TTC a 2012 baby - the GRADUATES!

[Carlitawantsababy]

As requested/suggested this is a thread for those graduating from the TTC a 2012 baby -this is our year thread! Bring your BFPs and get yourselves comfy

Exactly ghost! I haven't had a single day off either and my boss is very understanding but still was pushing myself to go in so I could be of most help! Occupational hazard of working in social care I guess - I care too much!

Carlita then you have much more reason to push it than me - the books won't mind if I'm not there

Having posted that I started to feel a bit dizzy and tearful, so got all my work done and left at 4pm - it's quiet because loads of my US colleagues are out for Thanksgiving. Just had a nap on the sofa and feel a million times better! So maybe I am learning from all the sensible MN types after all

Trope Yay for all your good news!! Bet your DP was standing taller (not that he needs too) after being told all that!

Davina so sorry to hear about the talent programme, it must have been horrible having to make that decision.

Mamma what a perfect day to have your scan, very fitting Glad you're getting a good standard of care too!
The guy with the iPhone app is lovely! Well, I don't know if he is but the story certainly is!

Gosh Ghost, I hope things are looking up since that horrible weekend and that your SIL gets the help she needs Completely understand the way you're feeling about it though, this is your pregnancy and you deserve for it to be a happy and exciting time (said with a bitter glare at my family and friends )

Carlita, good for you re decided to work from home - it is doubtlessly the right thing to do. It's awful being in that much pain Have you heard back about physio yet? My PGP has definitely settled since my physio appointments even though I've not had any joint manipulation, just been doing lots of pelvic floor exercises.

Thanks for the good luck wishes for my midwife appointment
blood pressure - perfect
urine glucose test - perfect
uterus measurements - perfect
weight gain - ideal for my pre-preg weight
baby's heartbeat - perfect.

But this of course isn't good enough! Because my BMI pre-reg is that one point higher than 'they' would like, it's apparently imperative that I go for a glucose blood test ASAP

Am so and and ! I should have been able to come out of that appointment feeling great about everything but instead I came out feeling awful.

Evening all! Hope you're all well. I'm actually feeling quite ok this evening - best I've felt since a week last Monday in fact, so I'm either going to feel shocking tomorrow or (really hope!) I might actually be getting over this virus, which will be good as I could do with getting back to work really.

Sounds like you had a fabulous weekend trope. How did the scan go? Are you sharing photos?? . That's fantastic work news for your DP - one less thing for you worry about and amazing he is so valued!

Hope you're feeling better Mamma - cant believe you only took 1.5 paracetamol! I feel like I should have taken shares in it, the way I've been taking them . Congrats on the 11 weeks and glad your booking in app went well - yay for scan date already! I'm sure your Gran will be watching over you

Sorry about your rubbish weekend ghost It's a small relief to not be monopolising all the vent space on the thread for once, but of course I wish things were better for you Carlita put it very well though. And we are here to listen and offer sympathy, decaf and , so hopefully we can fill the gap while SIL gets what she needs. How long before DH is back? Do you know when the NHS support for SIL will materialise?

How's the hypnobirthing book Carlita? trope comments on dpeed reading made me giggle! So sorry you're not well, but glad to hear about your decision to put you & your lovely baby first. It's so hard, making work decisions like that. I was quite relieved once I'd made mine (although am sure there are others to come). I'm the same as you ghost - it is lovely to have that support but I do feel like I'm taking advantage even though I know I'm not, and I genuinely need the time off

Oh Bun what a nightmare - great news that all your results are perfect, but that's rubbish they made you feel so crap for the sale of 1 bloody point!!! Sorry - pregnancy hormones getting to me I think! Have they booked you in for a test, or do you have to make an appointment? And what happens when the results come back perfect like the rest? Is that it? Will they leave you alone? I hope so - have some to help cheer you up, and try to focus on all the positives.

