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Is it happening again?

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tex111 · 10/09/2004 17:58

I had a missed m/c in June and just discovered that I'm pregnant again. It's very early days (AF was due yesterday) but I've had 6 clear ++ on home pregnancy tests since last Sunday and have felt pregnant all week.

Today I've been having a lot of period-like pains and when I took another HPT (I'm a total obsessive) it was ++ but lighter than the previous tests. Are these all signs of an impending m/c or am I just overreacting? I really don't know what to think and hate feeling so nuts about this. I don't even see my GP until Mon to report the pregnancy and I think I would feel silly calling the EPU when I'm so barely pregnant. Horrible feeling, not knowing what's going on in my body.

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tex111 · 13/09/2004 08:04

My temp dropped even further. I'm seeing the doc today but have really lost all hope.

I understand that with my hospital (Farnborough) they don't do any investigation until after three miscarriages. Can anyone recommend a website or book for info, stats, etc. I bought Lesley Regan's book and it's very helpful but I'd like to read more about it all. Terrified now that I'll never have another healthy baby.

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cab · 13/09/2004 08:21

Tex - the only thing I can think of is the Miscariage Association - who could advise on decent publications. You should have been given their leaflets etc earlier in the year.

Sorry to be dumb - but are you sure your temperature really has that much of an effect - and no AF!

Whatever Tex, still keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Hulababy · 13/09/2004 08:29

Good luck at the doctors Tex. Thinking of you.

cab · 13/09/2004 08:36

Got to go and drop wee one at nursery but did a quick google on pregnancy temperature and according to some site 'parents nest' - well down first google page - everyone's temperature varies during pregnancy. Hope that helps.

Azure · 13/09/2004 08:57

Tex111 sorry to hear about this scare. Fingers crossed that everything is ok for you.

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tex111 · 13/09/2004 10:25

Thanks so much for all your support. I got a -- HPT this morning so it looks like it really is over. I'm about to go see the doc and request a consultation with a private specialist. I'd like to at least get some blood tests done and hopefully rule out a few problems.

You guys have just been wonderful. Thank you so much.

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sweetheart · 13/09/2004 10:32

Tex,

Have been with you over on ttc9/ I'm so sorry to hear of whats been happening.

Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Did you mean your hospital is in Farnborough, Hants Eg Frimley Park Hospital. I'm local to there so if you want to chat you can CAT me.

I know they'll be soooo much support for you over on ttc if, and when your ready.

In the meantime I'm hoping everything is OK and this has been one big mistake.

Hugs to you and your dh of course

smellymelly · 13/09/2004 10:37

Tex111 - I have only just seen this, I am so sorry, I don't know what to say. Please don't give up hope....

cab · 13/09/2004 11:00

That's a real bummer Tex. They might give you various blood tests in any case - they did with me.

BeckiF · 13/09/2004 11:29

Tex, my heart goes out to you and I send lots and lots of love and a huge huge warm hug. Press your doc for investigations if you aren't happy, but do let us know the definite outcome. We are all here thinking of you.

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tex111 · 13/09/2004 11:56

I just don't know what to think. Saw the doc, and it just happened to be the doc at our surgery who had quadruplet boys through assisted conception. He basically said to just wait and see. I'm not really bleeding yet, just have a browny discharge (sorry TMI there). His advice was to stop the temping and just relax and, if this pregnancy doesn't work out, hopefully the next one will. He said that the fact that it was two in a row might not mean anything and didn't think that having tests done is necessary.

I just agreed at the time but I'm going to think about what he said and decide how I feel. A bit too wrought right now to think it through. I really have given up hope for this pregnancy though. I just feel it in my heart that it's gone. I would be thrilled to be proven wrong though!

I think also that I'm taking this m/c so hard because I'm still dealing with the pain of the last one. It can take me a while to deal with my emotions so this is like a double whammy, dealing with both of them at once. I'm glad it's all finally coming out though. I think I'll feel much better about everything once I've cried it out but I'm such a blubbery mess at the moment. I guess it all takes time.

Thanks so much for all your support here and on the TTC thread. You guys are making this so much easier to deal with.

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bluestar · 13/09/2004 12:16

Tex111, so sorry to hear what is happening. Hope that it isn't the end for this pg and just a scare. Thoughts are with you.

sweetheart · 13/09/2004 12:17

Tex11, wish I could grab hold and give you a great big hug.

Take your doctors advice and relax - getting yourself stressed won't help and you never know, everything might be fine.

I will be thinking of you and checking in on your thread all day. If you are local feel free to CAT me if you need to.

Take care and here's hoping for the very best for you.

MINNIE1 · 13/09/2004 12:35

Thinking of you Tex111

ebbie22 · 13/09/2004 12:37

tex111 are you online still?I havent got long...

Hulababy · 13/09/2004 12:39

Oh Tex So sorry. Try and relax, hard I know. Everyone here will support you whenever you neeed it, and e a shoulder to cry on too. Take care.

cab · 13/09/2004 12:40

Tex - fgs - I think if he had told me to wait and see I would have punched him. Sending hugs. Look after yourself.

ebbie22 · 13/09/2004 12:42

tex111 i got to go for now but will be online later if you need to chat...
Thinking of you...

LittleB · 13/09/2004 13:03

Sending you hugs and best wishes tex111.

Fonzie · 13/09/2004 13:46

Tex, thinking of you and the pain you must be going through. Look after yourself is the most important thing to do right now.

hewlettsdaughter · 13/09/2004 13:51

I hope very much that it isn't happening for you again tex111. If it turns out that it is - I am very sorry . I had 2 early m/cs last year before I had dd.

northstar · 13/09/2004 13:53

oh tex I'm so sorry you are having to go through this

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strawberry · 13/09/2004 14:11

How are you feeling tex?
We're all here for you

sweetheart · 13/09/2004 15:32

tex,

are you around???
Everyone would really like to know how your doing. We're all here with support for you.

millions of hugs coming to you.