"I'm a July baby.....GET ME OUTTA HERE!!!!"

[JimmyChoo17]

hi ladies fresh new thread in which hopefully we will ALL have our babies happy and healthy on the right side of our bellies by the time it comes round to a fresh new July new born thread :)

I mean 6lb 10oz of course!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations Badger but sorry to hear you had such a tough time - sounds very similar to my first - waters broke, immediate ongoing pain, no dilation, morphine then syntocin then epidural and 35 hours after ROM, DD was born - I was lucky in that she was turning on the way out so made it out alone, but the trauma of the experience hasn't gone away so take care of yourself and let the pieces put themselves together as they can.

Sorry I've not been on much but been busy with my parents being here and had lots of stupid pain that has made me feel miserable.

Seems like I might finally be in the early stages now though as had lots of painful contractions last night and a few today. Nothing regular yet though so just trying to carry on as much as normal until they ramp up a bit. Know it could be days yet though so trying not to get too excited just yet!!

Will try and catch up properly soon. Hope all you new mums are enjoying having your little ones at last and those still waiting aren't going too stir crazy!

Officially overdue and just walked about 5 miles, nothing happening though.
Button- Could you have a few days in bed with your baby? Lots of skin to skin and just concentrate on feeding?
Congratulations Badger and sorry it was such a difficult time.
S x

Been a while since I last posted. Feeding is still an issue for Anna as she has terrible wind. Each feed results in about half a dozen burps and then a flury of bottom burps which are long and loud. The doctor suggested a different bottle and that we try gripe water to help her. I didn't want to give it to her but I got desperate after she spent a day screaming between feeds. The bottles have not made a difference but the gripe water has!

Anna has grown out of two outfits already. I was so sad putting them in the newborn storage box and told myself that they were only small on her because they shrunk in the wash!

We're having a bad day today :( Henry has spent the whole day feeding, crying and pooing! I'm absolutely exhausted and keep crying myself. So much for sleeping when he sleeps - the maximum time he slept for today was 20 minutes! I keep trying to tell myself that tomorrow will be a better day. I don't know what I was expecting but I didn't think it would be this tough

PS congrats Badger and hope things are starting mini!

Badger congratulations. Hope you are now recovering well.

Spanner I know how you feel I've had several days like that with Lily. It will probably be a growth spurt, and they only last a couple of days usually. It is really hard though. We've had a bit of a day today, as Lily has bad wind and she cried most of the day when not feeding.

Evening all..

congrats badger, sorry it was a traumatic experience hope you are resting and recovering well.

Everyone keeps telling me how well i look, and fitted in normal trousers today made me so so happy!

Spanner each day is so so different with a newborn. Isla slept all day yesterday but was so good last night. Tonight i think she is getting dh's horrible cold I hate it when tinies get colds as not much you can do for them. I can see us all being ill by next week, that will be fun!

Take care all xx

Still up, feeding of course!!

Congratulations badger!

Feeling rubbish today. Hormonal and tearful, and uncomfortable.
S x

Scar hurts. Head was getting better but bad again. Ears are fked. Sore right nipple.

Just thought I'd join in the grumps :(

Baby Oliver is doing brilliantly and only woke 2 times past couple of nights! Still trying to treat the spinal issues

Badger sorry to hear u had a rough time. Hope u r bearing up ok x

Who else had a c section? Have u put anything on your scar? It's a little weepy after sneezing the other day...not looking infected but wondering if it's an idea to put something like savlon on? No idea. I keep forgetting I have got it and have been resting baby on belly whilst I'm feeding which probably hasn't helped.

So who is left to deflate now? Glad I've got my bundle just starting to feel the toll of everything that happened and wishing it was a bit more of a joyous couple of weeks especially as hubby has been off dealing with this too.

Hope everyone had a good weekend!

Henry went 4hrs between feeds overnight (still 2hrly during the day) so I feel like I had a reasonable sleep last night :) although I've got a lot of pain in my right boob today, it feels like it's been stabbed! I've got a bit of a crack in the nipple so I'm hoping it's that rather than thrush.

For those of you who have had boys before, is there any way to stop them weeing on themself when you change their nappy? I've tried opening the nappy up to get cold air on his bits then covering him over again for a minute or so but he still wees on himself/me at least once a day!

Spannerpants, they do grow out of it! Blowing lightly on the Willy helps them to do the wee straight away, I also used to put a muslin over it for a few mins to avoid the jet stream!

Spanner I have great memories of my boys peeing everywhere when they were little. DS2 once peed right over the top of his head and up the wall by the changing table.

You just need to be really quick.

I've been trying to put a cotton wool pad over it so if he does wee at least it points down into the nappy but it's difficult when he's wriggling and kicking - particularly in the middle of the night when I'm half asleep!

Gosh all this talk of willy wees is making me laugh! And I sure need one tonight.

Had wet knickers last night so put a pad in to monitor for waters breaking. Nothing overnight, but lots of pain - not contractions though - just baby moving. Then woke up this morning to some spotting and watery blood. Rang labour ward who recommended I come in for monitoring. Because of the blood had to see a Dr who took a vaginal swab and agreed it was mostly mucous so was most likely my plug. Had a scan to check baby was ok and that showed that my liquor levels were low so now booked in for induction at 8am tomorrow morning unless labour happens before then. Absolutely devastated that after all this time and being so close (40+1 today) my homebirth looks like it's gone and instead I'm going to end up with a cascade of intervention again. I may refuse induction when I go in and request to self-monitor for infection at home. I just can't believe that having spent all this time preparing for a home birth they're going to take it away from me right at the last minute.

