My df died 4 yrs ago today.
Dm seemed to cope as well as she could considering they were married well over 50 yrs.
The strange thing is she sèms obsessed by death.
For example all her FB posts were about road accidents so I stopped following her as it was depressing.
Then she knew we went on a mini break where we had nearly all our summer hols and asked if I went to the crematorium where my g parents are.I never went to the funerals as my dc were small and they lived hundreds of miles away.
She seemed put out we didn't go to the crematorium and a bit snarky.
Obviously I know she is hurting I just don't understand her fixation on death.