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DO NOT READ THIS IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR A NICE LABOUR STORY!!! TMI ALERT

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Honeymoonmummy · 28/11/2008 18:33

I am writing this for therapeutic purposes more than anything...

My waters broke on Monday 3rd November at 2pm and I rang the hospital and they told me to come in. They had a quick monitor check and said I could be induced now or wait 24 hours for nature to take its course and if nothing had happened then I was to come in "for a scan and to see how things were going". I had strep B but this is apparently the procedure with or without strep B.

I went home and at about 10pm the contractions started, slowly at first but they continued over the next 18 hours, I managed to get an hours sleep... they went from an hour apart to as close as 5 mins and got pretty intense but they started to get less frequent and less painful in the last few hours. I had arranged to go back to the hospital for 2pm on the Tuesday so I did so.

I was expecting no intervention since I had been having contractions, but the doctor and midwives insisted that I should be induced because there was a danger of infection for the baby otherwise, so I agreed. I really didnt want to be induced having heard it was more painful.

They put me on the induction drip and started the dosage low but doubled it every half hour. I managed with just the tens and breathing for about 1.5 hours, then went onto gas and air and after about 3 hours I asked for an epidural.

They stopped the drip because they didnt think I would stay still enough for the epidural otherwise. They had one go putting the epidural in but ended up drawing blood, so had another go. (I really hate needles BTW!!) They were eventually satisfied so started up the drip again, they started it at the strength at which they had turned it off, rather than building it up again... unfortunately the epidural hadn't worked AT ALL. I had been off the drip (so not used to the pain) for about an hour I think. I told them I was in pain and asked then begged them to switch off the drip until they got the epidural sorted but they refused saying they couldnt stop the drip and they would try a top-up of the epidural instead - this apparently only took the consent of the head midwife to do so and they were having a change of shift so she couldn't OK it yet... in the end I said "As a patient I'm asking you to turn off the drip" - I think they got the litigious thread of the conversation and finally got a more senior midwife in who said "She is entitled to pain relief if she's asked for it, turn off the drip for now" HURRAH!

By this time, my BP is THROUGH THE ROOF. I have a history of hypertension and my mum had pre-eclampsia. They got another anaesthetist to me who tested to see if the epidural had worked by spraying a cold spray on me and confirmed it had had no effect at all (why not do this in the first place???) He said he could give me a strong top up to see if that worked or give me another epidural and there was no guarantee it would work if the other hadn't. He gave me the top up (no effect) and got a blood test to see if I was up to the second epidural and said it would be half an hour before the results came back.

By this time my contractions had started again on their own so they gave me some pethedine (admittedly with my consent but I was at the end of my tether). As I had predicted and put in my birth plan pethedine completely knocked me out (codeine knocks me out!!), I was virtually comatose, I couldn't respond to anything they asked. By the time I came round again though, I was 8cm dilated.

I pushed on the remains of the pethedine, they didnt give me any more gas and air because they said it wouldnt help. I could not feel a pushing sensation, just a contraction, so I just pushed when the contraction started. They seemed pretty impressed with my progress but unfortunately my BP had climbed so the top line was now at 190, and appparently you are at risk of a stroke over 160 - they had been telling DH this for the past few hours but only told me at the end. They told me I needed a forceps delivery because they couldnt let me push any longer as I may have a stroke - the next second I had another contraction and they told me to push!!!! I asked them for a bit more time to push because I wanted to do it myself, they said it would probably only be 5 or 6 pushes but they couldnt risk my doing it.

I had a forceps delivery and had an epistomology and a second degree tear.

DD was born at 2.30am on the Wednesday morning, 12 hours after the induction drip had started and 36 hours after my waters broke. She weighed 6lb 15. I couldnt hold her for 1.5 hours because of the stitching but DH held her and I could see her.

THAT'S NOT THE END OF IT!!!

(TMI ALERT!) When the placenta was delivered, it was accompanied with a gush of 2 litres of blood within the space of about 5 seconds - they know it was 2L cos they mopped it up from the floor to see how much of a transfusion I needed!!! The reason this happened was when the placenta comes away it leaves a small wound and because my BP was so high, the blood just found the hole and came through. The normal blood loss on delivery is 500 ml.

I had to have a blood transfusion and am still on iron tablets for the resulting anaemia. They left me in the room in which I laboured for the following few days on pre-eclampsia drugs, I couldnt drink for 24 hours, I was stuck to the bed with a catheter for at least 24 hours.

The whole thing has left me completely traumatised and going from being certain I wanted another child to being not sure I could do it.

I feel better for doing that!!

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Honeymoonmummy · 07/12/2008 13:47

I will try carob, thanks. I'm trying to eat lots of spinach. I had to stop the iron tablets as they were making me really constipated and I already had piles Its taken 3 weeks for the constipation to stop which hasn't helped!

Am loving the Xmas theme of your posting DingDong

I have had a look at the birth trauma thread, I have written a letter asking for the records before I go and see the midwifes who delivered me.

I am feeling OK in myself thanks JFCM, have my six week check on Weds (even tho its only 5 weeks). It will be the first time anyones checked down below since I left hospital so that will be reassuring, and of course hopefully Poppy will get a clean bill of health too.

I've just posted some pics of Poppy on my profile page She was DEFINITELY worth the trauma. I'm starting to waver from "Can't do that again" to "Maybe again" already and its only 5 weeks so there is hope!

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 07/12/2008 15:45

Can you get Floradix Iron and Herbs where you live? It's a liquid iron supplement, not constipating. Tastes sort of sweet and syrupy. Works really well.

