My baby has died

[Mummyof6tiredmuch]

My beautiful baby died this morning , I don't want to live , I just need my baby back

Oh Mummy the siblings' pain is often forgotten. Everyone told me how 'lucky' I was to have the other three children when dd2 died. What they didn't realise is watching them grieve, seeing their pain and not having the reserves to help them myself, nearly killed me.

On thing that cbuk said was to allow them to see you grief, so they can see that it is ok to express such raw emotions. You mustn't hide it from them so they too can feel free to express it and let it all out.

Thinking of you all

So sorry. Thinking of you all x

This world is too cruel! Rest in peace baby Oakley

I'm so sorry to hear about your son Oakley.

Mummy it's very soon but I would suggest counselling to you. For anyone in your family you think may need it.

I turned it down and ended up really messed up because of that. (Happy to pm what happened, this isn't the thread for it)

Thinking of you and your family still

I am so sorry. Lots of love to you.

Mummy
of course its not fair, its bloody well horrific. No parent should bury their child.
You have every right to be angry and any other emotion that crosses your mind.

Let the grief come and wash over you, share your grief with your other babies and family. Let them know its ok to be bloody mad and absolutely devastated. Let them know their feelings are valid as yours are. Let them ask questions even if you dont have answers, just be honest with each other.

Take comfort from each other, its all you can do, there is no magic cure to make it go away. You all loved Oakley and you always will, he will always be a part of your lives and I know its too hard to contemplate just now as you want him physically here but its true, he lives on in you and your family forever.

Just take baby steps, one minute at a time is all you need to get through.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

I'm so so sorry

My friend lost her baby boy in the same circumstances as you last year, he was 6 weeks old.

It's very early days for you but I know from my friend that this was a very traumatic for her to wake and find him

My friend found that SANDS was a great comfort to her

I truly wish I could say something to take this pain away

(hugs)

Life is so unfair mummyof6. This happens to good people and it breaks my heart. I can't begin to imagine how difficult this is for you and your family. I hope your DH can find someone to talk to, I'm sure he doesn't mean anything by what he said. Grief is terrible and makes you say all sorts of things. Please be there for each other .

I am so so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've said a prayer for you and your family. Know that your baby was loved and knew nothing but the love and care of his family, albeit for such a short time

Thank you once again for all your support and I'm sending you heartfelt prayers also .

I feel in a complete haze and like I'm not really here . I can't even speak tonight there's just no words

We are here for you whenever you want us. Sands are amazingly helpful when you are ready

So sorry for your loss, Mummyof6. Many and thoughts for you.

Been thinking of you and all. Hugs continue xxx

A gentle hug for you all today

Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and Oakley x

Just to say I am thinking of you all today.
Sending big unmumsnetty bear hugs for you all. (although we all know when the need calls for it mumsnetters are full of hugs)

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family, I can't even imagine what you are all going through right now.

Take one day at a time.

The next year or two will be incredibly hard. Somehow you will survive. One day, you will smile again, laugh again.

Don't feel guilty when you start to feel ok. Sounds strange but I felt so guilty whenever I had a happier.

You will never be the same again but you'll learn to live in a new way.

Now: try to eat something when you can. Try to drink something. Cry as much as you want to. See your doctor.

I've been where you are. Its utter hell. My heart goes out to you. Lean on your family, people who care about you. I found keeping a diary helped. Pm if you ever want to talk.

I am so sorry for you and your family.Eddie's words are very wise. When you are able I would consider counseling for you and specialist child bereavement counselors for the children. Accept all the help you can from those around you. Thinking of you all Xx

I am so angry at the world why did my baby have to leave me . I would give anything to just smell him for one second . This doesn't feel like my life anymore it just can't be .