Marking special occasions

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My dm passed away last summer so the only "first" we've encountered so far was Christmas, however in the next couple of months it would have been her birthday & my parents anniversary (my dad is still alive) - I just wondered what other people do or are planning to do on occasions they would normally have celebrated?

My mum was cremated so there is no grave & my dad still has her ashes so no "special place" to visit as such.

I do something nice for myself on the anniversary of DB's death. I know that he loved me, so i show myself that kindness. I write him a letter too, then have a good cry.

Thank you - sounds lovely but I don't think I'll have much time for myself as ever I'm more concerned about my dad than myself! Added to that it's my son's birthday in the same week but I don't want that overshadowed by the memory of my mum's - such dilemmas