Does anyone else dream about their deceased?

[ColeensBoot]

I do. It is so distressing in the dream and the day or so after.

I'm dreaming I'm able to see him and talk to him. And hug him. And yet somehow can't quite communicate. Obviously as it's a dream. But I don't realise this at the time. Waking up exhausted. And so so sad.

What can I do? Or just nothing?

Anyone been through this?
Thanks

I lost a parent as a child and still dream about them now decades later. I find it quite reassuring, a way of preserving them. I also know that crushing feeling of waking and remembering every morning and being filled with grief. But I can also tell you that with time the grief eases.
Sending love to those dealing with grief, especially the posters who have recently lost loved ones. X

My Gran died 13 years ago. I dream about her or being in her house 2 or 3 times a week still. I still struggle when I wake up and remember she is gone.

My dad died back in 2001. I frequently dreamt about him for a couple of years. Then I had a very vivid dream where we were stood by an open doorway on a hill. He could go through the door but I couldn’t. He told me it was goodbye for now but we would see each other again one day. I’ve not dreamed about him since.

I dream of one late grandpa, but not of any of the other dead grandparents. I’ve even dreamt of his father that I never met. Not sure what it signifies if anything. I feel as if it’s my late paternal grandma who is the protective force at the moment.

I've been dreaming about my grandad a lot recently, he died several years ago now. Sometimes he's ill like he was before he died and other times he's how I remember he was when I was a child.

Complicated. I dream (have nightmares about?) some members of my family frequently.

My father died 40 years ago. His presence in my dreams is generally 'neutral'.

My mother died 25 years ago (quite disabled). I am very bitter about her effect on my life but my dreams about her are split between trying to help her and incoherent rage at her.

My wife (difficult relationship, to put it politely) died 10 years ago, leaving me with two young children. In my dreams I'm occasionally very angry with her but when she features in my dreams, she usually disappears early on (= abandoned by).

My mum died in 2011 and she has appeared in a few of my dreams, it makes me feel close to her and then Ive lost her again in the morning when I wake up. Dad died in 2019 and I had one dream with both of them in. That was such a disappointment when I woke up.

I dream about my father a lot and they are nearly always happy dreams. Initially I would wake up and remember he was dead and be hit afresh with the loss but that doesn't happen anymore, I know he is dead.

I never dream of my beloved friend but I still can't bear the loss so maybe that is why.

My beloved grandparents come and join us in my dreams, even though they died more than half my life ago. I’m aware in my dream that they can’t stay, but we are all happy together during the dream; then, at the end, we walk to the edge of a wood, with a timber fence and a big gate in it. They go through the gate, together, while we stay on the other side of the fence. They look back once and wave happily before they walk away into the wood. I wake up crying every time.

I’m so glad I found this thread. My Dad died 2 weeks ago and for the past few nights I’ve been having very vivid dreams about him. In my dreams, he’s how he used to be before he got cancer, full of life and fun and laughing.

The dreams feel so real and comforting in a way but when I wake up, I think they’re real for a second, then remember that he’s really gone which is heartbreaking.

@Mochudubh

‘My Mum also died in 2014. I have recurring dreams where she turns out to be still alive and I have to go round explaining to everyone that I made a mistake and she isn't dead after all, apologise to my boss for taking the time off etc.

When I wake up it always takes me a few minutes to convince myself the dream isn't real and we've got her death certificate, had a funeral and scattered her ashes.

Funny thing is, in my dream she's always the age she would be now, not when she died or younger.’

This is amazing! Thank you 😊

I have never seen an exact description of what happened to me. Not my DM, but they died naturally but very unexpectedly in 2014. Dream it was all a big mistake and I'll have to let their boss know …..

As you say, it takes a few minutes on waking to realise it was a dream, seems more real than real life

I’ve only had four dreams about my mum and all of them were signposts for what was to come.

in 2017 I dreamed she would die before her time. I was distraught and couldnt talk about it for years. She was diagnosed with a heart condition that year but never told anybody 😩

in 2021 I dreamt she died and I was absolutely fine, strong capable and able to move forward. Obviously I never told her but it was immensely empowering.

in September I dreamed there was an black animal in my kitchen who was seriously injured and we couldn’t help her. My mum has black hair and was very I’ll at the time. I woke and realised there was prob sky not much hope.

when she was on ICU I dreamed that we were dragging her about holding her head up and forcing her to do stuff like putting the kettle on because we couldn’t face it. I woke up and knew that death was the right thing for her and accepted it.

then she did die and I haven’t had any dreams of her.

each of those dreams have been really important to me and I’m grateful for each of them.

I've just lost my best friend and I dreamt of her last night x

Maybe check on youtube Matt Fraser Psychic dreams and spirit visitations

Im exoeriencing this too. My mum died 3 months ago. Until last week I hadn't dreamed about her but for the last week nights I've dreamt about her every night. It's so upsetting. I woke up this morning after dreaming she was knocking on my front door. I couldn't get the door unlocked and just as I was able to, I woke up. All I wanted to do was go back to sleep, open the door and hug her as hard as I could.
I'm so conflicted. I want the dreams to stop because I find it so distressing when I wake up, but the only time I see her now is in my dreams, so I don't want them to stop.

I dream about my dead family members from time to time. Sometimes they are just in the dream and part of the whole story. Other times I remember they are dead and we talk for a bit, which is comforting. Sometimes knowing they are dead will set me off into a lucid dream, which is great because then I can consciously talk with them and it feels absolutely real.

I had the best goodbye dream with my sister a year or two after she died. We were strolling along together and I was very distressed, tearfully telling her how much I missed her. She comforted me and we hugged. I hardly ever dreamt of her after that and I believe that it was a visitation rather than just a dream.
(She was the first person I was close to who died and I had the sort of experiences where she would be everywhere I looked at first. I would see her on a bus driving by, or glimpse her in a crowd. On one occasion, I followed a woman who looked identical to her round the (old) Tate galley for ages, half convinced it was her, knowing it couldn't be.)

My dad died 2 months ago at the age of 72. He was my best friend.
I dream about him almost every other day. In my last dream, the minutes hand on my watch were turning back and I see him coming though the door and as I sit next to him on the chair, he turns backs to his younger self and tells me that he is okay and in peace.
It felt very real.

Last night I dreamt about my DH who died two years ago.

We were in our bed and he was holding me, we were close and it felt so real

I woke up and was alone.