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My Mum has died, just sixteen days after I lost my Dad.

209 replies

LilRedWG · 23/02/2009 01:30

Following on from this thread: My lovely Mum passed away this evening, she had suffered so long and hard with her health and just didn't want to keep going after Dad died.

We withdrew all treatment and she died peacefully, with four of her six children with her in hospital.

I've not cried yet, despite being with her and having to telephone my sister (who lives in the US) and tell my DH.

Thank you all for your support over the past weeks. x

OP posts:
NorbertDentressangle · 23/02/2009 17:25

So sorry to hear this LilRed.

2shoes · 23/02/2009 17:26

LilRedWG glad to here you are going away fro a break

francagoestohollywood · 23/02/2009 17:38

My goodness Lilred, I'm so sorry for your loss

sowhatis · 23/02/2009 17:40

so sorry to hear you are going through such a traumatic time. thinking of u xx

tots2ten · 23/02/2009 17:52

I'm so sorry for your loss

elsiepiddock · 23/02/2009 18:31

I am so sorry for your loss, Lilred.

I had seen your other thread, it's terribly tragic.

I hope your mum and dad are reunited somewhere now x

MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 23/02/2009 18:32

I'm so sorry to hear this LilRed

TheFallenMadonna · 23/02/2009 18:43

So sorry to hear this. Wishing you strength.

Hassled · 23/02/2009 18:48

Centre Parcs sounds like a good idea - sometimes a change of scene helps you get your head around things.

When everything has settled down I really urge you to get some bereavement counselling. The loss of a remaining parent is a very significant part of anyone's life - I felt abandoned at first. And you've had this awful double whammy of them going so close together - it's going to be so hard for you, and bereavement counselling can really help.

NancysGarden · 23/02/2009 19:32

Oh my godde lilred, I had no idea. I am so so sorry. You poor poor thing. I can#t believe it.

I don#t know what else to say. It's just awful. My heart goes out to you and I wish you strength.

xxxx

winnie09 · 23/02/2009 19:36

LilRedWG, I am so sorry

AitchTwoOh · 23/02/2009 19:37

terribly sorry for your losses, lilred.

MaureenMLove · 23/02/2009 19:51

Oh LilRed, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Thinking of you and sending you lots of

Mintyy · 23/02/2009 19:55

RIP LilRed's Mum and Dad. You were obviously very much loved.

Wishing you every strength and support in the weeks and months ahead LilRed.

dizzydixies · 23/02/2009 20:08

oh LilRed am so sorry, I only came on to try and find your other thread to see how you were doing. I cannot believe that this has happened and am so sorry for what you are going through.

I can only echo everything that has already been said, I shall be thinking of you and hoping you and your family find comfort and peace in the fact your lovely mum and dad are together again

take care darling

Sidge · 23/02/2009 20:31

Oh LilRed I am so so sorry.

So much sadness for you in such a short space of time. My thoughts are with you xxx

womblingfree · 23/02/2009 20:44

I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Like many others have said, I hope in time it will be a comfort that both your parents are at peace and with each other, although I can't imagine how much harder it must make it for you and your family at the moment.

cluttercup · 23/02/2009 20:49

So so sorry. Take courage in what your Mum and Dad meant to you and what strength they obviously instilled in you. Above all be kind to yourself and know you are in people's thoughts. xx

MrsMerryHenry · 23/02/2009 20:55

Really sorry, LilRed. What a huge loss in such a short space of time. I hope you can find small ways to find time for yourself in the coming months and years. Don't take anything too slowly with regard to dealing with your grief, just take it as it comes.

A good friend of mine said, after both his parents had died, that it was time for him to 'be kind to himself' - treats, time alone, whatever that may mean for you, it will help you to start to cope with things. Maybe in a year's time or more you might want to celebrate your parents with a champagne toast? We're doing that in a few weeks' time.

Big hugs to you xxxxx

MrsMerryHenry · 23/02/2009 20:56

x post cluttercup 'be kind to yourself'!

mortica · 23/02/2009 20:57

Lilredwg i am so sorry. I followed your original post last week and have been checking back since.

I know it probably doesnt help but at least they are reunited again.

Be strong x

abbierhodes · 23/02/2009 21:02

So sorry Lilred. What a terrible time for you. Take comfort from those around you, and remember that the pain will pass, slowly but eventually.

RustyBear · 23/02/2009 21:35

LilRed, I'm so sorry to hear this.
Thinking of you.

mrstimlovejoy · 23/02/2009 21:39

so so sorry for your loss,how awful for you and your family.take care x

NormaJeanBaker · 23/02/2009 22:12

What dark days for you and your family you poor things. Have had a series of bereavements here too and you might feel a bit mad for a while - don't panic and get help if you need it. A good book about bereavement is by Virginia Ironside and is called 'You'll get Over it'. Shares a lot of experiences which some days might help but other times you might want to chuck it at the wall.

Take care of yourselves and hang in there.
x