Have eaten lots of pineapple and been bouncing on birth ball all afternoon in the hope it might help and might get the breast pump out in a minute to try that in sheer desperation but not looking good. My notes describe my cervix as long and closed which isn't exactly what I want! Think tonight is going to be a long one. Keep trying not to cry but so hard and DP gets angry everytime I mention how upset I am when really all I want is a big hug and to be told it will all be ok (and I know as long as I end up with a healthy baby in my arms it will be), but I am just so disappointed not to have the natural birth I so wanted especially as this is my last chance.

Sorry for the me post but as one of the few still waiting to meet my baby I feel almost cheated now that they're going to rush it along.

Hope all the new mummies and their families are doing well and adjusting to life with a newborn!

Minicorrect I was devastated at first when my waters broke early and I realised I couldn't have a home birth. If its any help, I had a low intervention labour despite being in hospital and needing monitoring and a drip during labour. It was calmer and I felt more in control than with my first child, who was born at home.
It is tough being in hospital, I know, but hopefully whatever happens you will be over the moon when you cuddle that little one in your arms!
Good luck x

Thanks for the reassurance cara. Unfortunately, despite my contractions starting at 02.00 and gradually ramping up ever since - now around 4-5 mins apart and 1 min in duration - homebirth midwife on call advised that as ROM has been more than 24 hours now, I have to go in for IV antibiotics and a hospital birth and there's no other option available. I argued that antibiotics were only effective if there was an infection and asked if there was an option for oral antibiotics but she said I'd need to speak to the dr when I go in.

So despite everything, due to waters breaking (and that seemingly being the only risk factor) I'm not going to get a home birth.

Is there ANYTHING at all I can do? Doesn't seem as though I'll even be able to labour at home. And what about discharging post-birth - I am not willing to stay in again and see my baby undergo all the tests (including lumbar puncture) that DD went through post-birth.

From feeling calm and positive overnight I now feel depressed, stressed and angry which I know is not the way to manage labour successfully.

Any advice at all is more than welcome. So fed up :(

Hi Mini, are you still about?
I have had clients go in for iv antibiotics and then come home.
You need to speak to a supervisor.
You can also refuse the antibiotics if you want and just stay home. (especially if you dont have any signs of infection like a temperature).
www.gentlebirth.org/archives/prom.html
www.homebirth.org.uk/gbs.htm
www.midwifery.org.uk/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=227:prelabour--prolonged-rupture-of-membranes&catid=91:hidden-archives&Itemid=110
PM me if you want a quick chat on the phone for support.S x

I typed a good long post then my connection went down and its all gone!

The gist was that after a screaming row considered discussion on Saturday DH has been a lot more supportive. I reminded him that the last few months have been no walk in the park since he lost his job and then set up with a colleague, that looking after all the kids on my own while he's away is no fun, that I sacrificed some income and lots of my normal activities to be about to help him, we've been existing on a v small shoestring etc. That I need his support on this issue and I would like it - please.

I still don't think he's 'got it' in terms of why it's so important to me but he's saying the right things now at least.

So, dds are staying with my mum all week, my sister is bringing them home on Sunday. DH is in London til Fri, so it's just me and the boys (feels great saying that - I'm a mum of sons, plural!) this week (and the dog). A bit scary but also lovely to be spending some time with ds1 as he's been the most affected emotionally I think. He's got his mate's party to look forward to tomorrow as well.

So things are looking up, I hope. MW is coming around 1pm today to weigh. I'm hoping for an increase, but if not, I'll be resisting any intervention for another few days. He's alert, contented (apart from the evenings - I think we may be in for our first colicky baby ) and weeing and pooing loads so he's obv getting enough food to produce a good output.

In fact, my aunt and uncle (both GPs) and sister (neonatal anaesthetist) all checked him over this weekend and say he's looking grand so not to worry too much about the weight just yet. Which made me feel a lot, lot better.

Cake and to those in need of a little cheering up.

Oh, forgot to add, my sister has lent me her Kari-Me wrap. I've tried the huggy position (front wearing) but I'm going to try the cuddly position (lying down for feeding) later. Anyone got any experience?

If I get on with it I might be tempted to get another one from ebay - they're dirt cheap on there and v easy to wash, not like baby bjorn types!

I lost my post that typed up last night.

Not had time to read through everything but took a quick gander on this page.

Jimmy I was told to not put anything on the scar and to 'air' it as much as possible. As I had a room to myself I hoisted up my nightie and pulled down the top of my knickers. This helped to dry things out. I was glued on the top so I don't see any stiches. Not sure if this is how they do things in the UK. Also, only showers for 8-12wks after, no swimming or baths. DH is annoyed by the extra laundry generated but I use a clean towel for each shower. It is bloody hot here so I have 2 showers a day.

We applied for Annas Danish passport last week and her American passport today. She screamed the house down each time due to them taking forever to process her application. You would think a crying baby would speed things up a little, but no, instead we were asked to wait outside as we were disturbing the peace!

Feeding is still touch a go. We are now trying a formula for sensative tummys. Between that and gripe water we hope to get control of the gas situation....

Had some show and frequentish contractions all day, but doesnt seem to be progressing, so hoping to get a nights sleep and that it kicks ff again tomorrow!

want2be when I formula fed and DS1 had colic I tried small drinks of weak cooled fennel tea, which helped with both wind and if it's still really hot over there with extra fluid. Is she constipated at all? This would help that too.
To anyone waiting I was kept up 'til midnight feeding a grumpy BabyTwit and he hasn't really slept much so far today wanting lots of feeds and I am knackered. He is due his 6 week spurt though. Swings and roundabouts really isn't it?
Good luck to you all.

He is smiling though which helps.....