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Funeral poems

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Nomoreanymoreplease · 29/11/2025 07:57

Thoughts on these. My brother passed away last month. We used to be quite close but due to various difficulties we’re weren’t over the last few years.
Any thoughts on these these poems that I might read at the funeral :
Bird in Mist’ by Anonymous
At times like this,
We may look through books for the perfect words
To give form to our feelings,
Make the thing complete,
Set the matter at rest.
Yet, in hours of searching,
Each piece lies rejected – too precise, too difficult, too sweet,
Too harsh, implying what we do not wish to say.

But, look into the grey wide sky,
And the thoughts will come like this:
Remember me when I loved you most and you loved me most.
Remember me when I was my bravest and I did you right.
Then, let that be our secret bond
And, let us rise in the morning and enjoy the light
And know that the bird in the mist is returning to the sun.
or
The Star
A light went out on Earth for me
The day we said goodbye
And on that day a star was born,
The brightest in the sky
Reaching through the darkness
With its rays of purest white
Lighting up the Heavens
As it once lit up my life
With beams of love to heal
The broken heart you left behind
Where always in my memory
Your lovely star will shine
Catherine Turner

OP posts:
PersephoneParlormaid · 29/11/2025 08:44

Have a look at Miss Me, But Let Me Go.

marthasmum · 29/11/2025 08:46

Of course this will be your personal choice OP, but I think the first one is absolutely beautiful in the circumstances and says it all. I had the same job of looking for readings when my dad died last year and appreciate how hard it is to find the right one. I’m so sorry for your loss, especially if the relationship was a difficult one. My dad had dementia, very different circumstances but it is complicated to lose and grieve someone you had a complex relationship with. Sending lot of love.

Aligirlbear · 30/11/2025 17:29

Sorry for your loss. Based on how you have described your relationship with your brother I would go with the first one

MannersAreAll · 30/11/2025 17:30

They are lovely.

I love The Dash by Linda Ellis for funerals

rainbowruthie · 30/11/2025 17:32

I second 'The Dash' it is very clever

I also like 'If I should go...' Joyce Grenfell

I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

x2boys · 01/12/2025 07:45

PersephoneParlormaid · 29/11/2025 08:44

Have a look at Miss Me, But Let Me Go.

My sister read this at my mums funeral earlier this year ,beautiful words.

Wonderknicks · 01/12/2025 08:02

The dash is a lovely reading

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