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Sleep cycles

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Ludoole · 03/01/2016 04:00

Has anyone else completely lost their ability to sleep at normal times???
Since my husband left i cannot sleep til 4, 5 or 6 in the morning. Its going to be a nightmare when the kids are back at school!
I cant break this cycle. Any ideas?

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Ludoole · 03/01/2016 04:01

By 'left' i meant died....

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DancingDinosaur · 03/01/2016 05:07

Same here Ludoole. I'm going to try waking up at a normal time tomorrow (just a few hours away from now) and forcing myself to stay awake until a normal bedtime in the hope of breaking the cycle. May have to power through with caffeine.

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Ludoole · 03/01/2016 05:14

Hope it works. Im relying on alcohol to get me to sleep Hmm but im already a bottle of wine and 4 cans of lager down and still wide awake. Its rubbish. I miss him.

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Ludoole · 03/01/2016 05:16

And i know alcohol is not the answer! Just wish i knew what was.... Sad

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Holly34 · 03/01/2016 05:25

My father died over 6 years ago he was still young and we had so much more to share with him as a family. All I can say your pain will ease.. just over time, believe me. Alcohol may seem to make things easy for now (may be) but it might suppress your feelings. Can you get counseling this will really really help your, speak with your GP.

DancingDinosaur · 03/01/2016 12:06

I was doing that Ludoole but it makes the cycle even worse. Although you do eventually get to sleep with the alcohol. But then you really feel crap the next day and it builds up and continues. which makes it worse and worse. (I'm 5 months in). Btw, have you joined WAY yet? You have to pay to join but it has been an absolute life saver in so many ways. Amongst all the events they run theres always people awake during the night as well, who can't sleep for the same reason.

Horsemad · 03/01/2016 12:14

Alcohol always makes me wake up early. I crash out if I've had a drink (only ever have a couple of glasses sporadically) but can guarantee I'll be awake at 4am ish or even earlier.

KittyandTeal · 03/01/2016 12:18

When my dd2 died my gp gave me sleeping tablets (I didn't actually need them, sleep was oddly the thing that was least effected)

I'm sure your GP would prescribe something, better than drinking lots

MummyBex1985 · 03/01/2016 13:29

I went from sleeping all the time in the first week to not being able to sleep and then not being able to get out of bed three weeks later. Last night I tried to go to bed early but went at 1:30 after a bottle of wine and herbal sleeping pills. Up at 6 for work tomorrow so I'm hoping that will help a normal pattern to return. It's not like I can lie in bed until 10 when I'm at work.

Need to knock the booze in the head but wine seems to be the only thing keeping me sane at night at the moment. Ugh.

Hjb2410 · 03/01/2016 21:50

My mum past away very suddenly two days before Christmas 2014. I must say I struggle still to get a decent nights sleep without having the aid of alcohol. As this Christmas was the year anniversary I pretty much drank my way through the festive period to block out the memories of that last one.
People are right alcohol isn't the answer but sometimes it can be a coping mechanism if it help you I don't see why not. Thinking of you xx

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