Jue in June -Waters breaking everywhere and not a drop of Gaviscon to drink...

[NurseSunshine]

Here's another :)

Aww Prisoner (((hugs))) Make sure you take it easy, you need rest and cuddles with Cormac rather than trooping round the supermarket! And make people come and visit you not the other way round. I hope DP is looking after you both. Glad your nips are OK

Awwww Prisoner what a lovely post.
My DS was exactly like that too - slings saved my life as they gave him the closeness, holding and heartbeat that he needed

Talking of slings, Celeste has been in one most of the day which allowed me to have DD1's birthday party in the house. V tiring but she had a great day.
We had a lovely bath together - used Weleda calendula baby stuff in it and she smells delicious now.

Really trying to catch up on thread but a couple of busy days is making it difficult...

Oh Citizen - congratulations. Absolutely LOVE the name - was on my boy list, along with Gabriel (I already have a Michael)

Goodness me Knackered - so sorry about the difficulties poor Dexter has had (((((())))))

Hello all,

so much for mothers intuition, our boy turned out to be a little girl! Baby Rosalinde was born on Thursday morning. We are totally in love with her.

Will catch up on the messages and post her birth story,

I'm still making sense of all this, so a long me, me, me post about the birth and a bit of a F* up! Not totally coherent!

I went in to be induced last tuesday and after 4 rounds of prostaglandins thought I'd gone in to labor early hours of Thursday morning. After 45 mins (and a missed routine induction monitoring slot) I was examined and was 1cm dilated. After that, despite mine and DPs best efforts to convey the amount of pain I was in, and the frequency of contractions, the teflon mw on duty remained totally convinced that as a first timer I had hours and hours to go. They wouldn't arrange to transfer me to delivery suite for pain relief, told me not to bother taking my blood sugar and kept telling me, or telling DP to get me, to lie on the bed and get some rest.

Finally got them to examine me again internally 3 hours later as I couldn't stop bearing down during ontractions-they were tutting and expecting me to still not be in active labour. I had already felt the head in the membrane sac just inside my vagina and of course there was real panic and I was transferred immediately to the delivery suite where 10 mins later I was giving birth.

I couldn't stop crying afterwards at how close I'd come to delivering my beautiful girl alone in a toilet and at how shoddily we'd been treated- I was classed as a high risk pregnancy and had had to come to terms with the fact I was going to have a highly monitored birth and be on sliding scale. We'd had none of that and we're okay only by luck.

However, the care given before and especially after the birth was good. I was quite distressed and was treated with real kindness and consideration by staff and the ward sister offered to meet me afterwards to discuss things. Didn't take it up with her but we've written down everything we remember and think we will send these notes to my consultant and see what sort of response we get. We're grateful we have a lovely, healthy daughter and I want to be constructive but am waiting to see how emotionally we'll handle everything in the next few weeks after the immediacy dies away. I think I need some kind of explanation about what happened.

Yawn, must sleep! X

Been awake for 2 hours :( no reason, just can't sleep :(

Wow - lots of new babies over the last few days. Congratulations CMH. Labella, Tabitha, Jimper, Citizena and NoToast.

Has anyone got an updated list fo the babies that have been born??

NoToast - am shocked at how you were treated in hospital. It seems so difficult to get heard sometimes.

Millie - I have the same issue re. sleep - have been up since 4.30 - horrible isn't it.

I just want my baby now :(

Looking forward to updates from Joanne, Jasmine and Almighty! Is there anyone else currently in labour??

Im not in labour! Wish I was but no signs, could be weeks yet!

Thanks coaaf, 8rd and neenewps - just wanted to get it off my chest. My mum is really lovely and I have a good relationship with her 99% of the time but she can be extremely controlling and very un-self-aware about it. She's got a lot better in the last couple of years, partly thanks to my brilliant step-dad getting involved, but I think I'm just afraid that in her excitement about the baby (which is obviously a good thing) it's going back out the window and she's going to crush me again and undermine my confidence so that she can insinuate herself into a position where I need her. Can't believe how similar your mum sounds 8rd! I hope we're all a bit calmer when it's our turn to be grandparents!!!

Anyway, I'm mainly on here to say congratulations to all the ladies who've had their babies :) We're popping like candy now! Loving all the birth stories, though I am still so about the way barbie was treated and now notoast has had a similar experience! I know that mws see women all day every day and it must be tempting to think there are just some women who are over-reacting or whatever, but in my book they should never give in to the temptation to judge a woman like that. For us these are the most important (and scary) days in our lives and we should be taken seriously whatever we feel and whether we are right or wrong doesn't really matter! Especially when, as in both your cases, you were 100% right and your babies were imminent!

Definitely been having twinges the last couple of days so I hope in the next week or so I might go. 39 weeks today though, so I could be hanging around here for three more weeks!

Lovely post prisoner :)

Really learning a lot from all the birth stories, so thanks to crumble and knackered too :) at all of you enjoying your babies already (though no at the sleepless nights/endless worry/general knackeredness etc. Will try to make the most of relative calm before the big day!)

Oh sorry Jasmine - I thought things had started for you... are you as impatient as me??!

