Brother dying

[TodaysJessicaFletcher]

My brother is 55 and in a hospice, he has cancer almost everywhere, we’ve been called in to see him and he has two young children. His ex wife is bringing them to the hospice today too and we are taking them in to see their dad they are 10 and 12. I want to be strong but I don’t want to say the wrong things to any of them. My brother and I like podcasts so when it’s just us I thought we could listen and maybe read a book, I thought I’d ask the kids what we should choose to read. Does anyone have suggestions what I say and do to bring comfort. If I can.

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother OP. So young too.

My DH died two years ago aged 59, so I've been through this recently. My husband got comfort from hearing our (young adult) DC talk about their happy memories from their childhood, holidays etc. Even if your DB can't respond in any way, it may bring him peace to hear his children's voices, especially if they're relating fun times. If it wouldn't upset you or them too much, whilst sitting with DB maybe initiate gentle conversation around things that have brought them joy? You could begin by relating some of your own memories from growing up with your DB - holidays, when he's made you laugh, when he was being goofy etc - and then prompt them to share similar.

I hope your visit goes as smoothly as possible.

Thank you, that’s what I’ll try to do xx

And I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this too x