The CBFM Graduates Vol 1

[StormBird]

We have got to know each other pretty well during our TTC journey's so have created this thread on Chocciechips advice (hope she doesn't mind!!) so we can all contintue to support one another through our pregnancies.

Welcome................

Harry all the best for your c-section. Will pop on after you have had it to find out the name, etc!! All the best,

Am a little bit nearer joining you, we have 4 eggs fertilised, transfer on sat if any survive and multiply until day 3. hope so!

Fantastic news Keziah

Mixed emotions for me at the moment. Had enough of dealing with the NHS with regards to the skin cancer - I have a private consultation on Saturday at 12.15 and may well be having the second operation in the afternoon depending how the consultation goes. So, I have to get myself through that before I can even start thinking about the section. Everyone keeps telling me that I'm really laid back about it and I suppose I am, psrtly because I've done it before but mostly because I have to have another operation 5 days before it.

I am starting to wash baby clothes today though and at least the house looks presentable - been decorating the lounge and the carpet was finally laid yesterday so at least the house doesn't look like a building site. I have a cleaner who comes in on a Friday morning (she's here now) so it'll all be clean and shiny in a few hours too. I have come to realise that I would happily go without food in order to have a cleaner .

I'm going to be super-organised and get all the baby stuff ready on the weekend, moses basket, steriliser etc because dp is away from Sunday night to Wednesday night (cutting it fie I know) and I want him to know how everything works so that we're good to go as soon as I geet back from hospital which should hopefully be on Saturday - fingers crossed!

I'll have my i-phone with me in hospital so if I have a signal, I'll post the details as they happen on Thursday .

Sorry about the typos - no excuse!

Harry I really admire you and how you're dealing with everything. Best of luck for Thursday. x

Harry - hope the operation goes well and that is the end of it!! xx

Thanks ladies - I think I've honestly been on auto-pilot for the last couple of weeks, it's the only way of getting through it.

Feeling a bit anxious about tomorrow actually - even more anxious than about the section. Ridiculous I know!

It'll be grat if I can get a signal in the hospital - I can give you a blow by blow account! Surgery doesn't start until 1pm and I'm not sure where I am on the list. I'm well aware that emergency sections will take priority but am sooooo hoping that I have my little one by the end of the day.

If you don't hear anything from me on Thursday, it'll be down to lack of signal - the hospital is in quite a rural area and I don't get any signal at all in ante-natal clinic when I go there, so we'll see. I'll want to know about your news too Keziah so keep us posted x

Hi Ladies,
Loup, I am so sorry to hear your news - sending you huge hugs xxxx

Harry, fingers crossed for everything - very exciting - the first thread baby!!!

Keziah, good luck and please keep us posted - I will have everything crossed for you!

xxx

Hi lovely ladies

Don't know who remembers me from CBFM volumes 3-5 but here I am in the graduates section. I did all my homework and looks like it worked. After nearly 2 years of TTC I got my BFP 19/3/11

Really early days but AGHHHHHHHHHHH!

So hello old friends. Looks like we'll all be getting a bit fatter.

Congratulations Missy* , how far along are you?

Tested on Sat so only 5 weeks. I'm going to my GP on Weds. It still doesn't seem real.

How far is everyone else?

Congrats missy - add yourself to the list if you fancy, I've just updated my EDD.

=== Graduates having Boys ===
Harry2007 DC#2, age 29 BFP (sometime in August!) - Planned c-section 24/3/11
StormBird DC#1, age 28, BFP 10/11/10 - EDD 14/7/11
AnytimeNow DC#3 age 39 BFP 20/11/10 - EDD 02/08/11

=== Graduates having Girls ===
MissLolita DC#1, age 32 BFP 30/10/10 - EDD 7/7/11

=== Graduates having a Surprise ( for now ) ===
Ilovekittyelise DC#1 (kind of) age 34 BFP 30/12/10 - EDD 11/09/11
Boba82 DC#1, age 28, BFP 07/01/11 - EDD 13/09/11
Chocciechip DC#1, age 39, BFP 1/01/11 - EDD 15/09/11

Congratualtions Missy , what fabulous news. You've made my Monday morning (cos before I read your post I was having an absolutely Shite day!!!!) Well Done, I hope its all easy breezy for you.

Talking about getting fatter........my tummy seems huge but I've no real bump - its really getting up my nose!

Hi Harry hope it all went well for you last week. You're probably very busy at the mo, if you've not already popped but I do hope it goes well for you. I can't believe your due date is here already, its so exciting. Sending you loads of hugs xx

Hi Keziah can;t wait to here how you got on, please keep us posted. Sending you lots of luck.

Hi everyone else - nothing to report this end. I'm getting kicked loads which quite reassuring but also quite a strange feeling. Had my first migraine in months yesterday which I hope is not a sign of things to come!!! Hope you are all well.

Choccie how are you getting on? Any news on your bloods yet?

