I am really sorry if this opens any old wounds for people, but could someone who has been through an early miscarage tell me exactly what came out?

[NatalieJane]

I know that is awful, but couldn't think how else to ask.

Oh sweetheart i'm sorry to hear you are having a bad day. Avoid all the miserable people and stay where it is safe, here

I hope your evening improves, have a G&T >

Tomorow is another day. Physically how are you? No pain, fever or anything?

Lots of love to you xxx

Thanks LG&T, I am OK pain wise, sometimes a bit of dull ache in the pit of my stomache but think that is more down to the stress and upset than the MC. No fever or anything, occasionally get a bit queasy and other times a bit shaky, but most of the time I am OK.

Just really tired, hardly sleeping, can barely eat anything, kind of gone into my own little world and I think it is only blocking out the other stuff that is keeping me going really.

The main thing, is that I just really want the bump to go down, it is still getting bigger by the day, feels so cruel.

Thinking of you today NJ. I hope the pain stops soon and you lose the little bump. It must be torture for you. It may be worth seeing the doc for a scan i think just to check it has all gone.

Talk to people you know will be supportive, dont block it all up inside. Lots of love xx I am on the May 2006 postnatal thread if you need to find me xx

Thank you LG&T, and everyone, being able to talk about it on here without having to actually say it all out loud really does help

There was a lot of thick, like a syrup consistancy blood. And then there was a sac like clot. I didnt have a d&c either, but if your at all worried , see your g.p anyway. When i had my miscarrige, i didnt feel i had enough support, and would not wish how i was feeling on anyone.

sorry NJ im way behind here, didnt realise this has been going on for a few days, you must be so pissed off! What have the docs said and why wont your bump go down?

That's OK Trish, thank you for your reply anyway.

I haven't been to the doc's yet, didn't seem much point. The bleeding is starting to slow down and it is fresh red blood only little tiny clots every now and then, can't believe how easy it is to type about these things, if I had to say that to someones face I would curl up in a ball first!

I am guessing it is just all the hormones as to why it hasn't gone down, I think it is starting to go the other way, it was quite firm-ish, now feels a bit softer and wobbly like. In fact it isn't un-like how your belly is after giving birth.

sorry to semi hijack your thread nataliejane - but just a quick thing (which i've been meaning to ask about for ages but havn't found the right thread)

...i had a miscarriage at 10 weeks but it's possible the baby stopped growing before (although couldn't tell because had to wait ages for a scan and by then it was too late).

when i first started bleeding it was light brown spotting like old blood at the end of your period..for 2 days.
then i started having very heavy period like pains, over a day or two they got much worse and i started bleeding bright red blood which over a few hours got darker and i was in much more pain than i had ever been with a period....by the time i was on my way to A&E i was having crippling contraction like pains every minute or so and a horrible feeling in my back/side as if my muscles were all twisted. this continued for 3 hours waiting in A&E waiting room and then on a hospital bed until the gave me morphine which really helped with the pain. when the did the scan the lady said 'im sorry, there's nothing there' and then i was told i'd had a 'complete miscarriage' they sent me home with a lot of painkillers and i bled 'normally' for about 2 or 3 weeks afterwards.

the thing is..on my sanitary towel in hospital whenever i went to the loo i never saw anything...apart from blood and small period size clots - nothing unusual and I wasn't even bleeding that heavily compared to the amount of pain i was in!
i do remember feeling something small (TMI alert) 'plop' into the toilet (from my fanjo) while i was in hospital but i never looked to see ... but that's it..!

(god, sorry this is long )

everyone on MN describes their miscarriage as having lots of clots and stringy stuff and something resembling a sac/foetus etc. but i never saw anything like that but then when i had the scan the radiographer said there was nothing there. what do you think happened then?

n.b i was definately pregnant as i had an early scan to confirm my dates and saw the foetus.

I expect I am all hormonal or something but had a really wobbly moment today! My beloved Dad died just over 11 years ago, which is ages and yet still just yesterday.

My DSs go to the same primary school that I did when I was a child 30 + years ago which I loved and where I was very happy. I had a very happy childhood and love my parents to the ends of the earth. This lunchtime I walked through the playground to get DS2 from the pre-school and walked past a big old tree that was there when I was little and has a very strong and distinctive nice smell. I have no idea what kind of tree it is but I don't know of any others anywhere. It being a warm day it was smelling very strongly and it reminded me so much of when I was little in that same playground - It took me straight back to a happy safe and carefree time without any of todays problems and fears and just suddenly got a catch in my throat and found my self sobbing my eyes out for my Dad. I had to go in and get Ds2 as it was picking up time and the other Mums were already coming out so I had to go in with wet, red eyes. The teachers must think I am nuts.

Does anyone else do this is or it me just being an emotional nutcase??

Oh no - so sorry - this came up as a post in your thread - it was meant to be new one!

I'm a mess today! Ignore me!

sorry for your loss nataliejane. I found out I had a blighted ovum earlier this week after a scan (had light bleeding with period-like cramps so midwife phoned to get me booked in to EPU for early scan). they told me the sac was there but no embryo - anembryionic pregnancy.
I miscarried on friday (by this point was 11+5 days according to LMP), large clots, lots of blood, lasted around 7 hours of continuous bleeding and contractions (just like labour pains). I am now in no pain, very light bleeding so assuming that I've passed most, if not all, the sac and surrounding tissue.

Hope this is of some help to others who have been through this, or are going through this just now.

I found talking to a friend who has had a mc very helpful since this has happened. talking is such a great therapy. it's good to get it out into the open.