I love waking up to more babies! Congratulations Notoast and CitizenOscar!!!! What lovely names... we all seem to have great taste .

NoToast so, so sorry about your experience - it is very similar to what happened to me when induced with ds, except not as extreme as you or Barbies experiences. I remember a midwife looking at me incredulously whilst I laboured hard, saying I had hours left yet as I wasn't even dilated 1cm. Hmmmm, this was about half an hour before another midwife examined me to find I was 10cm dilated. I felt quite powerless not being listened to, and made to feel a bit pathetic and weak for not being able to cope with my contraction pain. I remember the tutting from staff as well and found this particularly demeaning.

I also found the care I had afterwards on the maternity ward when ds was ill was so good it eclipsed what happened during my induction and labour, and I never complained or told anyone about my feelings surrounding the birth until later on, but I wish I had in retrospect, so I think going through it all with someone and letting your consultant know is a good idea.

Hope all are well this morning; nothing to report here overnight, I am going to try and rouse the energy to sort out breakfast in bed for DP for Fathers Day soon...

8rd - my show occurred a week before Cara was born. BTW am at your mum's CS section suggestion!!! Glad she came around though.

Couriselle - I started having similar feelings in the week before Cara was born, so it could be imminent but it could be a few days away. Just take things easy and be comfortable and take paracetamol if the pains get worse.

Joanne - fx you get your HB, sounds like things could be kicking off but there still could be hours or even days to go!

Jasmine, Moog - awww your time will come!!

TTL - Your mum sounds very over-excited, I don't blame you for not wanting loads of people to come straight after the birth! I found it a little bit of a strain with PILs but to be fair they did clear out quickly after we got back, and we did need them to look after the boys. As for the party, I guess your mum thinks she is doing you a favour? Would it be worth suggesting she help plan the party at your house (Since you are planning on having one anyway) so at least she can feel involved but you can still have it on your terms? I like Nurse's suggestion of emailing her.

Newneeps - DH trimmed my lady garden with his hedge trimmers hair clippers last weekend. Just in time

Confessions - you greedy so-and-so. But perhaps your body is telling you need the extra calories, and chocolate does stimulate the production of oxytocin!! As to your DH, he'll be so busy focusing on you that hopefully he'll find some relief from his own stresses. Must be tough on you both though.

Knackered - I think you win the award for most dramatic birth story, you and your DH were absolutely amazing! Sorry to hear of Dexter's problems, I hope he has a speedy recovery from his op, must have been a very scary few days for you and your DH!

Crumble - another lovely birth story and at you just making it to the delivery room. So pleased that it was such a positive experience!

Clarkiee - it must have been so hard being separated from your girls But you have them now and they are doing so well

Citizen - congratulations!! Love the name! How is Rafael doing? Has he started feeding? DD didn't have her first feed until about 6 hours after she was born because she was very mucousy due to the fast delivery. Hope you are feeling okay.

Prisoner - congrats to you too, and another great name!! I feel for you with regards to the sleeping, DD is actually very chilled and spreading her feeds out but Cormac sounds like DS when he was born, constantly on the boob and not wanting to be put down, it is exhausting but it does get better!! Main thing is to get plenty of rest park yourself on the sofa with the telly remote and hot and cold running snacks/drinks.

Sassamax - happy birthday to your dd1!

NoToast - and that you had such a poor experience pre-delivery, it sounds an awful like my experience with DS (which is why I was adamant I did not want to go back to the hospital where he was born). Gllad the PN was better! Totally agree with 8rd, I really regret not writing down and reporting my poor experience.

Supersunnyday - I had really sore hips as well when I was pg (that sounds really odd!!) hopefully you won't have much longer to wait!

No news from Almighty? Thinking of you if you can read but not post!

I'm still here!....just. further fanny rummaging about an hour ago and nice doctor days I don't need any more gel, and when a delivery room is available I'm off to have my waters broken, and straight onto the syntoxin drip! BUT they are very busy down there, and there are risks of the cord falling out with the water, so if that happens I'll be rushed off for a cs.
On another plus note, I most definitely don't have diabetes. Just like I've been telling them for months!

I'm really shocked at the treatment Barbie and Notoast received - that is just unacceptable. Why on earth were neither of you believed. Absolutely shocking

Thanks everyone for the messages, they've really made me feel supported. Kara and 8rd am sorry that you had similar experiences previously, it's good to know that you also think I should write to the consultant. Barbie can't believe that the same happened to you, reading your post has made me have a little cry, a big hug from me.

Yes, Knackered, you are the front runner for most dramatic birth story. Glad Dexter is doing well. Well done you and your DP, that must have been so difficult and frightening.

Almighty that is not a friend but a stress monkey clung to your back. Can we all work out a strategy for how you can get rid?

Sorry not read through everything else, hope all are well. Good luck to everyone in the waiting room.

Hope you're OK NoToast, thank goodness everything was OK in the end. Cannot believe they just dismissed you like that. I hope you get some "closure" from the consultant. I think it is important to be vocal about experiences like this if you're able as hopefully it will highlight the problem and prevent another woman recieving the same treatment.