Anyway best go to bed as its really late and I need to be up for either work or ringing the doctors to get an app - nite all

Hi Davina, great that you're feeling more yourself today - fingers crossed it's the beginning of the end of that nasty bug

Midwife tried booking me in for a test but couldn't get through so has left it up to me. She was trying to get me to go to the hospital to do a full glucose tolerance test which would mean me and DS having to sit around for 2-3 hours and have my bloods taken twice (which would be from my hand as I have shite veins) which I flat out refused to do. So she 'compromised' with a Lucozade test at my GP.
I assume that'd be the last I'd hear of it if the test comes back fine - can't see what else they could throw at me...
Thanks for the
One good thing coming from this is that I'll be getting an extra scan at 34weeks - go extra BMI point! She only mentioned it in passing and I was too pissed off to think about it at the time so don't know if she's going to refer me or if I need to book it - will have to call her next week if I've not heard anything as 34 weeks is only 3 weeks away(!) and she's only in on Tuesdays.

Sorry, hopefully this will be the last of my ranting until next time. Just feel really down about it all - wish they'd just let me enjoy (what is probably going to be my last) pregnancy without making me feel like a 50stone leper that's inevitably harming my baby in some way (they just haven't found it. Yet.) I'm a size 16 for goodness sake!

God that full glucose test sounds horrendous! I suppose they're only making sure their backs are covered but it doesn't make it any easier for for you and your 1 point . Good news for the extra scan though! I've got one at 32 weeks to check out my placenta position and am really looking forward to it as well as ignoring any problems that might come out of it Got to think positively and there's nothing I can do about it anyway, so no point in worrying

Try to keep your chin up, although I know it's hard. And plenty of ranting room left on this thread anyway

And if we do run out we'll just start another thread

right, first things first, bun don't you dare let this stupid bitch of a midwife spoil anything for you! Your little girl is doing brilliantly which means that you are doing brilliantly and some stupid number on a scale means diddly squat! Seems to me like they're looking for problems that aren't there. I reckon this is more about your midwife having an ideological issue with "high" BMIs than anything to do with you personally. Sod her. Sod your friends & family that aren't excited. Sod them all - we're excited for you and you and your DP and DS are excited - that's all that matters! You're doing great and you should be happy and enjoying this pregnancy! Do the stupid test, when it's fine you can feel totally vindicated and forget all about this nonsense. And on the bright side, you get an extra scan! So that's pretty damn awesome!! Life is way too short to let other people bring you down!

carlita so sorry you're in so much pain :( Sounds like switching to working at home was the right decision. I totally understand how hard it is to admit you can't carry on; I had a bad arthritis flare in 2007 that left me barely able to walk (to give you an idea of how barely able.. it took me 20mins to walk to the end of my road then, I can now do it in about 30 seconds) and I kept on going into work up in town until the day came when I simply couldn't stand up anymore. I took 2 weeks off work then went back. I was a complete martyr and it was a terrible decision, but I am/was hopeless at admitting I needed to stop. The really stupid thing was I'd already learnt this lesson once before, when I first got sick, but I think when you get well again you "unlearn" it - iykwim! Well done for making that call - I hope you find life much easier now you can work at home in your PJs!

Sounds like all of us have a hard time saying when we need some rest / support! I think when you're used to being someone who copes, it's hard to be sensible and rest up sometimes! ghost napping on the sofa is great, isn't it! I had a nap yesterday and woke up with it dark outside and raining - was so cosy!

davina hope you're feeling better today!

mamma aw, the guy on the train sounds sweet! How lovely that he's sat looking like that!

