Due May 2011?

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Just got back from the docs, however we have known a few days.. Anyone else around? :)

Yorkstar Always interesting to hear how it works in other people's households. We've started trying to do something together at the weekends (usually Sunday) as I was working on a Sunday until recently and we weren't getting any time together. Your DH sounds like he certainly does his share. I must say I can't complain, DH does cook (better than me in fact) and usually does Sunday night dinner. Sounds like you're both pretty respectful of each other anyway.

Loopy I think I just feel GUILTY asking him to take her for a bit when he's the one bringing all the money in. My problem then. I'm pleased to hear you all slob on the sofa sometimes, we'll be doing plenty of that this winter I think. DH is very good with DD, it just seems that all the things he wants to do at the weekend are more important than me having a rest [hm]

cowboylover really sorry, can't offer any advice but if you can find a sympathetic mw to talk to about your options that might be a good place to start. Hopefully they'll be sensible and practical rather than critical.

Don't know how useful this will be for you, southpacificfish, but dh and I both work ft (I do one day a week from home) Mon-Fri. He gets dd ready and takes her to nursery in the mornings, I pick her up after work, and we have one day a week when we swap so I can work late/go shopping/meet a mate for a drink etc from time to time.

At weekends we pretty much share it out, depending on what each of us has to do. Dh has lots of outside work commitments so is very often out in the evenings, and sometimes has stuff to do at weekends too but that makes me think it's even more important for him to spend time with dd and give me a rest when he is around!

I don't like saying I'm "lucky" with dh, or that he's "really good" because I do think all couples should share childcare as equally as they reasonably can, even when one partner is a SAHP. If the one who stays at home isn't 'working' then it's not 'work' for the other one to take on more at weekends, is it?

Anyway group slobbing on the sofa is one of the great joys of family life, IMO (though unfortunately at the moment it's usually Timmy Time or In the Night Garden for us rather than a movie...)

Lol Zinnia Yes, Cbeebies seems to be the channel to watch for DD! Although 101 Dalmations has recently become popular... I like what you say about "if staying at home isn't working then it's not work for the working parent" that's a really good way of looking at it and I'll try to mentally take that approach this weekend and see how it goes.

Thank you ladies for your comments, lots for me to think about.

Thanks Loopymumsy I will let you know what she says on Thursday. I dont feel so nervous now as long as I get a choice at least a little bit!

Whoever invented morning sickness?!

If anyone has any advice on the morning sickness, please, please share it! Mine is lasting all day, and is only temporarily alleviated after a main course, for around 20 minutes. I've tried ginger, Sea-bands, eating crackers (sends me crackers), bread, crisps (ready salted - some success there). It seems to help a little if I down something around every 90 minutes - a tall order when feeling permanently queasy!

Of course, this early on, there's no-one to talk to directly, as it's not great to tell people before 12 weeks, just when you need support the most...

Yes, LittleMilla, I'm going mad, mostly because of the morning sickness, but I also have similar worries. My friend has leant me a book called 'What to Expect when you're expecting'. It's very good, comprehensive, and has helped with some of my irrational fears (built up largely to the internet...).

Good luck to all you mums-to-be.

Tiggly - maternity bras, see www.lingerie-heaven.com/. Real bargains - just ordered 3 for £15.00!!!

Tiggly - just seen your previous reply, thanks. Some of the cramps have eased in the last two days, relief, but played gentle tennis today and paid for it! The book I've borrowed has been reassuring that it's not ectopic (What to Expect when you're expecting - really good.), so the worrying on that front has calmed a bit. Just concerned about how to get through each day at work.....

my morning sickness has virtually disappeared, in fact except for the waist band being snug I don't really feel preggers at the mo!.
Sesamesmith, maybe try pretzels?

had BIL's birthday today and had half a glass of champers to try and avoid suspicion... not sure I succeeded tho.
Feel really apprehensive to tell him and SIL as they have been trying for years and she has had several MC's.... I know it is early days in my pregnancy but still, I feel bad as it is so unfair..

Hi! All

sesame try Rowntrees fruit pastilles or gums, they always work for me. No need to gorge just sucking them helps, I find.

There is another May thread over on the Pregnancy board, should someone let them know that we are over here?

xxx

Sesame sorry to hear you are suffering. When my morning sickness was at it's peak weeks 6-7 i remember seeing a headlining article on here about there being 'no cure' for morning sickness at all and feeling so depressed. I didn't read the article as couldn't bring myself too when all i wanted was to try something/anything that might help. In the end, in my experinece, nothing did help but i did like you feel marginally better when i ate a very small amount of something about every hour (dry crackers were on my desk at work). Also, sickness was worst when i was tired so have been in bed for nine most nights. Mine has just about passed now at 9 weeks + so hopefully not much longer. Good luck.

