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DO NOT READ THIS IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR A NICE LABOUR STORY!!! TMI ALERT

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Honeymoonmummy · 28/11/2008 18:33

I am writing this for therapeutic purposes more than anything...

My waters broke on Monday 3rd November at 2pm and I rang the hospital and they told me to come in. They had a quick monitor check and said I could be induced now or wait 24 hours for nature to take its course and if nothing had happened then I was to come in "for a scan and to see how things were going". I had strep B but this is apparently the procedure with or without strep B.

I went home and at about 10pm the contractions started, slowly at first but they continued over the next 18 hours, I managed to get an hours sleep... they went from an hour apart to as close as 5 mins and got pretty intense but they started to get less frequent and less painful in the last few hours. I had arranged to go back to the hospital for 2pm on the Tuesday so I did so.

I was expecting no intervention since I had been having contractions, but the doctor and midwives insisted that I should be induced because there was a danger of infection for the baby otherwise, so I agreed. I really didnt want to be induced having heard it was more painful.

They put me on the induction drip and started the dosage low but doubled it every half hour. I managed with just the tens and breathing for about 1.5 hours, then went onto gas and air and after about 3 hours I asked for an epidural.

They stopped the drip because they didnt think I would stay still enough for the epidural otherwise. They had one go putting the epidural in but ended up drawing blood, so had another go. (I really hate needles BTW!!) They were eventually satisfied so started up the drip again, they started it at the strength at which they had turned it off, rather than building it up again... unfortunately the epidural hadn't worked AT ALL. I had been off the drip (so not used to the pain) for about an hour I think. I told them I was in pain and asked then begged them to switch off the drip until they got the epidural sorted but they refused saying they couldnt stop the drip and they would try a top-up of the epidural instead - this apparently only took the consent of the head midwife to do so and they were having a change of shift so she couldn't OK it yet... in the end I said "As a patient I'm asking you to turn off the drip" - I think they got the litigious thread of the conversation and finally got a more senior midwife in who said "She is entitled to pain relief if she's asked for it, turn off the drip for now" HURRAH!

By this time, my BP is THROUGH THE ROOF. I have a history of hypertension and my mum had pre-eclampsia. They got another anaesthetist to me who tested to see if the epidural had worked by spraying a cold spray on me and confirmed it had had no effect at all (why not do this in the first place???) He said he could give me a strong top up to see if that worked or give me another epidural and there was no guarantee it would work if the other hadn't. He gave me the top up (no effect) and got a blood test to see if I was up to the second epidural and said it would be half an hour before the results came back.

By this time my contractions had started again on their own so they gave me some pethedine (admittedly with my consent but I was at the end of my tether). As I had predicted and put in my birth plan pethedine completely knocked me out (codeine knocks me out!!), I was virtually comatose, I couldn't respond to anything they asked. By the time I came round again though, I was 8cm dilated.

I pushed on the remains of the pethedine, they didnt give me any more gas and air because they said it wouldnt help. I could not feel a pushing sensation, just a contraction, so I just pushed when the contraction started. They seemed pretty impressed with my progress but unfortunately my BP had climbed so the top line was now at 190, and appparently you are at risk of a stroke over 160 - they had been telling DH this for the past few hours but only told me at the end. They told me I needed a forceps delivery because they couldnt let me push any longer as I may have a stroke - the next second I had another contraction and they told me to push!!!! I asked them for a bit more time to push because I wanted to do it myself, they said it would probably only be 5 or 6 pushes but they couldnt risk my doing it.

I had a forceps delivery and had an epistomology and a second degree tear.

DD was born at 2.30am on the Wednesday morning, 12 hours after the induction drip had started and 36 hours after my waters broke. She weighed 6lb 15. I couldnt hold her for 1.5 hours because of the stitching but DH held her and I could see her.

THAT'S NOT THE END OF IT!!!

(TMI ALERT!) When the placenta was delivered, it was accompanied with a gush of 2 litres of blood within the space of about 5 seconds - they know it was 2L cos they mopped it up from the floor to see how much of a transfusion I needed!!! The reason this happened was when the placenta comes away it leaves a small wound and because my BP was so high, the blood just found the hole and came through. The normal blood loss on delivery is 500 ml.

I had to have a blood transfusion and am still on iron tablets for the resulting anaemia. They left me in the room in which I laboured for the following few days on pre-eclampsia drugs, I couldnt drink for 24 hours, I was stuck to the bed with a catheter for at least 24 hours.

The whole thing has left me completely traumatised and going from being certain I wanted another child to being not sure I could do it.

I feel better for doing that!!

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 17/12/2008 02:07

(DS is 10 months old and very cuddly but he's a big sturdy boy and I love holding tiny babies)

Hope you can relax a bit, that drive sounds from hell! Poor you!

Honeymoonmummy · 17/12/2008 21:54

I've been to the docs today, Poppy's been diagnosed with reflux. Hopefully that explains why she's never very happy. Can't wait for the gaviscon to work!!!!

