please help, DF in Intensive care in Crete. Not going to recover.

[GhostInTheBackOfYourHead]

My darling DF suffered a tragic accident 4 hours after arriving. He suffered catastrophic , irreversible brain damage and will be taken off life support in a few days.
I am here with my children and we were due to fly back on Tuesday. I was going to ask consulate about getting help getting escort for children in flights home.
I cannot afford to pay for him to be flown home for burial. All the money is in Jim's account. That money is for my son but I'm getting pressure from his family to bring him back. Also they don't seem to do cremations here so that might not be an option.
Travel insurance won't pay as he jumped off a 3rd floor balcony,
I guess I'm asking for help advice and guidance, where do I start.
My heart is broken .

I'm sorry for your situation. Do you have a friend or family member who can come out and give you support? It sounds tough to be going through that on your own. What age are your DC?

I'm assuming this is your fiancé? I'm really sorry this has happened. If his family are pressurising you to bring him back, then can they help pay for it? Surely they don't expect that kind of burden to be carried out by you alone?

Jesus Christ op, you poor thing.

Others will be much more helpful with advice, but I just wanted to say how very sorry I am

I'm so sorry. That's awful news. You may be able to claim a funeral payment which would help towards the costs of his funeral in the UK and any travel costs over 50 miles within the UK.

A quick Google shows that repatriation from Greece to UK was about £4K in 2010. Cremation is not yet available in Greece. So I suppose, practically, you'd have to weigh up the costs of all of your DF's loved ones travelling to Crete vs. the cost of repatriation.

Hi there
Really sorry to hear this

We do advise all our members to be aware that not everyone on t'internet is who they say they are, and that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Sending strength and light to you
Peace and love
MNHQ

Olivia is that code for saying you don't think the op is genuine? Because nobody has offered anything more than sympathy and a few links.

If you have doubts about the op why not delete or say outright? If you don't then what was the point if that post?

It's a standard MN towers post - they have no evidence it's not genuine but just alerting folk not to part with cash they can't afford to lose just in case.

Posters may have sent PMs rather than post on thread.

The consulate doesn't have appointments till Tuesday but emergency assistance is available to the op.

Op ring the consulate and tell his family they need to start chipping in for the cash to bring him home. Nothing else to be done really.

So sorry, OP. What airline did you fly with? If you want your children to fly home separately they may be able to fly as unaccompanied minors if they're old enough, it usually costs a small fee.

I wish I could help more with your other questions. I hope you get in touch with someone from the consulate soon to advise you on the other issues.

I've only ever seen that message on threads where MNers are actively offering stuff / cash / visits

Oh god no, I'm so sorry to hear that.

(Mumsnet, OP has a posting history from way back. I don't think the 'warning' was necessary.)

OP, do you have family on the way out to help you?

Wow, I'm overawed by your support. Although I'm devastated by a couple of posts. Oliviamumsnet, I have been a poster on here for nearly ten years . I haven't and wouldn't ask for money. I just wanted support as the consulate is open from Tuesday to Thursday from 9 till 1 and I panicked.
My sister in law flew out but she cannot support me or the kids.
The article one poster linked to distressed me to the point I couldn't return here last night. My fiance was not suicidal and he'd had 3 drinks. I am horrified people can write stuff like that.
I can't reply to all of you individually but I thank you all from.the bottom of my heart.

A rl friend has suggested a gofund me but of course I wouldn't be posting info about that on here.
In fact the message from Olivia has bloody destroyed me. I haven't posted that much at all recently but a check of my account could confirm who I am. Or maybe mn could have emailed me. To be accused of being a trI'll when I've lost my best friend and soul mate is utterly devastating. When I do make the news public I'm sure my mn friends will come here and assure people I'm not a troll
Thank you to all who offered advice. My children are flying home with an escort. Thank God I booked with a scheduled airline.
Thanks for reading
I'm. Not sure I will stay a member here now, I'm in enough pain without being accused of being a troll.
Love GhostInTheBackOfYourHead

Oh no, please don't go. I know you are not a troll. I'm sorry I can't offer more help, but I'm sure others here will be able to give ideas and support as and when you need it.

I am so very sorry that this has happened, and that you've been upset more.

Massive hugs to you.

I'm so sorry you are in this situation. I hope you have managed to get in touch with the consulate by telephone & they can assist you.

Nobody has PM'd me and I wouldn't accept financial help even if they did. Perhaps my post did come across as begging. For that I apologise, that was never my intention

I am xanaxed to the hilt and my thoughts are scattered anyway so I was not aware my posthe sounded that way.

For the record, I was not asking for money but merely for ideas. And a huge number of you responded to.me with ideas and empathy. And for that I thank you all.

Op seriously the Olivia message was bodlg standard. They used to post it only on dodgy threads but then it was clear why so now they do it proactively to all such threads.
I'm sorry to hear about this. How are things looking today?

Olivia wasn't really calling you a troll, it's a standard MN message in difficult situations where people could get hurt (emotionally)

I am glad your children have got an escort back

Thank you to the posters who responged between my posts. I emailed Ariadne at consulate. I had been already on touch with her but she neglected to tell me i wouldn't be able to ring after Tuesday. I emailed her last night. And thank you for saying I'm. Not a troll.
I'm. Sitting on the terrace letting my tears come before the children wake up. They don't need to see me crying all of the time. My poor son is struggling to process the loss of his father and my DD is coming to terms with the loss of her stepdad after her dad died by suicide 3 years ago. What a clusterfuck.
I have to dry my tears now and get ready to go on the freaking tourist road train as we all need distractions and I want my kids to have other memories of this trip.

I guess I'd only seen the troll thread on dodgy threads which is why I was sitting hurt to see it here.