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Lost my 18 yr old daughter

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NeatLilac24 · 17/12/2024 06:19

Hi all,
I lost my daughter on 8th of December (she likely died on the 7th).
I just don’t know how to get through the funeral…..it’s really tough to even speak at this point.

OP posts:
legosnowqueen · 26/12/2024 08:46

So sorry for your loss & the tough Christmas Day @NeatLilac24

It's good your DS was able to spend the day with your sister & family.

Sending love & strength Flowers

Igmum · 26/12/2024 10:50

So so sorry @NeatLilac24 sending love ❤️ Flowers

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 26/12/2024 12:47

@NeatLilac24 dh did this a few weeks ago when the anger he felt bubbled over. He hasn't done it since.

I know now is probably too soon but dh has got a lot out of our local Andys Man Club l. Might be worth suggesting ot to your dh when he is ready.

Compassionate Friends is also worth getting in touch with. Dh found the first meet up with them massively beneficial. It is run by other parents who have lost children. It helped him knowing that what hebwas feeling/going through was "normal".

I'm glad your son got to have his Christmas Dsy.

You did the right thing!

Just take each day as it comes.

Waterbaby41 · 26/12/2024 12:54

NeatLilac24 · 26/12/2024 08:40

Thanks for sharing @Rainbowdrop22 and to everyone for their support. Yesterday was horrendous honestly - my son wanted something a bit ‘normal’ for Christmas Day so he was able to join my sister and the rest of the family for lunch - I’m amazed at how much resilience he’s shown.
My husband and I couldn’t face sitting down to a big meal so we stayed home. He spent most of the day slowly crawling into a bottle and by 7pm he was howling and needed to be fed and put to bed - I know he’s grieving too, but I hope that he got the drinking part out of his system because I don’t have the energy or patience to babysit an adult just now.

I am so sorry you and your family are having to face this saddest of times. The only advice I can give is to take things one minute at a time, be kind to yourself and others, and (gently) remember that all of you will grieve differently and at different times - there is no right or wrong way. Sending a hand to hold.

CallMeBettyBoop · 26/12/2024 17:21

I'm so very sorry for your loss OP. Will be thinking about you and your family in the days and weeks to come Flowers

Pennyplant19 · 26/12/2024 20:47

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. Sending virtual hugs 💐

stressedatbestt · 03/01/2025 18:47

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I lost my sister through suicide late November, it still doesn’t feel real. I hope you’re doing ok as you can be

AuntieMarys · 04/01/2025 11:47

I hope you have got through the festive period ok. I joined the Compassionate Friends forum but couldn't bear it. I feel a bit more normal now work is imminent and I have things to do
We have the inquest at the end of the month but I'm not attending

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