DFather has had a massive stroke

[Lilamani]

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My father had a stroke on Sunday. He was alone at home and found unconscious in the evening. He was rushed to hospital for cranial decompression surgery. Since then he's been unconscious and his pupils are not responding to light. He can breathe on his own, though he's attached to a ventilator as a precaution.

Does anyone have experience of a situation like this? What can we hope for? I love him so much.

I've just been told that there's brainstem damage and he has a less than 10% chance of waking up.

My darling father passed away today. He was the best and most wonderful person I have ever known. Life will never be the same again.

I'm so sorry lilamani - he sounds a wonderful man. Be gentle with yourself xx

so very sorry.

It is no consolation, but you said that he would have hated been helpless. He may well have known you were there. And YOU know you were there to say goodbye.

he sounds the kind of person who made a difference.

look after yourself.

I'm so sorry, Lilamani. Be glad that you were there with him and that he and your DC had the privilege of the time they spent together. He'll always be with you and them.

I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry Lilimani. I know how much it hurts to lose a wonderful Father. I lost mine 7 years ago.

Be kind to yourself over these coming days and weeks.

So sorry for your loss Lilamani. It sounds as though he was a wonderful man.

I am so sorry for your loss Lilamani.

So sorry to hear this Lilamani, life is so cruel.
I lost my mum 4 years ago and know that feeling of utter loss and grief.
Look after yourself x

I'm so sorry, have shed a tear for you. You describe your Dad so eloquently, I'm sure one day you will take comfort in how adored he was.

Sorry for your loss Lilamani. Glad you got to see him before he passed away. You are lucky to have had such a wonderful father and you sound lovely too. x

So sorry to hear about your dad, he sounds like he was an amazing man. You have written about him so beautifully.

Don't forget to look after yourself.

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm 4 weeks in to grieving for my dad. It's still very hard but each day brings back happy memories which chip away at the pain.

I focus on remembering how lucky I was to have such a great Dad for as long as I did. I'm hope in time you can too.

Look after yourself.

I am so sorry for your loss, he sounded like a wonderful and caring man.

Today was my father's funeral. The house and the church were filled with people. Although he had had an extremely successful career, he'd always remained a very humble person. He would have been overwhelmed by the sheer number of people pouring in, all with something lovely to say about him. He made a positive difference to so many lives.

My parents' house feels empty without him. It's so strange to come downstairs in the morning and not see him sitting in his chair, waiting to say good morning. The plants in his garden are flourishing, but he's not there to tend to them. My DM needs him so badly. He was her rock.

Thank you everyone, for your words of comfort and your support. You've helped me immensely over the past few days. Now it's time to try to carry on.

So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine :(.

You speak so lovingly of him and he sounded like a wonderful, wonderful man and father. Much love xxx

Wishing you strength through the days and weeks ahead.
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Kindest thoughts to you OP

Thank you. How do I get the thread moved to bereavement?

Done for you

I'm so sorry. I find it hard to read your thread because I dread the day that my turn comes to write one. I hope, when it does, that I can convey my parent's love as you did.

Lilamani I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope that you always are comforted by your love for him and his for you x

I also know how this feels the same thing happened to my mum 2 years ago, one minute i was saying good night to her little did I know I would be saying it permanently to her, i also sat with her for the rest of the week till she took her last breath. She also had no eye response. She was in a coma.

I am so sorry for what you are going through it is massively harrowing it feels like a living night mare. Thinking of you all. xx