Awful about your headache Loopy i suffer from them too and find that paracetemol is not always strong enough. Hope it passes soon

MummyWilliams they know we are here :)

All you morning sickness sufferers, I share your pain, I haven't been bad this time but with my first I lived off cheese toasties and licorice for the first 12 weeks and was sick all the way through. Nothing really helped, I ate regularly and took a packed lunch with me everywhere. I did have a lovely healthy baby by the end :)

Hi sesame I share your pain re: morning sickness. Feeling awful myself- nauseous, wobbly and tired. Went to bed 7.30 yest and slept til 9 today then back in bed by 3 today- 's the only way I can avoid being sick :( can't wait for it to pass and to start 'blooming'! Worried about work tom :(

yorkstar I know what you mean about not wanting to read there's no cure for morning sickness, i've heard a lot of people saying it never eased all pregnancy for them- that's really worrying! I'm hoping that's the minority

Sorry forgot to add sesame that i've heard fizzy water, lemonade, lemon slices in water, lots of protein at every nibble and love hearts sweets all recommended lots for ms. I find love hearts help with heartburn but the others haven't done much for me. Maybe you could try them tho and see if you have any luck?

Morning all. Sorry this is a bit of a me-post. Taking a day off work today as morning sickness is so bad and I've had hardly any sleep. Everything I read tells me to just rest so I know being at home is best place for baby.
However, before getting pregnant, I suffered with low blood pressure which would make me faint, and I had quite a lot of time off work with it... making my Bradford Index (attendance score) very high, and resulted in a written warning.
Does anybody know if I could get penalised for a day off work due to pregnancy? I know companies are very careful regarding this, just wondered if anyone could help?

Hope all you ladies are doing well, and not feeling as rough as me xx

MrsColes Companies are not supposed to penalise against any pregnancy related time off. If you are having a lot of time off further into your pregnancy, I believe they can sometimes dock it off your maternity leave but don't take that as absolute gospel. They also have to allow you time off for antenatal appts, hospital visits and midwife visits. In the early stages this does of course mean you will have to tell them you are pregnant earlier than you perhaps wanted to so that they can take this into account and not keep putting black marks against your attendance. Hope your symptons ease a bit soon.

Sesame I know it's boring but I eat breadsticks in bed before I get up then straight into some breakfast without thinking too much about it. The more I eat, the less sick I get but it does mean eating on and off all day! Hard work preparing food when you feel rubbish isn't it? Fizzy sugary drinks seem to help a bit but it's different for everybody. I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow and feeling quite a lot better than I did even a week ago but still feel quite pathetic with tiredness when I have to sit down after doing a little hoovering.

southpacificfish thanks for that, thats put my mind at rest a bit. I've already told them anyway as I work with chemicals so needed to check out if it was safe.

Thanks x

Hi everyone. Sympathy to all the morning sicknessers - does anyone else feel rotten while they're feeling sick, then start worrying as soon as they feel better that something's gone wrong? All I can eat is soup and white bread products - not great for the digestive tract! :) It's reassuring to hear that it's starting to ease off for some people - there is hope!

I'm thinking about booking a private scan for this weekend just to put my mind at ease. I know things can still go wrong (I'll be 8+4) but after my MC in February I just want to know one way or the other. Is anyone else considering it? My GP told me I won't even be seen by the MW until 15 weeks(!) and I'm not sure I can wait that long for reassurance. I just have to convince DH....

Hello all, i'd like to join you all, due 19th may. Only tested last week and been on hols. Just been to doc, she's sorting all the paperwork out. Its my first so everything is really new and strange, i also have no Gfs with children, i'm 35 and have always been career orientated. Feeling tired and queasy today.

I feel lousy today. Well, for the past few days actually. I've been really sleepy, and this morning considered not going into work. But, I trudged in, and have put up with people asking me if I am okay as I "don't look very well".
I think I'm going to have to tell my parents, they apparently are concerned about me. But, I really don't want to tell everybody just yet, especially as even after my private scan, I'm still spotting, so still feeling a bit worried. But, may just have to bite the bullet and hope that things still stay where they are, and that people can keep their mouthes shut for me until I'm ready for the "world" to know. Which includes SIL who found out early last time by accident, and bascially hounded me/DH until we told everybody else as she couldn't keep it a secret!

PS - as for morning sickness, I had it EVERY day last time. For the last few months I ate nothing but plain cobs, cheese and onion crisps, double decker bars and chips when the mood took me. Everything else (EVERYTHING!) made me sick.

Hi all. Thanks for all the support. It's actually making me grin to see the variety of symptoms and ways of coping! I'm at work with my Sea-Bands on. It definitely seems to be better to keep busy, and collapse later at home in the evening (hoping lovely hubby can take up the slack with step-son, of course). Fresh air every hours - 30 seconds outside - helps. Bought some mints to suck on - also helps. Ginger ale and expensive fizz is good.

Having seen so many of my friends go through miscarriage, I think it's really important to see that little growing thing simply as a disruptive bunch of cells until 12 weeks, a trial run! Of course, 70-80% will go full term.

Mrs Coles - if work knows what's wrong, they cannot penalize you as you're simply sick. It's definitely better to tell a relevant person in confidence and you can get a certificate of pregnancy from your MW or doc if you're really concerned. I told one of my three bosses last week, and she was over the moon but cautious. I'm so glad I did because I'm not so worried about going in and feeling horrendous - she can take the flack for me...

How many other people are bulging already?