We lost a baby boy during labour. last year. We're having another boy (scan was today) - We're happy but I'm dreading the 'didn't you want a girl?' comments

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That's it, really. We have three, and should have had four lovely boys but my DS3's healthy, full-term twin brother died at 39 weeks during a horrribly f*d up labour last year.

We had a scan today (I'm 21 weeks Pg) and hadn't really wanted to know the sex of the baby - but it was fairly obvious! I'm dreading fielding the 'are you going to try again for a girl?' questions as I've been fielding the 'what are you having?' stuff already with....'Boy or girl, alive, I hope. Thankyou.'

I was struggling today during the scan as it reminded me so much of seeing both of my twin boys alive..

Thanks for listening.

congratulations on your preganancy bubble and grrrrrrr at those unbelieveably insensitive souls

thinking of you and ALL of your boys X

Sorry to hear you have been upset bubble . To answer your original question, should you pre-emp the issue by announcing that you are expecting another boy and you and mr Bubble are delighted? That gets the awkwardness out of the way so it is parked for the birth. On the other hand would you prefer to keep it private and just mentally prepare yourselves for the inconsiderate non-thinking people you will definitely come across?
No easy answer but the main thing to hold onto is that you are delighted. Congratulations.

A huge congratulaion from me, and also a hug for the fear you must so obviously be feeling.

A baby is a huge gift, whatever the sex, and that is what you are getting.

Your sons will have the best mummy ever, and I wish you all the best

at all those thoughtless people out there tho. there but for the grace of god go they.

Like mears has said....perempt them by saying how delighted you are. not many people would pass comment then, and you can go on and enjoy rather than worrying about what other people may think. And who cares anyway!!! Your new son will have the best of yours and his daddy love, and three older brothers. what a lucky little guy