My mum committed suicide today

[twattymctwatterson]

It was her second attempt but thought the last one was a cry for help. She was so popular and loved, I know she was struggling but can't get my head around this.

I’m so sorry for your loss OP.

I can see how much you’re struggling with how to tell people. Why not say that your mum took an accidental over dose of her pain medication. That’s not too far from the truth I’m sure and it will allow you to side step the whole ‘suicide’ stigma which unfortunately does exist and frankly it shouldn’t. I’m a great believer that people deserve peace and of the person absolutely didn’t want to be here anymore then they have the right to get off the merry go round.

@twattymctwatterson
I am so very sorry. I've lost dear people to suicide, and you and your family are very much in my thoughts today.
This is an organisation who helps to support people who are bereaved by suicide. They are incredibly kind and will help and advise. There is a help line also.
uksobs.org/

Thanks @SleepFreeZone I'm not ashamed and I'm not interested in lying. Tbh i find it stranger that people have asked me how my mum died - don't understand why acquaintances feel they have the right to know. I live in a small town and people knew within hours - it doesn't help that my mum had worked in the hospital where she died for 25 years. It would just be odd to go around telling people she took an accidental overdose when all of her colleagues knew she hung herself. Btw it's really difficult to die even from a deliberate overdose of pain medication

Oh god I’m sorry, I assumed an overdose. I agree her chosen method is not something you could or should lie about.

People want to know because nowadays everyone thinks they have a right to ask and be told. I think social media fuels it. Instant gratification and just removed enough to not realise there are real people and raw emotions involved. Same thing goes on on this site where someone posts saying their life is falling apart and people post full stops so they can watch the thread. I want to punch the lot of ‘em.

There's no easy way through this, twatty. What happened is the most terrible thing and I am so sorry. I'm pleased to hear you have your daughter - I'm sure your love for her and her love for you will comfort you both now and in the future.

I agree lying would be very unhelpful to everyone but to you most of all. It's hard enough to come to terms with such a terrible tragedy and the only way through this is total honesty, never denial.

After my father's suicide I didn't tell anyone for years. It didn't help me at all.

I expect everyone who knew your mum will be shocked and will really want to be there for you though they might not know how to be there for you. People do worry about saying the wrong thing (as I am now, tbh) but people do care and want to help in any way they can.

My Mum also killed herself on Thursday morning, I'm so sorry you have experienced the same loss. How are you doing now? I'm feeling very numb still... handhold