brother died suddenly practical advice needed

[babypeach]

Hi all,
Sorry if this sounds blunt but my brother has been found dead in bed. As yet no idea what happened. I'm still very much in shock but my dad may not be up to handling details and I've no idea what needs to be done

I have a 7 month old bf baby starting solids and stupid as it sounds am obsessing about impact on himbas well as my 5'year old and feel like I need a head start on what things will happen/need doing so I can pkan around children's needs. Baby will not take bottle or cup yet and is very hard to feed so need to work out best way forward as

My vmbrother owned a flat and I think very unlikely to have had a will as he was quite young and was always very unconcerned with those sorts of things.
He was in bed and it appears he died in his sleep so I guess a post mortem will be needed.

Please can anyone give me ideas on what will happen and when/potential timings?

Again sorry this post is cold sounding bur I'm trying to plan so I can stay in control emotionally

I'm so very sorry.

www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/en/articles/what-to-do-when-someone-dies

Thank you haffdonga I will have a look
Feel like this is all a horrible nightmare to be honest not real at all yet

I am so sorry baby.

I don;t think your post is cold I think you are being practical and what ever happens in life you will always want to think of your children.

Is there anyone who can help you through this in real life. The one thing I would say is be careful not to exclude your dad too much.

I am so sorry for your loss. You need to notify any close friends, other family, and his bank. The coroners office will be able to put you in touch with a funeral director.

It's a good idea to send someone impartial to his flat to collect any important legal documents or papers- it will really help further down the line to have all these things together but it will be very hard to do it yourself this early on. Perhaps your DH, or a friend could do it?

Lastly, it really is OK to just be practical now - you don't sound cold at all. It takes a long time for all of this to sink in, just focus on the day to day for now.

Thank you all for your kindness

Advice is so helpful. I do have a brother who will help where he can and dh also but I'm on maternity leave so I think practical stuff may fall to me. They are both very restricted intime they can take of work.

I do think you're right I shouldn't cut dad out of arrangements so will be mindful of trying not to assume he wouldn't want to.

Were going back to the flat today to collect documents and will hear back from coroner on Monday as to what the next step is.
Thank you all again

I am so so sorry for your loss. My DH died very suddenly and it was the practical things I struggled with. All I can say is only do what you are able each day, accept any help you are given, and be kind to yourself. Registering the death, the registry office offer a service that will comtact dVLA, the council and many other organisations for you. I found this very useful. The funeral director was very lovely and liased with the coronor on my behalf as far as releasing the body went. Hugs to you all