Siblings after bereavment

[Sadoldbagpuss]

We've always been close enough but since mum died I'm feeling a bit suffocated, they phone loads and want to increase visiting. My dsis who lives abroad is already saying she will come stay at Christmas and I don't want her too I only like me dh and kids at Christmas, i feel like I'm a totally horrible person

No you are not horrible.

Everyone grieves differently.

For me it was hard enough to cope with my own grief, I certainly couldn’t deal with my family’s too, so I withdrew, similar to you. A couple of years on and relationships are more normal though different because of the person who is gone.

Look after yourself, do what is right for you