And just to add, Cath - you have THREE CHILDREN :)
I know that Pippa is no longer technically with us as such but she's a part of you, she will always be your daughter, DH will always be the one who first held her I assume, because of your c section, fell in love with her the moment that he cradled her in his arms, and though she may no longer be of this world, she still lives on in all of our hearts.
Yes, losing a child changes you forever. I hope that people will remember the anniversaries, her birthdays, for every year that passes, not just the first, EACH ONE because they will hurt just as much, talk about her, all of the time, in the first person, why not? :)
Yes you have two gorgeous boys in your life, but Pippa will not be forgotten if YOU keep her alive in you everyday life. So what if people are shocked that you talk about her? Why shouldn't you? You are her parents, she's your daughter! Keep the memories of the things she did everyday alive and full of happiness.
There are going to be days when you really don't want to get out of bed. Do not want to talk to anyone, when you'll feel exactly the same as you did when you heard the words that you did, she's gone.
Let those days happen. Don't try to fight your natural feelings to grieve, whether it's in 4 days, or 10 years, you will never stop grieving. That is how death works sweetheart. It's unpredictable. It's cruel and it's something that you have to go through.
But, it will ONLY last until you see her again. xxx