Trinity here with some very sad news from Purplepillow

[GiantSnailFeelers]

I'm afraid Purplepillows mum died yesterday at about 11am. She went peacefully and she had reached the ripe old age of 83.

Purple has been her full time carer for 9 years now. She has been amazing and took on everything.

At the beginning of the year her mum was in hospital for long periods. It was her bone marrow. She rallied and they managed to have a lovely summer together.

She was admitted to hospital again on Saturday night and passed Wednesday morning.

Purples two daughters are devastated. Their Gran was their other parent.

Purple is doing ok. I'm staying with her.

A wonderful woman has been lost

Much love to Purple and all the family

[custardo]

sorry for your loss xx

[SconeRhymesWithGone]

Purple, I am so very sorry to hear about your mum. Please know that all our family here in Florida are thinking about you and your girls.

We're thinking about you, too, Trinity. In my experience, loving friendship is the greatest comfort of all.

[Shellywelly1973]

Sending you hugs & condolences.

My mil died exactly 2 months ago today. I was her Carer. She was my dc 3 rd parent.

I love her so much & miss her everyday.

She was a great lady & I take comfort in remembering the giggling & daft stuff we used to get up to.

Take care of yourselves.

[PuhpullPlaylow]

Shelley, my heart goes out to you too

I think it's one if the hardest things I've ever experienced

I keep expecting her to phone me ??

I know it will get easier in time but I'll never stop missing her but yes she made us laugh so much and those memories are the ones we will cling to

Thank you all for your lovely words especially you mouseface x

[Mouseface]

Hey Puhps - I keep expecting her to phone me :(

And her number(s) is/are in your mobile, you know them off by heart no doubt, little things like that are the ones that hurt the most...... the day to day stuff that seems so small.

At some point in time, you'll wonder if you should delete the number(s) or not, because you don't need it anymore, then chastise yourself for even going there. Don't. Please lovely.

It's all part of loss and the healing process our clever little brains put us through. None of what you are going through right now is pleasant, nice or kind, but it's not supposed to be, death is the one certain thing in life that will happen to us all.

Time, however, is your best friend, as well as the lovely Snail/Trin, because the fondest memories will be the ones you will never forget. Christmas is going to be hard, for you all know that and the best times will be remembered, toasted, cried and laughed about :)

When my closest friend died a few days before my 30th, I didn't delete her numbers, I waited for her to call, I missed going shopping, having her at the end of the phone, the phone with her numbers in it. I'd call her mobile so I could hear her voicemail message....

I got a new phone a few years later and just didn't transfer her numbers across. It didn't feel wrong, it didn't feel like anything really. I just didn't need the number anymore.

Sorry to hear about your MIL Shelley xxx

My mum was blue lighted to hospital today.... just after 12.30pm, I've not heard anything but my dad called (crying :( ) before she went, just as the crew were loading her into the ambulance, and said "I can't do this anymore, I need you to teach me to care for her NG feed......" I had to cut him short and tell him to go get in the ambulance.

Hopefully, they'll insert the NG when she's in there, and get an assign feeding nurse sorted for when she's home....

It's so hard because you think that no matter what, your parents are invincible. They have no mortality, they are untouchable because they've always been your parents, cared for you, shown you the way, or even if you'd been estranged, the knowledge of losing a parent, the actual act of it happening to you is so hard....

How are the DD's today Puhps? Stupid question?

Sending all my love xxx

[Agnesmum]

I am so sorry Purple, my mum died three weeks ago aged 84. So sad, nothing can prepare you for the sheer physical and emotional pain. Thinking of you.

[caramelwaffle]

Sorry for your loss

[venusandmars]

purple I don't know you, but I feel kind of linked to Trinity (so felt I wanted to post here, if that's OK?)

My Mum died earlier this year, she was 85, but the number of years doesn't make a difference to how you feel. My Dad had been her full time carer for a long time, and I see how much his life changed - very suddenly - after her death. But, now (a few months later) I also see my Dad coming back into his own life, being able to go places and do things he hadn't done for a while. And although we still feel a great sadness, it has softened a little, it doesn't feel so raw, and as we approach all the milestones of Christmas, Hogmanay, etc without her, we also notice the new changes.

It's a tough time. But cling to knowing that you gave so much of yourself over recent years. Whatever you did was more than enough. x

[PuhpullPlaylow]

Thank you everyone

Mouse you put things how I want to but really can't find the words

The girls are doing as ok as they can just now ??

My heart goes out to you all that have lost someone recently (or not so recently)

I think that yes I'm going to miss so much about her, there has hardly been a day in my whole life that I have not been with her, if not spoken with her in her healthier days, but it's the finality of it all as I lost my dad almost 40 years ago and I only have 1 aunt left.

I just wish I could turn the clock back a bit and know for definite that she knew how much she meant to me even with all the silly wee arguments ?? iykwim

[Mouseface]

Hey Puhps - just off to bed but wanted to send you some sleepy dust to sprinkle over you all tonight.

I hope that you and your wonderful DD's are finding comfort in each other and managing however you can to get through the hours that drag and both fly by.

I'll check in again tomorrow if I may, I hope you're being 'fed and watered'.... you have to look after YOU too sweetheart.

Night xxx

[PacificDogwood]

Aw, purple, I've only just found this thread - I am so very sorry for your and your girls' loss .

Your mother was obviously an important part of your lives and was much loved.
I am sure that she will have known that just as you know that she loved you.

Please be kind to yourself.

I know you have been an amazing friend to Trinity and I am glad that you have her support now.

Much love and strength to you all x.

[Mouseface]

Hey lovely,

Sorry I've not been around today, how are you?

Sending love and giant HUGS your way xxx

[GiantSnailFeelers]

morning all

purple has been very busy sortung a lot of stuff out and she is struggling now

she asked me to post to let you know she is ok

also maybe to give you a little laugh
her mum was always a stubborn woman who liked to keep people on their toes and she has decided to leave all of her belongings to purple

purple is the youngest of six and the only girl.
only her mum would do something so obviously going to make waves in the family.

You've gotta laugh or you'd cry purple says

we also have a funeral date weds 27th at 1pm

thanks to everyone for their kind support

[Mouseface]

Massive hugs to you all, I'm sorry that you're struggling Puhps sweetheart xxx

You're in my thoughts xxx