Lost my 18 yr old daughter

[NeatLilac24]

Hi all,
I lost my daughter on 8th of December (she likely died on the 7th).
I just don’t know how to get through the funeral…..it’s really tough to even speak at this point.

Sorry seems such an inadequate word, for such a gut wrenching loss, hold each other tight.Be gentle with each other, we all process grief in different ways.I find that time doesn’t heal it just makes the pain a little more bearable.
Life will never be the same, but make yours count, in memory of your poor girl.

Sending you much love and gentle hugs @NeatLilac24. I am so, so sorry xx

I hear you. My 21 year old daughter passed away exactly 6 weeks ago. I delegated a lot. The funeral was hard, but what made it a teeny tiny bit easier was more than 150 came to honour her life. She touched so many lives. The days after the funeral are the hardest. Reality hits. People go quiet. Take each day by the hour. Xx

I am so sorry . I do not have the words . I lost my daughter at 19 4 years ago . The advise to just survive minute by minute is so true . I still take one day at a time . Like you , I have a son to protect . Pm me any time x

I’m so sorry for all the pain you are in. I lost my 19 year old son in July and devastated is such an understatement. Sending you much love, please pm me if you want to x

Sending sympathy and strength. Do you want to tell us a bit about her?

I lost a close friend in the 6th form suddenly and remember her funeral so vividly. Her mum told me years later that although it felt final, it also brought her comfort. I know that the doctor prescribed something for her to help her through those early days. Might that be an option for you?

All my sympathy, it must be so very hard to lose a child you love so dearly x

I'm so sorry to hear this.Thinking of you 💐

I'm so sorry, OP, I wish there was something I could say to take your pain away but I just want you to know that I am thinking of you and your family 💔🫂

I'm so sorry. That must be devastating for you all.

Oh darling I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you peace and love ❤️

I am so sorry to read this op. I hope you find the strength to get through the really dark days

I just want to say I am thinking of you, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find moments of peace at this difficult time ❤️

So sorry and grief is human ... your dear daughter knew your love .. which will endure. Lots of people on here thinking of you right now

I am so sorry for your loss. There are many of us here who know the pain of losing a child. I will be thinking of you and your husband and son at this desperately sad time.

God bless xx

Have a big hug for today. I hope that you are all coping.

I’m really late to this, but I just wanted to send a hug. My 16 year old died in March and those early days are still very vivid.

I know there’s nothing I can say that will really help, but just know that there are others, like me, who know how you feel. Grief, I think especially when you’ve lost a child, is so isolating and it feels like the rest of the works is going about their normal business while your life has been blown apart. It’s the hardest thing in the world.

I’m thinking of you and your daughter and hoping you find just a tiny moment of peace, or distraction today.

How are you doing today? Hugs to all the family.

I'm so very sorry for your loss OP.

@NeatLilac24 I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Thinking of you and your daughter x

Sending love and condolences. I am so sorry. I lost my son who was 24. I saw him in the mortuary, but could not face the inquest. It is lonely and scary at first. You feel so lost and wanting. Christmas does not help. All I can say is that you are not alone. One step at a time. It will ease - very, very slowly, but you will get through this. I promise.

@NeatLilac24 hope you all got through Christmas ok.

Thanks for sharing @Rainbowdrop22 and to everyone for their support. Yesterday was horrendous honestly - my son wanted something a bit ‘normal’ for Christmas Day so he was able to join my sister and the rest of the family for lunch - I’m amazed at how much resilience he’s shown.
My husband and I couldn’t face sitting down to a big meal so we stayed home. He spent most of the day slowly crawling into a bottle and by 7pm he was howling and needed to be fed and put to bed - I know he’s grieving too, but I hope that he got the drinking part out of his system because I don’t have the energy or patience to babysit an adult just now.

So tough @NeatLilac24