I'm glad you'll be checked out next week. I was still too sore at 6 weeks to let anyone do an internal exam, and quite honestly, I think my midwife was too scared to look and see what a crap job they did of putting me back together. Cow. So it took months of me putting up with pain before my own GP looked and sent me straight to a consultant.

Poppy is adorable!!!!! I need to put up some new pics of Jack, the pumpkin ones are almost two months old and he's cruising now and standing for several seconds at a time.

Honeymoonmummy · 08/12/2008 11:40

I went to look at your pic Jacks but it said your privacy settings wouldn't let me. I've been really lucky in that respect, not had much pain from the stitches, its more the mental thought of having stitches there! I've heard of Floradix, thanks, I'll pop to Holland and Barrett when I can.

I'm going for the blood test today to see how my iron levels are, I dont feel weak etc so fingers crossed!

I'm trying to get my 6 week check date changed so DH can come with me, you'd think I was asking for a diamond ring!!

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 08/12/2008 16:02

Oh, I'm an idiot, I name-changed for Christmas and forgot to link my profile. Here we go, now it should be up. Sorry!!

Honeymoonmummy · 08/12/2008 17:21

Awww lovely pics Jacks

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loler · 10/12/2008 11:14

Glad to hear that you're finding being a mum easier than becoming one! You've got loads of excuses to eat lots of chocolate (iron and bfing)

Have a great first family christmas!

oneyummymummy · 10/12/2008 11:32

So sorry to hear about your bad experience. I too had a traumatic birth, ending in an e.c-section where the epidural they gave me for the surgery didn't work and i felt them cutting me open (sorry to anyone eating their lunch!!) so had to be put to sleep and didnt get to see or hold my dd till the next day, but was then discharged a few nours later needing a blood transfusion! Instead i too had tablets, and it does take a very long time to fully recover from the anemia, but you will get there in the end!

I would also recommend seeing a councellor as i didnt and a little while later it all hit me one day, and it turned out i was suffering from P.Traumatic Stress, which also took a long time to get over! But i am loads better now (dd is 17months) and considering my next one, although immediatly afterwards if any one asked it would have been NEVER AGAIN!!

I hope you can get over this too, and look forward to another child, as everyone keeps telling me no two births are the same!!

oneyummymummy · 10/12/2008 11:37

Also, try Spartame....they come in sachets from a health food shop, you just add them to a drink(prefferably orange as this helps the absorbtion) and it will help top you up with iron. I know the tablets can make you feel really ill, i had 3x 210mg a day plus eating steak, broccoli, spinach etc...... but it make me recover quicker!! And i found i had no problems healing as well like alot of people do!!

A diamond ring sounds like the perfect gift considering what youve been through!!

Oh and I named my dd 'Poppy' when she was still inside me, but had to change it by the time she was born because everybody was calling her it already, her name is Alana, but a lot of my friends just call her poppy, because thats how theyve known her!! Lovely name!

Honeymoonmummy · 11/12/2008 12:45

There is iron in chocolate??? Christmas has indeed come early

I went for my 6 week check up yesterday, the stitches are all gone and I have a scar apparently. I'm screwed if I'm gonna check for myself at the moment!!!

Oneyummy, I did a double take cos I thought that was my name posted at first - didnt get much sleep last night!! Your experience does sound v similar and its good that you can see the light at the end of the tunnel now. I will try to push for counselling... [grateful smile emoticon]

x

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oneyummymummy · 11/12/2008 16:46

I have done too reading back through the thread!ha!

I would avoid chocolate though, bacause although it does contain iron, it also contains stimulants and sugars which will give you an energy crash at the end and make you feel even worse! I sound like scruge now don't I, sorry!

Honeymoonmummy · 11/12/2008 18:37

Dammit, I've just been to Asda and filled half the trolley with chocolate

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oneyummymummy · 11/12/2008 18:45

Oh well, I suppose if you kept eating it throught he night and next morning you never would get a crash! ?Ha, as long as you keep it topped up!

Honeymoonmummy · 11/12/2008 19:39

I like your thinking, I shall start now!

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 12/12/2008 03:16

And when you're both up in the middle of the night because you can't sleep from too much chocolate, check in here or at the one-child tearoom (even if you have more than one), because I'm still up when it's the middle of the night in the U.K.

Honeymoonmummy · 12/12/2008 20:17

Ooh Canada, cool! I managed to escape to town for a while today and got some Floradix, it tastes bloomin' awful but hopefully it will do the trick!

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oneyummymummy · 12/12/2008 20:37

This may be the same as spartame, just looks like harmless water but tastes vile...just like metal!!

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 13/12/2008 00:50

I know, you can taste the iron in it, but hey, it beats anemia! (Or constipation from iron tablets.)

Honeymoonmummy · 14/12/2008 14:56

Its just remembering to take the bloody stuff cos I have to keep it in the fridge!

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 14/12/2008 17:59

I know - I often forgot until I tied a huge red bow around it and put it in the front of the fridge so I couldn't help but see it whenever I opened the fridge.
How are you today?

Honeymoonmummy · 14/12/2008 18:20

I feel sick from eating chocolate

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 15/12/2008 02:14

No, no, no - I said tie a bow around the Floradix to remember to take it, not the chocolate!!!

JacksFirstChristmasMama · 15/12/2008 02:14

(Most of us don't need a reminder to eat chocolate )

Honeymoonmummy · 15/12/2008 10:15

Doh Jacks!

Think I'm gonna lay off the chocolate today...

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 15/12/2008 16:30

Probably a good idea...

Honeymoonmummy · 16/12/2008 18:26

God I'm exhausted. Just been to my workplace to show off Poppy and she screamed most of the way home - 40 min drive - not good

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