Well, we had the 20 week scan and as with the 12 week one, fuzzy was a wriggly little monster who point blank refused to co-operate!! But, after a break & a walk we managed to get the last few checks done and fuzzy has been given the all clear! Hurrah! Photos aren't great i'm afraid as fuzzy just wouldn't stay still - but i've stuck them up on my profile anyway!
Whenever the sonographer tried to get a look at fuzzy's face (to check for cleft palate) fuzzy put their hands over their face - much like you might if you hated having your photo taken! Was very funny! Fuzzy also sucked their fingers (SO CUTE!) and bent their legs up so their toes were touching their forehead and grabbed at their toes in a very clear and determined fashion! Was just amazing!
I particularly loved getting to see the chambers inside fuzzy's heart, with the colour on to show the blood pumping about! Just incredible!
The only thing that worried me slightly was that fuzzy's weight has dropped right down to the bottom of the scale for their gestation, so I want to talk to my obstetrician about that on Monday. I had a hunch this might be the case, so want to get my weight checked and find out of there's anything more I could be doing to help fuzzy along. e.g. check that i'm eating enough etc. It's nothing to properly worry about yet - but as low birth weight is the main potential side effect of one of my medications I want to make sure we're keeping a close eye on it/doing all we can!

Oh - and ..... fuzzy is a he! Can't be 100% certain, but the sonographer said she was at least 90% sure! As daft as it sounds, as it's pretty much a 50/50 thing, I just thought I was having a girl. I've always pictured me with a daughter - now I have to get used to the idea that I shall be the mother of a son! I'm gutted that I won't get to use Indigo as a name (silly, I know)! We shall have to get a pet fish and call it indigo! Whilst we do like Arlo for a boy, we just don't love it the way I loved Indigo for a girl - so we have 20 weeks (or less!) to come up with an awesome boys name!

Now we just have to avoid calling fuzzy "he" around friends/family! (We aren't sharing the sex with anyone except you lovely lot!)

trope those pictures are AAAAMMMMMAAAAAZZZZIIIINNNNGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Even though Fuzzy is a bit fuzzy, it's still really clear. Everything just so clearly formed. I'm totally amazed at how quickly we make these babies! What a cheeky chappy moving around so much but moving around is GOOD! Let us know what you can do about the weight. I'm thinking that Blubes is going to be just fine weight-wise. Am still making sure i'm eating good food (today 1 yoghurt, 3 satsumas, 1 pot of pineapple, pasta salad and a pain au chocolat as a treat!) but i'm eating soooo much of it! I now can't do up my work trousers. Can only get the zip up and no buttons, thank god i have a strong zip!

Also a really scary thing happened today. Spotted on Amazon that on the Black Friday deal at 3.15pm there was a pack of 6 Tommee Tippie bottles going for £11 (down from £20 ish). Sent the link to DP and tentatively suggested we get them BECAUSE THEY'RE ON OFFER. I thought he'd freak, but he just told me to get them. So i did!!!!! 1st baby-related thing we've bought. Oh ggaawwwwwwwddddddddd.

Bun i echo everyone elses comments on not letting the stupid midwife spoil the rest of your pregnancy. Just look at the bright side of things, another scan to see your little babba!!

trope glad to see you're back on form with the epic posts - no idea how you have the energy or focus but it's great that someone is keeping track!

And congratulations on your (probable) baby boy - how fab! my baby was a real wriggler for the scan too so we had to take a walk before the sonographer could get a look at the face, and the photos are not great - in fact worse than the 12 week ones! But if this baby stays transverse then in all likelihood I will be getting a 35 week scan too... let's wait and see on that front, scan good, transverse bad!

bun that all sounds a bit stressful but great to hear about the additional scan. It sounds bonkers to quibble over a BMI of 26 (I think that's what you said - one over, right?). My BMI was 24/25 just before the pregnancy (I like to think it's because I was mighty with muscle from all the sport!) but I've put on an outrageous amount of weight - surely that's the thing to worry about, not a couple of pre-pregnancy pounds here and there! And no one has weighed me since something like 24 weeks.... even with the high blood pressure. and I never ask to be weighed because I have ishooos and would rather avoid it.

mamma I have been eating like a mad person lately - I felt desperate for lunch at 11.30 and that was after having had porridge and a slice of toast for breakfast, plus a cereal bar at 10.30! Well done on the healthy eating - but just wanted to point out that the fruits/yogurt etc are actually quite high GI so burn fast and aren't as calorie/efficient as more boring lower GI fruits like apples etc. I don't mean to make you feel bad at all and your diet sounds a lot healthier than mine at the moment (and I'm a pineapple fiend too!) so there's no need to worry, but you might look into including a few more low GI foods to stabilise your sugar intake and make the most of the calories you're eating. I was reading all about it in my book by Yehudi Gordon last night and feeling guilty because I love dates and bananas and they're all a bit fast-burning to be counted as properly healthy, apparently...

