2 family deaths

[Carly246]

Hi all, my dad and brother both took their lives last year, I'm not getting any better with coping with it

A sudden loss can be very traumatic for those left behind.
Whatever I put here will be inadequate.
One of my friends has told me it’s as though, when someone takes their own life, their death becomes the most talked about memory of that person, never mind the normal or wonderful things they did before that last action. It’s as if all the memories of that person are tainted.

Are you able to talk to any other family members?

A book I have seen recommended is available on Amazon and is titled
"I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One" by Brooke Noel and Pamela D Blair.

You will survive it. You won't necessarily cope with it.
You will learn to live with it.

Getting the first anniversaries out of the way can be an important land mark.

Have you had any bereavement counselling? If not, do.

So sorry for your double loss. The intensity does lessen somewhat over the years but the grief and emotional after effects of suicide are complicated. You can get through this in time.

So sorry for your loss.

I don't have any wise words. It sounds like you have been through an exceptionally tough time.

I wondered if you had come across this organisation? They might be able to help a little.

uk-sobs.org.uk