MIL a bitch, a dead one, but one nonetheless....what do you think?

[ukulelelady]

Am I being unreasonable by calling my dead MIL a bitch. Actually that's only in print I've called her worse. :(
I am a widow with a young son. Me and my OH were together for 15 years before he had his accident. My DS was just 5 weeks old when his dad died. His mum passed away 7 months later of a terminal Illness.

The reason I'm so angry with my sons gran? Why do I think she was a bitch? About 6 years ago my OH bought his mums house. When he died he didn't leave a will. My darling MIL made a will after my partners death to leave the house to my son at the age of 25. In the meantime her friend gets the rental income until my DS reaches 25. Her only family was my son and my partner.

Anyway, this is not a little old me feeling sorry for myself or me being materialistic and greedy.... Personally I couldn't have given a toss what she did with the house IF it was hers! My partner worked bloody hard to buy her her house. He was in tied accommodation with his job so thought of it as his retirement/pension. I am currently working 2 jobs, one of which my house is tied to. I don't know what I'm wanting from posting this. Maybe someone to agree with me would be nice, I feel guilt for calling her names and I feel anger at what she's done. Also as a mother, i cannot understand her cutting us out like this. Ok he gets a house when he's 25..... There were no sentimental items or anything left to him, I'm at a loss to understand this woman who called herself a mother and gran.

Sorry for ranting.

[Want2bSupermum]

Yes your MIL was a bitch and I would hope she is burning slowly in hell. If she really cared for her grandson she would have left the income to him too because under the current set up the house will have crumbled by the time your DS inherits it.

I would question the set up because your son is the owner. You are your son's guardian so should be the person representing him, not some other person. I would speak to a different solicitor and contest the will. If they won't change the current set up of you paying the 'friend' I would insist that the money you pay goes into an account for your son and is managed by someone independent to both the friend and yourself. That way at least he will have the funds available to renovate the place in 25 years.