Is it wrong that I have a mental image of me shaking some pom poms and cheering to tropes rant? Fab scan photos - glad you had a lovely scan. Good to get the advice on the weight as well - let us know how you get on.

You're being so good Mamma I'm rubbish diet wise . I do try to be healthy but am not always very successful....
Like your first baby purchase - I always recommend TT Closer to Nature bottles. They were great for DS. No nipple confusion either, which I was glad of when I went back to work at just before 6 months, as I could keep bf right up til 12 months.

Sounds like we've lots of very wriggly babies on this thread! Fingers crossed that baby ghost is transverse right up to the day of the 35 week scan (just to make sure you get your extra scan), then turns round & stays head down up until his/her birthday

Thanks for the tip ghost. indeed a very good point to keep a mental check on even the "good stuff" going in. But I reckon I'm doing ok as I vary the fruit I'm munching. Some days I'm mad on berries, esp blueberries, and other days I could happily munch a whole tray (4) of apples. Then other days it's all about the dried fruit and nut/seed mix bags. Have also got a bit of a taste for spinach and asparagus at the moment. Scrumptious. Size 8-10 is going to become a distant memory! Am totally with you on the pineapple though, it just tastes sooooo good. At the mo it's the one thing I'm finding hard to deny myself. I think I'll have a read up on GI though because it's good for me to be aware of what's limitless and what's for cravings

Oohhh can't wait for dinner now!

Btw - anyone seen anything of Piggy lately? She seems to have been a quiet lately. Hope everything's on with you, if you're reading!

Aww thanks everyone! you made me smile! I've stopped being quite so hormonal now and am just happy in the knowledge that bump and I are doing well. Will book the blood test tomorrow and get it over with.
Was considering changing midwives but this one is lovely in general, just completely lacking the common sense required to take BMI's with a pinch of salt, so still undecided on that one - will see how I feel when I speak to her about the results (they'll be sent to her)

Trope CONGRATULATIONS! on your lovely news! Boys are delicious Keep us updated on the name choices Fab scan pics too!

Mamma congratulations on your first baby related purchase! the first of many!

In other news, DS is going great guns with the old potty training. He's had no accidents in two days now and is sitting on the potty with no prompting from me . He's being rather cunning with his #2's though and saving them up for when he's got a nappy on at night! So more fun and carpet scrubbing to come in order to master the poo I fear! God, that's been fun whilst nearly 7 months pregnant with PGP I can tell you!

bun you sound happier! Good! Well done on the potty training, sounds like a great success so far!
trope congratulations and welcome to the blue team! Boys names are much harder! Until I got pregnant I always thought of my child as a girl too and have lots of gorgeous girls names. Am really looking forward to finding out all about boys (I have a sister, I know nothing) and watching DH with his son, he is so excited about fishing and sailing and camping etc.
mamma sounds very healthy, well done! You sound like you're on really good form.
I was also thinking about piggy...
I was only speed reading the hypnobirthing book (theory)! I have the course notes and CD for actual relaxation. I did it this afternoon and fell asleep! Wee man was going mad as I was relaxing, it was amazing!

davina are you still feeling better? I'm now completely better, thank goodness! Was horrid!

