Christmas

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Yoyoyo1 · 09/12/2023 20:35

My dad died in March. He loved Xmas. I thought I was ok. We decorated the tree today. I couldn't stop crying. It was the lights. Dad loved them. My son said something was missing after we'd finished. It was. Dad. How can he not be here? I will never see him again. Where is he? Where is he?

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user628468523532453 · 09/12/2023 20:38

I'm so sorry. The first Christmas can be really tough and small moments can catch you off guard.

Be kind to yourself and just do what's manageable. 💐

user628468523532453 · 09/12/2023 20:48

Do you want to talk about your dad?

I was reading these recently about coping with bereavement at Christmas, sharing in case they are helpful to you:

https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/bereavement-information/support-for-yourself/christmas

https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/managing-grief/christmas/

Coping with grief at Christmas

Christmas can be painful after a bereavement. Find advice to help you cope with your grief over the holiday season.

https://www.sueryder.org/how-we-can-help/bereavement-information/support-for-yourself/christmas

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Yoyoyo1 · 09/12/2023 21:39

Thank you. He was wonderful. Kind, clever and funny. We all loved and adored him. We miss him enormously.

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user628468523532453 · 09/12/2023 21:47

He sounds like a very special person and a lovely dad.

Knackeredhamster · 11/12/2023 06:48

I'm so sorry.
I lost my mum in September and I'm not sure how to do Christmas or how to feel about it.

Many hugs to you. I understand 🙏 xxxxxx

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