Trinity here with some very sad news from Purplepillow

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I'm afraid Purplepillows mum died yesterday at about 11am. She went peacefully and she had reached the ripe old age of 83.

Purple has been her full time carer for 9 years now. She has been amazing and took on everything.

At the beginning of the year her mum was in hospital for long periods. It was her bone marrow. She rallied and they managed to have a lovely summer together.

She was admitted to hospital again on Saturday night and passed Wednesday morning.

Purples two daughters are devastated. Their Gran was their other parent.

Purple is doing ok. I'm staying with her.

A wonderful woman has been lost

Much love to Purple and all the family

RIP, Purplepillows DM and go easy on yourself Purple.

Sorry for your loss Purplepillows.
My thoughts re with you and your children xx

Thinking about you purple x

thanks guys

they are arranging an appointment to register the death just now

awful seeing purple crying

we've just been to the house to get the documents needed to register the death

I'm so sorry for Purple for the loss of her mother. Thoughts are with her and for you in your support xxxx

thankyou
shes holding up pretty well.

am very sorry purple.
my mum died last year, its just awful.
giving you a hug xx

Thank you everyone

Trinity has been amazing

I'm ok, more worried about my girls, they're gran was such a huge part of they're life

Oh purple, so sorry to hear about your mum. The girls will be ok, really they will. My grandad died on Christmas Day when I was 14 - he was my very favourite gp. It took years for my mum to even be able to talk about him and in many ways that was the worst bit, I wanted to remember him but I didn't want to hurt her by mentioning him.

I still miss him, but remembering the happy memories helps immeasurably.

xxx

I am trying to do what's right

I have not hidden my tears from them or the laughter when we have remember silly things my mum did

I was mums Carer so we spent a lot of time with her probably more than the rest of my family, some of which are abroad

We managed to get dd2 (6) to go to school yesterday and dd1(13) has gone back in today

Ah sorry, didn't mean at all to imply that you wouldn't. just that horrible cliche of children being resilient.

I am most terribly sorry purple.

Very sorry to hear your news Purple - its probably really good that the girls have gone into school today - but I hope you're not too lost without them there.

Scone sorry I didn't mean that at all

My heads kind of topsy turvy so my post may not actually read the way I meant it

So sorry to hear this

That's ok,

Is there anything practical the rest of us can do to help?

So sorry to hear this news Purple.

I am so glad that you have Trinity with you and supporting you. You have an amazing friendship and have helped each other so much. I am sure she will take good care of you.

All my very best wishes.

Mintyy x

I probably will miss them but trinity and her dd1 have hardly left our sides since Monday morning. She has been amazing doing everything for me

Going to have a quiet weekend until my oldest brother gets here on Monday, then we're going to solicitors together

Purple - I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum :( No matter how old they are or how old we are, it's a huge loss, it must be even harder when you have been her carer.

I hope your brother is able to be supportive & helpful.

morning all, purple has stopped posting just now. shes feeling a bit mashed in the head.

she is touched by your kindness, thank you
she has eaten and we're just going to have a quiet day.

thanks again for being so supportive as you always are

Very sorry to hear this :( Thanking of you and your family, purple

thanks everyone for your kind words

Oh Puhpull - I'm so glad you are with the most wonderful Trin just now.

Life continues around you, whilst your own is in devastation and you wonder why everyone isn't seeing that, noticing what has happened, holding you, soothing you, stopping the pain and just getting on with their day.....

The sun rises and sets, the weather, well, it rains if you're where I think you are! The days begin and they end yet they blur into each other.

The news still comes onto the tv at 1pm, 6pm and 10pm and you get to hear all about how wonderful some halfwit sleb's life is because they've got some wonderful new shite to broadcast.... when all that you want, is for the world outside those doors to stop and take note of how you heart is breaking. Aching, crushed and how lost you feel and scared about how you'll move forward......

Your life as you knew last week, this time last week is so very different now. The practical side of death is so clinical, sterile, the arrangements, the details, the words, the reasons, the whys/whens/hows etc.....

Your head must be hurting lovely lady. You must ache all over.

I don't 'know' you as such, but I know of you through the unconditional love and support you selflessly gave to Trin and her girls when she lost Neil and then tragically, again, Cliff too.

Life, at times, is mean, cruel, twisted and utterly fucked up.... but sometimes, life kind of knows when a person has just had enough.

My own mother is extremely ill just now and Trin posted some very comforting words to me earlier today when I shared the news with the Brave Babes thread. Thank you Trin

Take good care of YOU too Puhpull - YOU too need love and support, as much as your gorgeous girls do, you too need to feel the warmth of someone holding you, when the time is right, someone saying it's okay to cry, be cross, be happy, remember, love her, miss her, etc. Feel.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you don't mind me posting to you, Trin told the BBs what had happened to you earlier today.

My heart and strength go out to you and your DD's tonight, tomorrow and always.

Mouse xxx xxx

So sorry purple :-(

purple is reading the thread

mouse, thankyou, such kind words and purple says yes exactly how it feels

thanks girders

oh and mouse, you made her cry
I'm going to have to pinch you