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My daughter died on Saturday

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accidia · 03/06/2013 03:33

I can't sleep. There's so much I have to do. Just waiting for daylight so I can go outside and see to my animals. The insomnia has been going on for months but it's harder to deal with now.
She had a life-limiting illness so we knew this day would come but didn't think it was going to be then.

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LargeGlassofRed · 03/06/2013 03:48

So sorry for the loss of your daughter, my prayers are with you.

RiaOverTheRainbow · 03/06/2013 03:48

I'm so sorry. I don't really know what to say but if you want to talk I'm listening x

ThatLightbulbMoment · 03/06/2013 03:49

I am very sorry for your loss. Would you like to talk about her? I would be honoured to listen xxxxxxx

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accidia · 03/06/2013 05:54

Sorry, I didn't intend to ignore your replies - I dozed off Blush . It's very strange, I haven't dreamt for the last two nights. I usually have very vivid dreams, I wonder if it's because my mind is so active at the moment while I am awake.
She was seven and born with a congenital heart condition. Bloody stubborn little wotsit at times but I think that's what kept her going. More than once we had the doctors telling us she wasn't going to make it. Bizarrely that hadn't happened this time. Loved school and going to the children's hospice for respite.

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crazydrunkevilhamster · 03/06/2013 05:59

So sorry for your loss Flowers

CountryMama · 03/06/2013 06:07

I'm so sorry too. What a little fighter she was!

Just take each hour as it comes. It so hard to know what to say. I keep writing and deleting. I'm here listening too if you need an ear. I would love to hear more about what she was like if you want to tell :)

Gbnewbie · 03/06/2013 06:12

Just wanted to add my wishes, those of strength and peace. So very sorry for your loss. Xx

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong · 03/06/2013 06:13

So very sorry.

Talk to us about her if it helps. Smile

BiscuitMillionaire · 03/06/2013 06:16

I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how hard this must be to bear. Sending you love.

Jemma1111 · 03/06/2013 06:19

So very sorry x

MumofWombat · 03/06/2013 06:30

From one HeartKid Mum to another - I'm thinking of you and your daughter. And I'm so sorry about your loss.

JakeBullet · 03/06/2013 06:36

So sorry for your loss, I know she had a life limiting illness but that doesn't make the grief or bereavement any less. Another one here who will listen if and when you need to talk xxxxx

mrssprout · 03/06/2013 06:36

I am so very sorry for your loss, my thoughts & prayers are with you

Yika · 03/06/2013 06:38

So sorry to hear about your daughter. Hugs.

BranchingOut · 03/06/2013 06:38

I am so sorry. I can only imagine what you must be going through.

Dilidali · 03/06/2013 06:42

So sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you find the strenght you need. Hugs.

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 03/06/2013 06:48

Very sorry to hear about your daughter.

SurvivalOfTheUnfittest · 03/06/2013 06:51

So sorry for your loss Accidia. I know it can't compare, but my husband died unexpectedly 5 weeks ago aged 39, so I understand the rawness, the fog and the bewilderment. Be kind to yourself and accept any offers of help. The lovely folk on here will help to see you through your darker hours. Take each minute and each hour a tiny step at a time and know that there will be people all around the world urging you on.

invicta · 03/06/2013 06:52

Cyber hugs!

toffeelolly · 03/06/2013 06:53

So very very sorry. We are all here if you need us. ( hugs ) xx

pinkmagic1 · 03/06/2013 06:57

So sorry for your loss.

chosenone · 03/06/2013 07:00

Thoughts are with you and your familyat this sad time. Please take any help and support offered xxx

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accidia · 03/06/2013 07:00

I've thought about it many times in the past but you really can't properly prepare yourself for the situation. I keep thinking of people I need to tell. Not just her school but she has older and younger siblings too. We only took her to the hospital early Saturday morning - in the past she's had much longer stays so everyone would have been prepared. (I don't think I've explained that very well.)

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lucidlady · 03/06/2013 07:04

So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you x

Thumbwitch · 03/06/2013 07:04

Very :( to hear of your loss - even if you always knew it was going to happen, it's still awful when it eventually does, especially if it really wasn't expected this hospital visit.

Much love xxx