Come on Almighty!! Hoping everything goes smoothly for you. Yay for not having diabetes!

Congratulations Oscar and NoToast! Thanks to those who have shared their birth stories. Please keep them coming, along with the posts about life with a newborn!

Still not really sure whether or not I'm in stop-and-start early labour. I had regular (every 5-7 minutes) contractions for about 3 hours on Friday night, and then more intense ones but further apart (every 10 minutes) for about 6 hours yesterday, but was eventually able to sleep both nights. The contractions didn't really hurt, but were intense and often accompanied by period-like cramps and/or stabby feelings in my cervix.

I've had similar contractions today, but not so regularly yet. I've decided to start ignoring them unless something changes, as it's driving me mad to get my hopes up and then nothing happens. It also doesn't help that my mum and DH keep getting very excited at every little twinge...I'm not mentioning these to them anymore unless they get significantly worse!

Good luck to anyone else who might be in labour!

knackered so sorry to hear about the bad time ur having with dexter! my ds age 4 now was born with diaphragmatic hernia as I've said before and when he was 6 weeks old he had malrotation of the bowel and had 2 have 2 thirds of his bowel cut away we were so close to losing him as they didn't know wot was wrong he was bringing up green sick, he was so unwell there was no time for tests so rushed him to theatre to cut him open and the bowel was twisting thank god for the quick thinking of his surgeon it was the worst day of my life!! I understand wot your going through my ds came on great after surgery as I said he also had other condition! Thinking of you and preying for speedy recovery for little dexter love the name!

Big congratulations to new babies and mummies!

Sophie great she just sleeps and eats ds loves her soo much! Df broke his foot at football on wed night so in cast up to knee and crutches! Can't do anything I have now been running abOut after him and 2 children while still recovering from c section!

Love reading all the birth stories and looking forward to reading more!

Morning all, just tried to catch up with the news. Congratulations to all those with babies to snuggle and good luck to those who are in labour......
lovely to read your birth stories.......
can i just point out that if you had a problem with medical care then you should speak to your consulatant but if it was the midwifes then you should speak to their supervisors. in my personal experience doctors will not be that interested in dealing with nursing issues but the senior midwife will be so that they can learn from it. All hospitals should have a PALS service that arrange meetings etc.........but i do feel that something should said be said as some of the experiences that have been written here are unacceptable.

Huge congratulations to citizen and notoast . No toast, I'm so sorry your experience was similar to mine - thank you so much for your kind words, i hope you're ok

Thank you once again to everyone else for, as usual, the massive amount of support and understanding, each message has meant the world and it really has helped to share with those who really understand.

I have to admit to feeling a little sad about the whole thing, I had a good few cries when I read back the texts dh had sent once he'd been sent home, when I stumbled across the contractions logged on the app on the phone when I noted the times and after whenever someone asks why did dh miss it. For this I feel like I need a huge kick in the bum, because ultimately Kate is healthy and well, I was able to take her home with me the next day, I'm fine and that really is all that matters.

I honestly think I would have got over the treatment/ being left alone/ the lack of any choices re pain relief etc/ her coming so quickly if dh had been there. The other stuff doesn't really bother me but the fact that he missed it is really upsetting me and I can't help feeling that way. Am also questioning and berating myself for being too passive and "nice" and not insisting more that he stayed.

Can't believe this time last week she was still on my stomach the week has flown by and now I can't imagine how we lived life before her. At the minute she's sleeping quite well at night - down at about half 9, waking at half 2ish, half 5ish and up at half 7. She makes up for it during the day though and literally feeds all day long - which is wonderful!. Had her heel prick and visit from phn on wednesday - am soooo glad that's over! She adores being swaddled and appears, so far to be a placid wee thing. She loves cuddles. Dd is absolutely amazed by her and often just stands over cot staring at her, ds us a little put out - but then he is only a baby - not jealousy, think he's too little but just wants to grab her and kiss her ( and throw the ball to her ) and can't understand why she's not responding.

mother how is Percy? And how are you? I can sympathise with the checking on breathing thing- I nearly drove myself insane with sleep deprivation doing this with dd1. I invested in an angel monitor for ds and it gave me huge peace of mind. I know not everyone agrees with them, as some would say they fuel the paranoia but I found it an absolute Gods send.

knackered and glizz thank you both so much for sharing your stories. I hope i don't sound terribly selfish and insensitive here but reading them has really helped me put into perspective my birth with dd and has been really helpful to me. Glizz- Sophie sounds like a little dote and I'm so glad she's such a joy to you. I'm sorry to hear about your dh's foot - you poor thing . Knackered, hope you're ok and I'm thinking of wee Dexter, sorry to head you had such a scary time.

nurse how's the itching?

crazy, am thinking of you, know you're very overdue right now.

Sounds like we may have a few new babies very soon

Hope all the new dads are enjoying their first fathers day.

Completely missed almightys post! The very best of luck!!

Gillz - oh no, your poor DS!!! And what a nightmare for you!

Life with a newborn - well dd cluster feeds then sleeps for 3-4 hour stretches. And poos for England....