My Baby Girl died

[verunka]

It is 8 days since our angel left us. She has died one week after birth, cause was a brain damage, caused by cut on air supply at some point of pregnancy.. doctors dont know..

I'm beeing strong. I'm feeling empty and kind of death. I can't find things to do. My husband has to go back to work and I dont know what to do with myself. It is so hard to see all the pregnant woman and all the babies and mums...

I wanna get pregnant straight away
I am so scared of getting pregnant
I am scared of pain which ripped my heart appart

Is there anyone who felt the same?

thank you

Verunka

verunka, please tell us about your little girl if you feel you can? What did you name her? Sometimes just writing it all out helps just a tiny bit.

There are threads on here where mums just like you support each other as they have too lost their babies...I'm sure one of them will be along in a while to tell you where to find them.

So sorry for the loss of your daughter.

Verunka I am so sorry you lost your little girl that is so unfair.

My friends son died at a similar age and she also wanted to get pregnant again. She did very quickly then felt terribly guilty. She said that she wishes she had waited for a few months to give them all time to grieve for her son. But everyone one different.

What was her name?

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Tell us more about what happened, if you feel able to.

You say you're being strong. Don't be too strong. You need to give yourself time to grieve.

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you.

Hello Verunka, I am so sorry to hear about your little girl. My little girl died aged 5 days in what sounds like very similar circumstances - this was at the beginning of last August.
A few people have mentioned that we have a special 'bereaved mummies' thread - they are a lovely and supportive bunch who have lost children (and in some cases grandchildren) of all ages. The thread is here if you would like to come and chat to us, it's a bit quiet tonight but there's generally someone around every day.
And do tell us about her if you would like to. I know I like talking about my daughter.
In terms of getting pregnant... well there really are no rules. Someone at SANDS told me that people who lose their first baby tend to have another one more quickly than those who also have other children, but for a long time having another baby was all I could think about, even though I do have a little boy as well. My husband was not so keen, so we agreed to wait. I'm now ten weeks pregnant, having waited ten months. But it's a very very personal thing.
Sending you my love.

so sorry for your loss and hope you get the support you need. Be kind to yourself

I am so very sorry for the loss of your DD. Could I please echo Olissas post to come and join other bereaved mums? Believe it or not we are not always sad....we have laughs and fun (I know that you wont believe that can happen - but it will) we share anniversaries (remember days) and birthdays and light candles for our lost children. There is no death so sad as that of a child. Take care my darling. xx

I'm so sorry.x

I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Bless her. Rest in peace little one.

I'm so sorry verunka x

Verunka - you don't sound ready to be alone after such a terrible and shattering loss. Is there anyone who can come and stay with you?

peace and love to you and your whole family, verunka.

Verunka so sorry to hear about your baby girl. What was her name? I third what Olissa and Shabs has said, pop over to this thread

So very sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter verunka

I am so very sorry. To lose a child is the cruellest thing that can happen to anyone.

Please take care of yourself. There are plenty of mothers here who have suffered the same heartbreak to offer support and advice.

I am so very sorry x

I really reccomend SANDS they are wonderful.

so for you - hope you find some peace and resolution to your pain soon - let yourself grieve and remember your baby girl as a beautiful gift.

I am so sorry to hear about your darling daughter Verunka.

Please come and join us on the bereaved mummies thread that Olissa linked to. Or just lurk until you feel ready to say hello.

I found talking about my ds helped a lot with the grieving process. Do you have any friends and family who you can talk to?

Thinking of you all xxx

I'm so sorry Verunka. I hope you find lots of support here and elsewhere during this terrible time. xx

so sorry to hear of your little girl's passing.x

so sorry to hear of your loss xx thinking of you all at thid time xx

Verunka, you must be in so much pain now. Be kind to yourself and take things slowly. I am so so sorry. X

So sorry for your loss, Verunka. I can understand slightly what you are going through as my own daughter was stillborn. It is so so hard.

I totally understand the desire to get pregnant again straight away. Have you spoken to anyone about future pregnancies yet? I found it helpful to do activities to prepare myself for a new pregnancy, so I made myself a swimming fitness routine, in order to help my physical recovery. I don't know if this would be at all appropriate for you.

Be kind to yourself. You don't have to be strong either if you don't want to.

I'm so very sorry verunka