We got a cot delivered today too, so gonna try her in that tomorrow night... she hates the moses so we've been co-sleeping in our king size bed while DH has been sleeping on the single bed in the nursery...I miss him

Someone today mentioned she might be a bit cranky because I had a difficult labour and I should perhaps see a cranial osteopath - any ideas?

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 18/12/2008 20:10

I have heard really good things about craniosacral technique or cranial osteopathy for babies who needed some help coming out. I've referred people to one who used to work with my husband, and they've said only good things. That sounds like a good idea.

On another thread I read that you should space out the Gaviscon and give some with every feed...

(no other useful advice to give emoticon)

Honeymoonmummy · 18/12/2008 23:04

Where's my cuddle Jacks???

I've booked an appointment with a cranial osteopath for tomorrow, thanks. Should be interesting... I've been reading more about the symptoms of reflux and she's definitely a classic case. I can't wait to see if it improves her disposition. I hate to see her unhappy all the time.

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Honeymoonmummy · 18/12/2008 23:05

Oh, and I'm trying her in her cot tonight for the first time. [Wish me luck emoticon]

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 21/12/2008 17:45

How did it go with the osteopath? And her cot? We are confirmed co-sleepers... Jackbaby hates his crib, and it wasn't worth the hassle... we all need our sleep and this works for now. Especially since he's a little nursing fiend at night so all I have to do is flop over and he latches on, gulps away, lets go, and we both flop over, never having fully woken up, LOL.

Honeymoonmummy · 21/12/2008 18:17

Osteopath is a GENIUS! She has slept for 5 hours straight for 2 nights now! And she seems happier! Thanks so much for the tip!

We were co-sleeping, but I'm just too worried about her coming to some harm in bed with me and DH refused to be in the bed with us for the same reason.. he slept in our bed for the first time last night

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 22/12/2008 00:24

I'm so happy for you!! That's fab. I don't really know too much about craniosacral technique or cranial osteopathy, but have only heard good things about it for babies. I'm a chiropractor, and I loooove treating newborns (or older babies, or kids, or pregnant women) - it seems to work really well - but that cranial stuff is out of my scope of practice. I'm glad Poppy is feeling better. And you! Sleeeeeeep... bliss!

We heard all the horror stories about things happening to small babies while co-sleeping and I suppose if people are drunk or drugged or hugely obese it's a possibility, but for myself, I found that I was so aware of Jackbaby (or where he was in relation to me), even while sleeping, that it wasn't an issue. I also read somewhere that co-sleeping mothers are usually only about 95% asleep because of this awareness, but that the benefits of being only 95% asleep for a long stretch outweigh sleeping deeply for only and hour or two at a time. In the end, I think whatever works is what's important. We're happy with co-sleeping, other people do things differently. Who cares, right? But I bet it's nice to have DH back in bed with you.

Honeymoonmummy · 23/12/2008 19:32

Yes, I know what you mean, I always seemed to be awake the instant she moved but I just didnt feel safe. It was nice tho to co sleep with her. DH said he came into the bedroom the other night and she was awake and quiet in her cot just watching me sleeping

Are you doing anything special for Xmas?

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 23/12/2008 22:21

It's Jackbaby's first Christmas so the whole thing seems very special to me. My mum's here, has been since last week, and that makes it even better. Well, mum and step-dad - don't get me wrong, he's mostly lovely but it's mum I'm really excited to see. [frgin] She lives in Toronto and I live near Vancouver (west coast of Canada) so she's usually very far away and I miss her. We're doing presents on Christmas Eve and a huge turkey on Christmas Day, and other than that just relaxing and enjoying a hugely snow-stormy white Christmas.
And you??

Honeymoonmummy · 24/12/2008 19:15

Aw, sounds lovely. I hope you get lots of quality time with your mum.

We're going to the in-laws for lunch, then back home. Its our first Christmas as a family too so its a bit different from the usual socialising we do, but its ace

Have a wonderful chrismas x

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Honeymoonmummy · 24/12/2008 19:16

Oops Christmas! Thats what you get for trying to type while bf ing on your side!!!!

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JacksFirstChristmasMama · 24/12/2008 20:48

LOL! I usually type one-handed with Jackbaby on my lap - that explains the typos!!
Happy Christmas to the entire Honeymoon Family!

Honeymoonmummy · 29/12/2008 21:22

Did you have a good Christmas Jacks?

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rusmum · 29/12/2008 22:18

HOPE THIS HELPS- i have forceps with dd1 and 2 litre transfusion.. dd2 born naturally and on my own at home in 45 minute lovely labour!!!!

never say never!!!

Honeymoonmummy · 30/12/2008 19:31

Thanks Rusmum! 45 mins sounds good to me Was the home birth intentional? I think I'd have to go to hospital again in case of complications.

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rusmum · 30/12/2008 19:52

completely non intentional- was just too quick lol

Honeymoonmummy · 31/12/2008 12:55

You can't complain at that! I am starting to think I could try again, not yet obviously. The hospital never got back to me re a review, I've sent a letter to get my records and will wait till that gets back first.

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