please help, DF in Intensive care in Crete. Not going to recover.

[GhostInTheBackOfYourHead]

My darling DF suffered a tragic accident 4 hours after arriving. He suffered catastrophic , irreversible brain damage and will be taken off life support in a few days.
I am here with my children and we were due to fly back on Tuesday. I was going to ask consulate about getting help getting escort for children in flights home.
I cannot afford to pay for him to be flown home for burial. All the money is in Jim's account. That money is for my son but I'm getting pressure from his family to bring him back. Also they don't seem to do cremations here so that might not be an option.
Travel insurance won't pay as he jumped off a 3rd floor balcony,
I guess I'm asking for help advice and guidance, where do I start.
My heart is broken .

So not sitting

Bloody hell, that must be so hard.

How old are your children?

Ghost, I am really sorry to hear your situation

Contact the Kevin bell repatriation trust
They may be able to help

DD is just 16, DS is 8.
I will look into Kevin bell thank you.
This is exactly the sort of advice and wisdom I hoped for. As well as all the other posters who have been. Helpful. Thank you.

And thank you for flowers and empathy xx

So sorry for your loss

I wish I had some helpful ideas but all I can do is send you strength and hope that you and your gorgeous kids are ok

I think they only return people to Ireland but they may know of an equivalent organisation for other areas.
S

I'm so sorry for your situation, Ghost. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Might be worth contacting Winstons Wish, they may be able to offer help especially for your DS
www.winstonswish.org.uk/

I am sure over the 10 years you have seen that post before - it isn't an accusation, it is just routinely posted in threads where the poster is in a very difficult situation. It isn't personal, no-one is calling you a troll.

I am sorry you are going through this. I know you say your travel insurance won't pay but have they offered you any advice about where to turn?

please don't feel forced into rushing things, nor having to stay on and handle everything single-handedly. I'm sure the hospital can look after your friends body for a while, whilst repatriation is arranged. I suggest you may find it easier to do this from home, when you will have friends and family to support you, and to help enquire about insurance etc. Sadly, death overseas is not that unusual, and local funeral companies can advise and help arrange things, especially paperwork.
For now, try and stay strong for you and your children's sake, maybe consider returning on Tuesday as planned together?

You poor poor thing, I'm so sorry for your loss.

If you go onto 'turn2us', you enter your area and they bring up every possible grant available to you. Definitely worth a look.

I'm so sorry I don't have any better advice, but we are all behind you. X

Blimey 16 & 8? They must be in bits, are you sure they want to do all the touristy things love? I'm not sure you can salvage good memories from this holiday, maybe you need to open up and let them grieve? I don't know, just a thought.
When are they flying back?

this might help:
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/relationships/death-and-wills/what-to-do-if-someone-dies-abroad/

So sorry to read this and so sorry for your loss, it must all feel so surreal right now. I hope your DP's family can help and I echo what Ifailed wrote. Take care

www.supportaftersuicide.org.uk/talk-to-someone-now

So, the kids have an escort sorted

Your fiancée is still in hospital, so you don't have to make any decisions there until the life support is turned off

I hope once the children are home safely, you can find the strength to see to the practicalities.

Why is your s.i.l not supporting you? Is there anyone else that can come and be with you? You need a friend right now.

So sorry for what you are going through.

Have a look at evolomedica.com

I'm sorry for your loss and glad you are getting some support and some things organised despite the terrible pain you must be feeling. In time Winston wish can help you help the kids if you don't know then already. Thinking of you all.

What an awful situation. Is there anyone from DF's family that can come out?

My sil is in bits over her brother.
I know that Olivia would not have deliberately upset me. Just the words about people not always who they say they are cut me like a knife.
My children aren't in bits actually. I think they're in denial. If we didn't go out we'd have to stay in and this apartment is the last place on want to be.
I agree, I'm not about making this trip fun but my fiance would not want us to sit around crying either. I need distractions. We all do. I have drawn the line at the much looked forward to waterpark, that's way too "fun" and would be hellish. But I can sit on a crappy tourist train and go to the beach . I have to do what I feel my kids need right now.

I think a distraction is good, then, if you're up to it.

Do whatever you have to do to get through this.

Poor kids. And poor you. X

Have you posted on Facebook for a public share?

There may be someone kind hearted out there who could offer advice.

So sorry for your loss.

I agree that the MNHQ must have sounded like they thought you were a troll but I believe it's very standard.

Have you wort ten down exactly what happened and taken photos of where he fell. Do you think it could have been prevented? (Ugly I know. But you may need these facts later on)