Sudden death of parent

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My poor old dad was found very recently deceased today. We did everything we could but he was already gone.

I know it’s to be expected, I really do but I feel like I’ll never sleep again. And I need to be safe to drive home tomorrow and let my children know in person. 😭

My brain just keeps whirring.

Hi @user1492122750 you must be so relieved its done and that it went well. We're still waiting on the death certificate here. I have a lot of support and it's nice to know so many thought well of her. I know I felt relief after my dads funeral many years ago and that in time the grief faded - we still kept talking about him and what he would have made of the changes in the last 20 years! Mum will be with him now. That's what I keep telling myself anyway.

My dad’s funeral is at the beginning of June. I will be glad when that’s over too.

my holiday is helping me a great deal. My parents visited here some years back and they liked it as well.

@user1492122750 I'm glad the funeral went well. It is such a relief once over and it has gone well. I felt massive relief when my DM's funeral was over a few weeks ago. It was a beautiful day and I found the funeral comforting.

@AttilaTheMeerkat glad you are having a break away, a change of scene does you good.

@mrsfollowill sorry this has also happened to you with your dear DM.

It's 7 weeks since I lost my DM suddenly. She was 85. My DF 88 is left but doing very well. It's such a hard thing to take in I can't understand why she's not at home, why I wouldn't get a reply to a text I send her (even though I have her mobile) and when I'm going into M&S I still think I will bump into her. I hope this is normal feelings and I'm not mad (just sad). I think I have felt it worse this week because it was my birthday the other day - it was a strange day.

My mum died 5 months ago, I lived my whole life with her and I find hard to cope with her death, but I brought this little book from amazon which helps. I'm 49 years old, when she died I thought I could cope, but it's difficult, I know what you are going through 😢

My father in law died on 18/06/25 very unexpectedly in another country. Trying to sort things out there and here in UK. We live 279 miles away from him and have young children. He had 40 yrs of life on his property that need to be sorted. We are the only relatives. It’s hard to find the mental energy to deal with it all.

How much time did you take off work with the death of a parent? It’s been hard enough with my father in law. I’m dreading it when it’s my actual parent.

My beautiful mother died suddenly just over 2 years ago and the pain I’ve felt has been horrendous and nothing like I’ve ever experienced before. She was so young, just turned 60, died of a massive heart attack no warnings before, just so unexpected. I still haven’t fully accepted it. I don’t even know what my dad said when he told me she died, I thought it was my partner that told me, it’s just completely blanked out. I avoid doing anything I use to do with her, can’t watch certain movies or tv shows and can’t listen to certain music. I was tormented for months when she died, I was going crazy thinking of ways that we could bring her back, what could I do, how could I change what happened. I’m still heartbroken and miss her everyday. The grief and shock of a sudden death is unbearable. I’m so sorry for all your loses and what you are all going through. The loss of your mother is horrendous, I feel so lost without her, like I have lost my grounding in the world. Agree with others that it comes in waves, people say or gets easier but it hasn’t for me yet. Much love to you all ❤️❤️❤️