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WHY AM I SO SURPRISED??

66 replies

lissie · 01/07/2007 16:13

4w5d and am pretty sure im having my 5th mc in 2y, started spotting and getting mild backache/cramps. im so fecking sick of this feeling, maybe i should just give up and leave my wretched useless body alone now

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AttilaTheMum · 01/07/2007 16:15

Oh, lissie I'm so sorry

willywonka · 01/07/2007 16:15
Carmenere · 01/07/2007 16:16

Oh I'm so sorry Lissie

berolina · 01/07/2007 16:16

Oh lissie

big hugs.

divastrop · 01/07/2007 16:16

(((((hugs)))))

i know i dont know you,but maybe its not what you think?spotting in early preg can be quite common.

i hope things turn out ok for you xxx

nomdeplume · 01/07/2007 16:23

How sad.

MsG · 01/07/2007 16:24

Hi Lissie, I really hope you're not... Can you go to A&E for a scan? xx

Peachy · 01/07/2007 16:26

Oh no Lissie

Nothing I can say but >a nd thinking of you X

Peachy · 01/07/2007 16:27

(but perhaps I should mention that my Mum had 5 babies lost before I was borna nd then my sisters so hope isn't lost)

lissie · 01/07/2007 16:30

got appt with gp on tues but if bleeding hasnt started properly by tomorrow i will ring epu and ask for a scan, but think it'll be too early anyway.

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Peachy · 01/07/2007 16:35

If bleeding hasn't started properly though it could be OK sweetie.

NormaStanleyFletcher · 01/07/2007 16:37

Oh Lissie

Hope you are wrong about what you think is happening.

Positive vibes coming your way from here.

alittlebitshy · 01/07/2007 16:40

oh sweetheart, i've been hoping i would not see a thread like this from you.
you poor poor thing.
I've (as you know from mothership!) just had my 2nd m/c in 3 months and that felt shitty enough..... but i know exactly how you feel about it feeling inevtitable. But it isn't inevitable, i am sure. Remember that even though you had a tough pg with ds you managed to get through it and I am sure it will happen again and you will have another beautiful dc in your arms. Hopefully even this pregnancy!!!
I know nothing we can say will help you, except knowing that we're here and that we care. and that some of us are praying for you!
Take all the care you can, rest, indulge in nice things and just try and stay positive.
(((lissie)))

Bellie · 01/07/2007 16:48

Oh Lissie - we have only 'spoken' a couple of times but my heart goes out to you. ((((hugs))))

I will keep my fingers crossed that it is just implantation bleeding.

Take Care xx

kimi · 01/07/2007 16:54

Lissie, hope it is not what you fear.
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hazygirl · 01/07/2007 17:00

thinking of you and praying all is well

fryalot · 01/07/2007 17:02

NO NO NO NO NO
FUCK

So sorry my darling.... hoping that it is not what you think

fryalot · 01/07/2007 17:02

(scuse language)

lulumama · 01/07/2007 17:05

oh no

saw the thread title, and my first thought was' i hope this isn;t lissie'

not that i would wish it on anyone, but so didn;t want you to have to deal with this again

if you are spotting, might not be inevitable.

you can bleed and not miscarry

even if you went for a scan now, before 5 -6 weeks, you are going to get little indication of a viable pregnancy, are you sure, are you sure that you are pregnant?

stupid question i know, but possible chemical pregnancy, as you got BFP so early

just want to make things ok for you

slottie · 01/07/2007 17:16

I just wanted to say I am very sorry you are having to go through this.

Bibis · 01/07/2007 17:17

I am so sorry that you are going through this, I hope that you get some answers as to why this happens to you

lissie · 01/07/2007 17:33

i got another bfp this morning. tbh im resigned to it now, had a bad feeling the last couple of days, ms had died off etc and its the same kind of stage that my previous mcs had happened

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lulumama · 01/07/2007 17:59

you could get a BFP even if the worst is happening.....I am just so terribly terribly sorry that you are going through this again

lissie · 01/07/2007 18:01

we see the specialist again on the 30th. not really sure what our options are. i think at some point we might have to just face facts tbh.

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lulumama · 01/07/2007 18:02

it aint over till its over though , is it

you can get pregnant, you need them to find out why you can't stay pregnant

have you had antiphospholid (sp?) blood tests...

do you take low dose aspirin?

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