Mums who understand, please share. I lost my child and I lost part of me....I can never forget him and never will.

[Vio]

My boy left me on 11 Sept, he lived only a little more than 4 months..its been nearly 2 months now...after what I have gone through.. I think I am quite fighter myself too, I do try and live happy but sometimes, deep deep down theres a wound...i doubt if it will ever heal. I don't feel it most of the time becos I don't want to stay miserable but when i do feel it , it hurts so much and I can cry non stop for a while...whenever I think of the final night we spent together, it made me sad and how much he had to put up with as a baby...I just wish he was given a chance to live, healthy and happily...

I'm so sorry. I've looked at Jimjim's photo and read your letter and tears are rolling down my face. He was a beautiful, beautiful child. I'm so sorry for your pain.

You are one brave and loving mum. JimJim's face tells me that he was so loved by you and where ever he is now, I am sure he is still feeling your love. Try to keep strong for yourself and family and think of JimJim in a beautiful place without any pain. There will be days when tears tumble down your face and there will be days when you cry so much that you run out of them. When that happens, you must take care of yourself. Life is not fair and don't blame yourself

You are in my thoughts and prayers. xxx

vio my daughter wont come on here but you can contact her on jayden jeffkyns danby site on gone toosoon she lost her son last year at seventy five days old to sids ,she would love to talk to you ,maybe you can help each other, she comes on internet here mon-fri when here thanks vio he truly is a wonderful little boy,thinking of youxx

thanks everyone, zeebee and hazygirl, yes, i think theres no right or wrong ways as to how you behave, I just think even after nearly 2 months..it seems like yesterday still and sometimes I find it hard to focus on anything. Having said that, I think I am coping okay so far, I don't cry everything and do try to live my life as happy as i can be...yes, i do cry sometimes but i have learned that life isn't perfect and when theres no option you just have to get on with it.

Thanks for your daughthers message, hazygirl, i will contact her via gonetoosoon.

Ahhh...so sorry vio. Heart-breaking. Nothing I can say.

((((Vio)))))

This is a book my friend wrote which you might find helpful. A Little Piece Of Me Gone

I'm so so sorry - I saw James's lovely handsome photo and read your letter crying. What a wonderful boy... I wish you all the very best xx

I am so sorry for your loss

I cannot imagine what you are going through. He was a lovely little boy, so beautiful. The angels will take care of him.

Thinking of you and your family.

Vio, I missed this earlier in the week, but followed your posts after James was born.

You have sounded so strong in the past, but god knows you are allowed to feel wretched about this. Life just seems so unfair

I've visited James' site; he was a gorgeous wee boy, and it sounded like he was very strong in the face of lots of pain.

You're in my thoughts often. xx

So so sorry for your loss. What a handsome boy he was.

such a georgous little boy.i dont know what you are going through but felt i wanted to say that im thinking of you.

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