Ive just spoken to my pal in the States and her ds's closest friend was killed along with his dad on Friday in a car accident. The mum is critical in hospital. I was going to write a note to my friend as she and her family are very upset natually but also as a Catholic feel I should get a Mass card for the mother. However I dont know her but remember we had loads of mass cards for my dad from people my mum didnt know so wondered whether I should or not? I feel the need is instilled into me but social etiquette may be overshadowing it.