour of all the birthing facilities with a bunch of other expectant parents to help start making choices for birth plans etc. Is my first so we're completely clueless. Started off well but then right towards the end the midwife conducted a straw poll to see who had their yellow notes with them. A few people did, one had been told she didn't need them and a few others stared at the floor. 'No' I say, 'when i rang to get on the tour, they didn't say I needed them'.

MW then proceeds to tell me off in front of the rest of the group cue and then as she says that I should now be carrying my notes with me WHEREVER I GO....including into work and out into town!....And what would i do if i was at work in London and I fell over and I didn't have them with me?.....Carried on berating me for the benefit of the group which was as pleasant as you can imagine.

This eventually led to me fighting back tears (stupid hormones) when I actually wish I'd said something cutting back. I ended up leaving rather smartish and the other MWs that saw me having a quick sob outside were very sweet. I didn't hang around, by then I just wanted out of there.

What a cow. I appreciate her need to make a serious point but do you honestly think humiliating me in front of a group of people is the right way to do it? God, its not like first timers (and more!) don't get constantly made to feel inadequate anyway. And is this information supposed to magically, telepathically find its way into my brain? I could understand it (a bit) if they'd told me this before and I'd flagrantly disregarded the advice.

Am just dreading the prospect of her being the MW on when I go into deliver now. Hateful woman

Monkey I think that's horrible and totally patronising, I'd actually make a complaint about her. It's unprofessional to treat you like a naughty school child, especially in front of other people. Sorry you had to listen to that from her. Fwiw, this is my 5th and I don't carry my notes around, never have done, more inclined to lose them that way personally and that would be much worse.

Flip thank you :) We got through the day she died relatively easily which was a relief, just tomorrow which is a year after she was born now. What were the Christmas markets like in Bath?

Baby We're getting and putting up our tree tomorrow, then starting on the wrapping and writing cards out. I have quite a large bump now, definitely no mistaking it!

Ilove I've been struggling with walking too much and shopping now, just can't do it without starting to feel faint, tired and quite sick so I'm trying to space things out.

Have another scan tomorrow to check the growth, had a few high blood sugar readings so we'll see what they think about those too. I realised yesterday that I have less than 12 weeks to go at the most! 37 weeks is the most I'm going and most likely less than that, 25+2 today now. It's quite a scary but also exciting thought. Trying to stay positive which is helped by this little one kicking constantly! Got most of the christmas presents bought which I'm really pleased about too. Hope everyone's doing ok

Sorry to hear that Monkey its really not helpful when people treat you like that.

I do carry my notes around but only because the midwife told me to at booking in and joked to DP that my bag wasnt big enough to fit them in so he would have to treat me!! Then we went to Debenhams and they had 40% off Radley so i made him buy me one that fits them!!!!!

Is anyone having the diabetes in pregnancy tests? Ive got mine a week on Weds as my dad is a type 1 diabetic and getting nervous

Oh Monkey thats awful!!! I have only ever taken my notes out when I have an appt never been told to take them out and it certainly never crossed my mind to!! [debates whether to leave them in the car from now on....]

Was thinking today that, although I do'nt know what 'feeling 6 months pregnant' feels like, I certainly don't feel anything like I expected!! I was def expecting to be bigger and feel much more pregnant - I still feel like I need to promote my bump altho I do get told it is definetly there!

Been struggling with toothache today which paracetamol doesn't touch so have been forced to take a few co-codamol (which I was told by the hospital early on that they were OK for everyone else to be horrified to hear I was prescribed them) I am completely dentist phobic and altho I did pluck up the courage to ring the dentist they referred me to the emergency who I bottled out of ringing this evening. It is feeling better and I am armed with kiddies teethin bonjela to calm it a bit! I'm so worried that the horrific panic I Will get myself into will be detrimental to my baby if I do go to the dentist. No-one seems to understand how phobic I am and think I'm just being pathetic but it really is an overwhelming phobia which I cannot explain for years I have been asking to be referred to be knocked out for treatment but I just get ignored and I think this has made me worse and built my fear up even more I'm at a bit of a loss at what to do I know that I will tolerate the pain for a few days until it passes but it doesn't solve the issue that I do really really need to go to the dentist.

Anyway not sure what you lovely ladies are supposed to do!!! Just needed a little rant about it!!

Hope everyone is bloomin well :D

baby I have gestational diabetes, was diagnosed about 13 weeks and been on insulin since then so I didn't need the GTT this time!

Ilove I also hate the dentist and just don't go, I put off treatment as I'm that nervous and anxious so I totally understand. I'm also scared of being put out though so I can't solve it that way! Hope your toothache goes away soon

Monkey, I don't carry my notes around with me either. I was planning to after about 7 months but don't have the bag size and goodness knows where I'd leave them. I'd complain too as Cheese says.
Bump moving around a bit, which is fun (and still odd). Got my Midwife (or Midhusband, in actual fact) appointment on Friday so must remember to get my mat leave form from him.
Hope all others and bumps are doing well.

Thank you ladies, I feel better. The Diglet is doing a happy dance in my belly too, just as I am planning to go to sleep of course......

I have that blood sugar test tomorrow morning. I have most of a bottle of lucozade to drink and then get to sit around watching telly for two hours....bliss

Ilove, agree on the dentist, am long overdue but finding plenty of excuses not to go.

Hi all
Cheese - how did your scan go yesterday?

I've got a GTT test on 5th Jan - my brother has diabetes (the type that needs insulin injections) and I've got PCOS, which can point to GD. So I'm going to resist eating all of the mince pies this Christmas!! Not sure how I'm going to manage without food for 14hrs for it though?! I can barely stand going a few hours without food at the moment! Anyone else can't stop eating?

Going back into work for two days this week - to hand everything over and close the chapter on past few months of crap at work. I'm looking forward to it in a way - I'm hoping it will be cathartic and I can just move past it and be happy that this has happened for a reason

Big wave to all the blooming spring mums!

Oh and monkey what an awful midwife. I'd write a complaint letter about that - there's no need for humiliation like that

Had my 24 week check today, all fine and growing nicely despite everyone (and their dog) commenting on how neat my bump is! Baby was wriggling around as usual but the MW couldn't get the handheld thing to work for the heartbeat so had to get another one. By the time she did I'd got worked up about it and burst into tears when we finally heard it! Seem to spend a lot of time in tears thanks to these pesky hormones!

Monkey I don't carry my notes and haven't been told to do so either. That was uncalled for and most unacceptable and I wouldn't want her delivering my baby either.

hi all...
cheeseandgherkins.....massive massive hugs to you today.....hope you have some good memories in there somewhere too, it must be the most horrendous thing for you...
monkey...definately make a complaint....and i would also specify that you do not want her anywhere near you again..you DO have a right to refuse to have her near you, and the hospital will have to find someone else...no-one ever tells pregnant women their rights, i am on no5 and have JUST found out that i have the absolute right to refuse internal exams during labour and midwives have 2 other ways to check how far along you are.....and i have never carried my notes around either.
i am really struggling to sleep lately...not a problem getting to sleep but i need the loo several times a night and i find it impossible to get back to sleep after about 2am...my bedtime is getting earlier to compensate.
i am feeling really disorganised about christmas and wondering just how i am getting to get everything done, we have built up some lovely family traditions over the years but they do involve time and energy, and i am permanently shattered.....how is everyone else getting along with preps?
26+4.....i hit third trimester this friday....how did that happen so fast?