Was I insensitive

[MrsAppleHead]

Sorry to ask but if someone said "I won't come to the funeral I didn't know her well" would you find it rude/insensitive? I just said it to someone - the persons partner - extended with "I just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you all" and felt really rude after.
I am not one of those people who goes to every funeral going as I see them as quite personal things. But I feel like I just put my foot in it. I only went to drop a card off and didn't intend to intrude but they were on the doorstep when I got there. I am sure they have much more on their mind but just didn't want to offend if I have?

I wouldn’t worry. It’s probably been forgotten. The bereaved remember the people that cross over the road to avoid talking to them or who drop contact. They also remember the grief vampires who come to the funeral and hang around for days checking that the bereaved is ok when they are merely acquaintances (my parents fit this role).

Youll be remembered for paying respects with a card. That’s fine.

Yes awful. You could have said so sorry for your loss thinking of you and that's it. Such a sensitive time and you're only thinking about what YOU will and won't do.

In my experience they would have appreciated the card and not dwelled on your explanation for not attending the funeral. The effort to write and deliver the card shows you care and that you are thinking of their loss. As another poster has written, it is the 'friends' who don't send cards and don't reach out to those left behind who cause the most upset.