My mum :(

[marmite92]

My incredible mum died suddenly a few hours ago, she had pancreatic cancer but was doing well, we spoke every day and I saw her all the time, but yesterday morning she developed sepsis after a bowel perforation and deteriorated very quickly. I am only in my 20s and my mum was only early 50s, I have absolutely no idea how I am going to cope and go on in life without her x

I’m so sorry. That’s terrible.

I'm so very sorry
No words
But I'm thinking of you

I am so sorry for your loss. Pancreatic Cancer is brutal, it took my dad a few years ago.

Nothing can prepare you for the speed this beast grows at, it's why it's the hardest of all cancers to treat and it has the lowest survival rate 😢

Use all the support services offered to you, and please few free to message me if you would like to talk.

Much love to you in this very sad time OP

Sending love. 💛

So sorry for your loss. I know you posted earlier seeking advice about pancreatic cancer.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I lost my mum suddenly too and it was devastating . The overwhelming sadness takes your breath away.
I hope you have support to get you through these first weeks without her. I remember spending hours talking on the phone to family members. It really helped to process the trauma.
Sending you the biggest virtual hug.
Take care

I'm so sorry for your loss

so sorry, @marmite92 [hug]

I am so so sorry for your loss please feel free to message me as I experienced similar you can ask me anything at all/let out your emotions on me if you wish. I lost my dad almost 2 years ago now to Prostate cancer, I was only 23 and he was 55 and really was my best friend he never got to meet my daughter and its been so difficult but I know when he was alive I did my best by him and he knew how much I loved him. I find peace in that and try to remember how lucky I was to have such an amazing dad, it doesn't make it easier but I'm very grateful for the 23 years I had with him. I'm just so sorry you've had to go through this please reach out if you need support as I didn't do this and it really made me struggle. You must be in such shock so much love to you xx

I am so sorry

Dh was 25 when his mum died. She was 52. You get through it. It's not easy. Some days are so hard. Support of family and friends help. So does time. You have my sympathies x

My heart goes out to you sweetie,I lost my lovely hubby of 45yrs in December and it has shattered my world,I am slowly coming out of the fog but it is such a sad time please take care and take all the support offered. xxxx

Thank you all so much for replying, I feel in a complete fog, I cannot wrap my head around seeing her the other day being completely fine to now gone. I feel like I will never get through this x

Marmite I’m so sorry to hear about your lovely mum . That is so hard and so unfair. X

So sorry for your lossyou will get through it op keep posting and if you need help with paperwork etc they are usually some lovely posters who can offer guidance/ help. I was 19 when my mom died she was only 52 I think about her every day.

I'm so sorry, it's so awful. Especially when they are taken before their "time". Just take it day by day and in time, counselling can help even if you feel you have lots of family and friends to talk to. Cruse are a free service.

You will get through it and it's a cliche but time is a great healer. I still miss my mum, it's been almost 10 years. I will miss her forever but you learn to adapt.

How are you op? It's so hard to lose your mum, especially when others just don't seem to understand. Have you listened to Griefcast? Really REALLY recommend to you xxx

@Lovelymonkeyninetynine I just feel in a daze. Some moments I seem to zone out and then this overwhelming wave hits me when I think of how I'll never speak to her again and everything she will miss out on. I'm finishing my phd in a few weeks and I just can't believe she won't be there to celebrate with me, it all feels pointless now. I haven't, but I will listen to it thank you for recommending it xx

Finishing your phd isn't pointless - do it for your mum sweetheart. It's what she would have wanted.

Thinking of you @Marmite

I am so very sorry.

Be kind to yourself and don't expect too much, or even anything at all, of yourself.

I lost my DM very suddenly in a car accident.
I'd already lost my DF when I was 26. He never saw me married or met my DC.
This is the very worst bit. You will get through it

This is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry.

So sorry OP.
I lost my mum when I was 20, 20 years ago. It is the most unimaginable pain.
It is still very sad and I miss her every day but I do have a good and happy life.
Take every moment and day as it comes.
I am sure she was so proud of you.
If you have family or close friends please let them know so that they can try and help you.
I wish you a lot of strength.

i'm so sorry for your loss.

This is heartbreaking.