I’m such a mess

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I’m in such a mess!

My mother passed away a few months ago. My daughter and I were with her at the end. Her funeral was in April but she wanted her ashes buried on a specific date later this year (with my dad).

I wasn’t going to go because of family crap but suddenly tonight I’m in pieces. I’ve asked the funeral director to keep me some ashes back and now I want to be there when they bury her. I have no idea what to do, how I’ll get there or how I’ll cope on the day.

what do other people do in these circumstances?

So sorry you are going through this.

If you want to go then go, you are not expected to cope in a certain way, grief is very personal and there is no wrong or right way to feel.

If you are worried about the family issues you can always go to the burial and leave straight after, would your daughter go with you?

If you want to be there then go, you don’t have to speak to anyone, you can just go to the burial and leave if that’s what you want.

it’s time like this that you should do what you want, sod anyone else,