Hey Guys. Can I ask you all a question about your BFP's. I have been TTC since March with no success! Had sort of stopped thinking about it until last night when realised AF was due but not arrived. I did a sneaky test and i got a very faint positive line. It was faint but def there. I went to bed not really believing what I had seen and very unsure. I tested again this morning and again got a very faint positive line! By now im obsessed so tested again and again very faint positive HOWEVER did 2 more and line is even fainter if barely there at all! My urine may have been like water at this point lol! Anyone experienced this before?

I do have slightly tender breasts and last couple of days felt a bit iffy but dont know if its in my head! Ive tested plenty of negatives before so know what a BFN looks like and 3/5 tests def had a line all be it VERY faint.

Im rambling now apologies! Any thoughts would be great! x

p.s ive been using the cheapo tests from amazon !

Hi mrsmamma it sounds good to me! May I be the first to offer my congratulations!
The mantra is 'a BFP is a BFP' no matter how faint - it's very rare to get a false positive, especially multiple false positives
Maybe go and by yourself a digital test (££ but worth it, imo for the peace of mind) and do it tomorrow morning. Then you'll have it plain as day in writing.

Wishing you lots of luck! Come back and let us know please ...or stay with us and vent out all the obsessing you'll be doing about it today!

Congratulations mrsmamma!!! Sounds very much like a BFP to me several times over! Just 1 word of caution with the CB Digital...with my first pregnancy i tested on a CB digi when i was about 5 days late. Got a BFN and was really bummed about it. When AF was about 9 days late i was getting quite annoyed and tested on an Amazon cheapo and got a BFP clear as day. So perhaps save the CB digi for a couple more days and keep peeing on the cheapo tests and then crack open the digi :o Exciting stuff!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks guys! I'm just on my break n completely OBSESSED!!! Testing this morn at work n just on lunch n appear negative! I'm so confused! Anyone ever had this! I'm refusing to get excited but am so obsessed! Also thoughts on should I mention to dh tonight ? Don't wNt to build his hopes up??? Ahhhh

Sorry me again just rechecked my lunch time test taken 15 mins ago n there is now a line???(again faint) Is it too late to count?? I can't tell anyone n it's driving me mad!

mrsmamma we haven't had this sort of excitement in a while! yes, I'm pretty sure you're pregnant! Congratulations! I didn't quite believe it for a few days either as lines were so faint and yes, had a couple of tests which were either majorly faint or false negatives in between just like you. I'm definitely preggers though! I strangely, had stronger lines with afternoon urine. Not peeing at all for 3 hours or so then testing at 4 or 5pm, you could try that too! I used cheapies for about 3 days then did the digi to confirm. I did tell DH on the second day of testing but men often don't get the line is a line rule, he thought it was very faint - didn't believe it till I did the digi, then again I suppose I didn't fully either. Point is you DO get false negative where as you DON'T get false positives (v rarely anyway and not repeatedly!) the only 'risk' is if you've tested too early and have a chemical pregnancy but this doesn't sound like the case from your intro! So, rub your belly and enjoy peeing on sticks until you're convinced I say!

hi mrsmamma - a lot of tests have different sensitivities to the pregnancy hormone so that would explain the varying results. As others have said, false positives are very rare, so you should certainly be optimistic, but it won't help to keep testing as you are doing. The hormone needs to build up in your urine so you need to wait several hours without peeing, preferrably overnight, before testing again to get a sensible result.

And you'll need to read the instructions with your test but I suspect it says to discount any results received after 5 mins

we'll keep fx for you though!

Ooh how exciting mrsmamma - Congratulations! Sounds like a positive to me Lunchtime one might be a bit late but I'm certainly no expert on them I'm afraid. Both times I've used the digi ones they've come up positive at 5 days late (1 was Boots own & 1 CB). But a friend of mine has had to wait until she was 2 months late before she gets her positive (both times!). Best bet might be to just to the docs and get a blood test if they will do that for you?

Personally I'd tell DH but that's more because I couldn't keep quiet! Let us know how you get on!

Yes thanks Carlita am back at work today, although my boss has already threatened me with cotton wool & bubble wrap . It's so nice to feel normal again!