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Trinityrhinos Unspeakably Shit Stuff part two

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TrinityRhino · 14/05/2013 20:39

Hi everyone
Thank you for so much help and such kind words x

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Fairenuff · 05/06/2013 08:22

Thinking of you today Trinity x

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 05/06/2013 08:28

Holding your hand today Smile

greenhill · 05/06/2013 09:44

How's it going? Hope today is ok.

Mouseface · 05/06/2013 10:24

Morning :)

I think that's a lovely idea that the ashes are split. He had so many people in his life who loved him and who he loved back, it doesn't matter 'how much' everyone gets does it?

I know that wherever you decide to lay his ashes will be the right place for you and the girls, it will be the perfect place in fact.

How are the girls?

And, actually, how are you? Has everyone gone home now? CDD1 etc?

It's strange that even though a huge part of your life has been changed forever, the world around you keeps turning, the sun still rises (and hides behinds clouds!) it still sets, the washing still needs doing, the house tidying, Lolly still needs a walk, you still breathe in and you still breathe out, just.......

And yet there's a hole, a void, something's out of place, missing, not quite right and there's nothing that you can do about that, it's out of your control darling lady and that, that is the hardest thing ever.

I think what I'm trying to say and to echo what other lovely posters have said, is that just because the funeral is over, the people have left, the paperwork is in order etc........ we're all still here, holding your hand, sitting by you, I'm on your shoulder..........

We're all still thinking about you, as if it were the first day, we all still care as much as we did then, we all still need to know you will say if there's something, anything that we can do to help.

We're all still holding your heart and helping to mend it, bit by bit, day by day, one day at a time.

Promise you'll say if you need anything at all. YOU ALL STILL MATTER.

Mouse xxx

ClaraOswald · 05/06/2013 12:51

Hope today is as good as it can be.x

fransmom · 05/06/2013 14:18

mouse - what a lovely post xx hope nemo's ear is getting better (no experience of glue ear, sorrySmile)xx

Trinity - ((((((((((((((((((((((huuuuuuge hugs))))))))))))))))))))
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

FM xxx

Guerrillacrochet · 05/06/2013 15:05

Hello Trin
Just to say hello and that I've been thinking about you and the girls. Xx

TrinityRhino · 05/06/2013 16:56

ashes arriving in 1 hour ish
this is weird
where do I put them?
ugh

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Mouseface · 05/06/2013 17:13

Put them where they can be seen, (somewhere where they won't be knocked over if it's not a screw lid!) somewhere where you can feel him around you.

He's there, in the house, that's all that matters. Somewhere that you can maybe talk to him when you pass by.

'Morning you' - that sort of thing?

You'll know. xxx

Mouseface · 05/06/2013 17:27

Thank you fransmom - (sorry to hijack Trin) he is much better today but it's still sore.

Nemo has fluid behind both ear drums and they occasionally leak, it's not nice for him, it causes him pain and he cries lots with it. It's unsightly too, bless him, but he won't let me touch it.

Are they there yet Trin? - You okay lovely? Big huggles xxx

BeerTricksPotter · 05/06/2013 17:46

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Trumpton · 05/06/2013 17:50

I kept my Dad's ashes in the car for weeks ( it was his car so it felt right ) and then one morning the time just felt right to scatter them in our garden that he loved so much.
Do what feels right . You will know what to do and when .
Keep putting one foot in front of the other. So proud of you.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 05/06/2013 18:55

Put his hat on them Smile

PiggyPlumPie · 05/06/2013 19:33

Not posted before as I have no words to say...

But Mouse is doing a fabulous job of saying what needs saying - thanks Mouse!

Love and hugs to you all

xxx

TrinityRhino · 05/06/2013 19:46

lol bewitched

I would but his 13 yr old ds4 has his hat (sleeps with it)

bless him

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fransmom · 05/06/2013 19:46

((((((trin)))))))

TrinityRhino · 05/06/2013 19:57

she has been further delayed
waiting for a family to view
I really feel for her, she has been up since 4 am

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greenhill · 05/06/2013 19:59

Cliff obviously had a lot of people that loved him. (((Hugs)))

Have you eaten properly today? In the stress of the day have you looked after yourself as well as you've looked after everyone else?

TrinityRhino · 05/06/2013 20:25

Ice eaten some pasta and sauce I reheated from last night and some buttons in yoghurt Blush

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TrinityRhino · 05/06/2013 20:26

Ive not Ice and the ashes are here

weird

They are in a lovely scattering tube with a seascape sunset thing on it

I've put them on top of the short bookcase thing where he used to keep his wallet, keys, glasses ...general crap Smile

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Mouseface · 05/06/2013 20:33

Piggy - are you the Piggy from the Woolly Hugs run? :) Thank you for your kind words x

Trin - he'll find his place, there's no rush, sounds like they are in a lovely tube. Perfect, by the sea, as he should be. xxx

PacificDogwood · 05/06/2013 20:50

Trinity ((hugs)) - just that x.

TrinityRhino · 05/06/2013 20:57

its a little comforting
like hes back here to do the monster sweep and make sure Ive locked the door
looking after us
but it also hurts

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Mouseface · 05/06/2013 21:11

It will hurt sweetheart, for a long time to come..... but it will also fade too, the severity of the hurt, the depth of the pain, the burn will turn to an ache, the ache to a twinge as such, then a niggle, then something......

You are stronger now than you have ever been. You are sober, you kicked drink's ass FFS woman! What bigger battle did you have than that?

If you can do that, get through losing your husband and father to your children, and get sober, SOBER, then you can get through the pain that will hurt you over the coming days, weeks, months. You will, I promise you xxx

YOU ARE NOT ALONE. We're here Trin, right here. :)

I rather like changing shoulders because you tilt your head slightly sometimes and your hair keeps me warm, so, I'm staying here if that's okay?

I have to go now, but you have my number, you can reach me and others I'm sure at any time.

Sleep well lovely, I'll check in again in the morning.

You are safe now. Cliff's home, he's there. Take him where you need to, put him where feels right and if that means moving him around a few times then so be it.

Sending love to you,

Mouse xxx

MelodyBaker · 05/06/2013 21:41

It will hurt but he's never going to leave your memories. You'll always remember him as the loving man who helped you change your life Smile.
I hope you find the perfect place to scatter his ashes.
Love and prayers Melo x