XXX

Must get my head down from the clouds and say congrats to all of you in here. I'm so sorry I've been a bit self obsessed. I'm sure you all know the feeling though. Like Christmas has come early.
I'm starting to come down from my high (well a bit)

Keziah did you finally get IVF? That seems quick although probably not to you! Fingers crossed for a successful transfer.

Storm I can't wait for the kicking - although I bet you soon get over it!

everyone else I'm glad I'm here. Any tips/advice gratefully received as it is my 1st.

Here's the updated list.

=== Graduates having Boys ===
Harry2007 DC#2, age 29 BFP (sometime in August!) - Planned c-section 24/3/11
StormBird DC#1, age 28, BFP 10/11/10 - EDD 14/7/11
AnytimeNow DC#3 age 39 BFP 20/11/10 - EDD 02/08/11

=== Graduates having Girls ===
MissLolita DC#1, age 32 BFP 30/10/10 - EDD 7/7/11

=== Graduates having a Surprise ( for now ) ===
Ilovekittyelise DC#1 (kind of) age 34 BFP 30/12/10 - EDD 11/09/11
Boba82 DC#1, age 28, BFP 07/01/11 - EDD 13/09/11
Chocciechip DC#1, age 39, BFP 1/01/11 - EDD 15/09/11
Missyraines DC#1, age 34 BFP 19/3/11 - EDD ??/11/11

missy I'm 15 weeks. I found out at 5 weeks as well and have to admit this has been the longest 10 weeks of my life! Was grateful we were given some early scans as I have been and am still a nervous wreck. Try and not worry - easier said than done when you've been waiting a long time I know!

Be prepared for the exhaustion that's about to hit you, I've only recently been managing to stay up past 8pm!

It is worth it when you see your little bean at your scan though.

Choccie how's things? Did you get your results yet? Hope all ok?

Storm Sorry you're feeling shitty. Surely your bump'll turn up soon? I already look like I've eaten too many pies, I was counting on a bump by 20 weeks I can't wait for the kicks, it must be an amazing feeling? - well at first anyway!

Storm if it is any consolation I have a very very fat tummy, no bump, and no bfp due to the ivf treatment and pessaries!!!

Just to say one of my 4 fertilised eggs made it to day 5 and was transfered until today, phew! The other blastocyst was too poor quality so I guess that is the end of that one. Scarily we have our test date given to us and it is Mothering Sunday!!

All the best for Thursday Harry and lovely to see you here Missy (I am just a gatecrasher, )

Glad you made the crossing to the grads thread safely Missy x

Storm - don't worry, the bump will arrive before you know it (Harry reaches over huge bump to try and type message).

Keziah at day 5 egg!

Well, I didn't have the second operation on Saturday as the Consultant is happy to do it 2 weeks after the c-section. Finally looking forward to Thursday.

Baby clothes washed, dried and ironed - check
Moses basket set up in living room - check
Hospital bag packed - check (kind of)
Arrangements made for DS1 - check
House tidy (with help of cleaner) - check

I've been having terrible thoughts today that I'm just not responsible enough to have 2 children .

I'M SCARED!!!!!!!

Morning ladies!How's everybody doing?...

Welcome Missyraines congrats on your BFP!!!!

Harry the very best for Thursday! how exciting! sounds like you are all organised and ready for your new arrival ...if you can please let us know how it all goes.

Storm you will wake up one morning and bump will be there...I poppped overnight! and now look like an egg on legs ...so much so bending down is a mare! going to get the BBQ tongs out to help me pick stuff up .

Well I'm 21 weeks today! so more than half way there...saw consultant last week and provisionally booked my section for 27th July (39 weeks).

We went away to Wales with the DC this weekend and I have come back with a terrible cold, feels like I've been eating razor blades!...anybody got any good tips?, I'm drinking honey and lemon with hot water, but that's not doing much so far .

Have a good day everybody X.

Keziah I'm soooo excited for you now, I really hope it sticks!

Harry I'm glad you're looking forward to Thursday now, how exciting with everything set up. Get that bag packed just in case!

Anytime why are you having to have a section, if you don't mind me asking?
I've had a sore throat on and off since I got my BFP, I like Twinnings Lemon & Ginger tea and plenty of water. It's rubbish not being able to have a Lemsip

I've been feeling really weird the last few weeks. I keep forgetting I'm preggers (until the nausea returns or I look in a mirror) I just can't believe there's actually a baby in there. I can't describe it properly but has anyone else experienced similar feelings?

boba My bloods came back with a 1/31215 risk of Downs, so feeling reasonably confident there. We were a bit flummoxed to find this was only downs being checked though. It seems I have a consult appointment at some point to discuss amniocentises which I thought we'd have known by now whether we needed to go for or not. Having a hard time getting any info out of my midwife who is scatty as hell. In fact, phoning her at lunch to chase her about appointments .... again. Wish the NHS would take responsibility for their own work!

I'm the same about forgetting I'm pg, but in my case it is due to horrendous work stress. Am beginning to worry about impact on my health and bean and considering that I may have to leave my job.

keziah a day five egg is really good news. I am hoping and hoping it sticks!

harry good luck for Thursday! Look forward to hearing how it goes.

