I am really sorry if this opens any old wounds for people, but could someone who has been through an early miscarage tell me exactly what came out?

[NatalieJane]

I know that is awful, but couldn't think how else to ask.

Oh NJ i hope you are ok. Lots of love and hugs to you. I really think oyu need to go and see the GP to be checked out though. xxxx

NJ - my mother has also been very upset.

Give yourself time, physically it may not be over yet, and your hormones will be all over the place.

I am all over the place TBH. Suppose it is to be expected.

I'm thinking of you NJ - please try to go easy on yourself this week and just let yourself do what you feel you need to do, whether that be to curl up in bed with a hot water bottle and sob your heart out or go shopping and buy some divine shoes....

What about your dh? How is he?

He is OK, I don't think it has really hit him yet, he was pussy-footing around yesterday trying to do the right thing, but what is the right thing?

I think he is more worried about me than about how any of it affects him.

There is no right thing, apart from just being there for you.

my ex struggled with what to do/ say etc so just decided to go and get trollied at the pub - glad your dh sounds nothing like this!

No, he is a good man, even did the hoovering for me yesterday, and cooked me a lovely roast dinner (even though most of it went in the bin) and he didn't mind at all

I am feeling really sick, is that normal?

Yes NJ - it's a mixture of your emotional upset with the period type pain and general 'messed upness' inside.

Can you curl up on the sofa with dc and a blanket and watch a DVD or something?

No not really, I'll fall asleep, and then I'll be late picking DS1 up! Nice thought though

God it has only been 24 hours but it feels like a bloody lifetime already.

Can't someone else pick ds up? One of his friend's Mums etc - you can always ring the school to let them know.

Take some time out xx

No, he would hate it, and the school is literally only across the road. It'll be alright, I suppose I had better go and do something other than MN, haven't moved off here all day lol, DS2 is going stir crazy bless him.

Thanks again for all your help, it is very much appreiciated

just sen this nj so sorry hun is there anything i can do?x

Hiya Debs, how are you and ds doing?

I don't think there is, but thanks for asking, just trying to get my head around it all really. Sometimes I think I am getting on top of it, and then I kind of go off again.

I feel bad for being sad, as I said up there somewhere, how can I miss something that's lost, when I never knew it was there?

we are doing great thank you, ds walking talking and very funny ( light of my life )how are your dc?
You can be sad you have lost something that would have been precious to you hun.Sometimes in life and i know its very hard but sometimes, somethings just arent meant to be,at that time... there is always other times and im sure it will happen for you again.You should go to the dr though for an examination just to make sure there is no infection.How far were you?Take care Nat please let me know if you need anything at all im up your way thurs and fri x

The kids are fine thanks, George is a little chatter box, and DS1, well he just plods along

I said exactly the same to my hubby, with the two boys I kind of knew I was pregnant, before I did the tests, and I had no idea about this one, so it was obviously not going to be from the start.

DH keeps ringing asking if I want him to come home, but there is nothing he can do, he is better off being at work, doing something.

Thanks for your offer debs, but honestly there really isn't anything you can do, though you are more than welcome to stop for a coffee if you find yourself with some spare time It would be lovely to meet you after all this time!

Hey Nj

hope you are doing ok, you are allowed to feel sad or bewildered or whatever it is that you are feeling, be kind to yourself xx

Hiya Lulu

I was doing OK, but just had the question from a mum at school, she probably thinks I'm a right b*tch now. She asked if I was expecting no.3, and I didn't know what to say, she looked stumped and knew she'd put her foot in it, I just said not any more, and had to move away before I cried, that is the first time I have even got close to crying.

Am dreading DH coming home, he'll hug me and that will be it, I know it already.

have a good cry, you will feel much better

crying is really good for the soul

let it aaaaaaaalllllll out

poor woman is probably mortified and embarrased, i doubt she will think bad of you.

don't worry x

I can't kids about, DS1 already asked why my belly is fat, and why my jeans are un-done and why I'm sad, told him I had belly ache, don't know what else to say, he is too young to understand anything else.

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

oh dear

well, when DH gets home, run a bath, and get in it and have a good wail

xx

Think I might just do that Lulu.

Hope he has bought me some wine lol

NJ how are you today???

Angry, upset, pissed off generally, and fed up of old interfering hags who know no better than just being horrible for the sake of it. Other than that OK