AFM, I'm suffering with sickness and headaches and extreme exhaustion. When is it meant to pass? I'm supposed to be 15 weeks this Thursday and no sign of it abating at all.

Had a bit of disturbing news about a friend of ours who I think (but don't want to ask) is just past 20 weeks or so, and in hospital with pre-eclampsia. Apparently they're talking about delivering the baby early. 20-24 weeks is very very early isn't it? What are the chances of baby surviving if they do have to do this?

choccie that's great news. My nausea and exhaustion disappear for few days then come back and knock me for six. At least it's a reminder there's something in there Most people I've spoken to say by 17/18 weeks they feel a lot more like themselves.

Sorry to hear about your friend. I was actually reading an artical last night about a wee boy who was born at 22 weeks and is now a healthy 18 month old so they can survive though odds probably against them. Hopefully they can do something to try and treat your friend so the wee one'll be able to stay put a bit longer.

I've got to go see a consultant also as they are worried about previous bladder surgery I've had. I consulted my urologist before even coming off the pill (all that time ago!) and he didn't see any issues so God knows what they're on about. However the way I see it the more you're seen the better I suppose? Hope you get your midwife sorted!

Just popping in to say congrats to missy and good luck for Harry, willpop in from time to time and hope to be with you again soon - I went to the epu today and the uterus and ovaries look fine, the monitor is reset and I'm keeping everything crossed I see a peak soon.... x

Boba don't mind you asking at all...
I was induced at 40+10 with first pregnancy, 24 hours labour, got to 8cm but baby was back to back and my pelvis was too small for my 9lb 1oz baby to fit! also she was distressed by then so emergency section.
Second baby 16 months later, I really wanted a natural birth so they let me go over my dates and booked a section for 40+10. When I arrived to have him I was in full labour and was first on the section list, labour went the same way as before, and ended up having another emergency at 4.30 that afternoon. The Drs explained that baby was back to back again! and they recommended due to my lack of "pelvic Tilt" any future babies be section.

So hence this baby being born at 39 weeks to prevent the stress to baby and me going into labour, never being able to give birth naturally anyway...also because of two previous sections they worry about uterine rupture...would much rather not have section as recovery is quite hard when you have other children, but its best for me.

Bet your sorry you asked now X.

Got everything crossed for you Keziah X

Thanks for your kind words... have been in tears this morning - of my 4 embryo's one in, but other 3 not "good enough" to freeze. Apparently this 5 day embryo was too early a blastocyst to grade but the only other one that made it to blast stage is grade 3 today and not good enough to freeze. They would put it in me but not freeze it - so feel I have lost something somehow, and worry about the grade of the one they put in. They could have cancelled the cycle if graded this one and it wasn't good enough, as NHS will pay for one more attempt if one cancelled but now if this not work we have to pay ourself.... and start all over again. I only got 5 eggs so worry about that. Sorry..... so hard sat on my own with worries and no good news.

So Harry - looking forward to hearing news of baby no 2 born for you... you sound very sorted

keziah If I understand the process correctly, you do have hope and you have had some good news. You have one emby suitable to be transferred and that has been done. Am I correct - is that what has happened?

If embies are anything like pregnancies, I was told at my last scan that the rate of development was a good sign; i.e. the fact my baby was measuring larger than my dates was apparently a sign it was healthy and strong. (I still worry though) I know that there is no way of knowing if the emby you have in you is of the same quality as the others, but it sounds like it grew a bit faster than the others, so I'd take heart from that and see it as a possible sign that it might have been stronger than the others.

Also, take heart from the fact that with IVF your eggs are placed in artifical cultures and all this impacts on quality of embies as well. Your transferred emby is now where it is meant to naturally be instead of a petri dish, so you should be optimistic it will grow better there than it would in a dish.

I was told that because of my age, the likelihood of me getting to blastocyst could be slim, so I was more likely to have lower quality embies implanted to try and keep them out of the petri dish and as viable as possible. So keziah you're further on than I might have been and just think about the number of women in their 40s who have good news from this process. Allow your head to hold the good news as well as the worries. Give yourself as much hope as they have had.

And don't worry about your five eggs - each cycle is different. I was told that even if I had an AMH of 2 that they would consider me a suitable candidate for IVF - and 2 is low. If I remember correctly, your AMH was higher than that so that's a good indicator too for future IVF cycles if you have to do it again.

And Keziah - it only takes one emby to make a baby. Hang onto hope sweetie and don't let uncertainty and 'what ifs' get you down at this stage. You still have a way to travel before you get there.

I hope I haven't misunderstood everything and just spouted unhelpful garbage based on my aged memory of what I was told in December, but I am still feeling optimistic for you. What you learned today doesn't change what they transferred before today.

I do not feel less optimistic and I am still hoping and praying it sticks for you.x

oh keziah choccie has addressed all your woes very well so just keeping everything crossed for you that you get a sticky bean xxxxx