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Trinityrhinos Unspeakably Shit Stuff part two

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TrinityRhino · 14/05/2013 20:39

Hi everyone
Thank you for so much help and such kind words x

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 03/06/2013 10:59

Wow! I bet you've achieved more so far than loads of us will by the end of the day.

Amazing.

You've earned your nap I'd say.

But I'm still coming soon to kidnap that Lolly Grin

Goldmandra · 03/06/2013 11:03

Wow! I bet you've achieved more so far than loads of us will by the end of the day.

If you've had a panic attack, get through it and then picked yourself up and got on with your morning you've achieved an enormous amount. That is credit to your strength of character.

I hope you're enjoying your snooze now. You've earned it Smile

greenhill · 03/06/2013 11:08

Enjoy your nap, but make sure you've set an alarm to get you to the assembly on time first.

magimedi · 03/06/2013 11:50

You've done amazingly well. Hope the nap helps.

PacificDogwood · 03/06/2013 13:51

"you shoukd just run with a panic attack, let it happen and move on".

That.

That will keep you going when you have to.
Hope you had a nice rest and now welling up at your DD's assembly for all the right reasons.
Smile

TrinityRhino · 03/06/2013 16:12

didnt manage a nap caise the phone kept ringing but went to dd2's assembly and activitues afterwards which was lovely.
lots of people asking how I was and saying sorry which is lovely but tough sometimes.

now at a friends house looking after her dd1 and taking her to her piano lesson to help out her overstretched mum.

then I have chocolate buttons in custard planned for after tea

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PacificDogwood · 03/06/2013 17:10

My DH's favorite dessert Grin - you are clearly a woman of class and substance. I knew that anyway, but that just proves it.

It IS so hard although nice when people are sympathetic when one feels upset about something, isn't it? Strange, really. I used to be fine after various pregnancy related disasters until somebody random said something empathic to me, then I would dissolve in floods of tears Confused.
Still, I always felt it was better when people said something rather than nothing. Nothing worse than a big elephant in the room that nobody mentions IMO.

Good on you for helping somebody else out too Smile.

magimedi · 03/06/2013 20:01

I failed to make banana custard the other day - it was vile.

Great respect for choc button custard.

And, as Pacific says you are a star for giving help at this time.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 03/06/2013 20:05

A star indeed.
The idea of you thinking about another Mum as overstretched and having your priority for the day to help her out, is just, just... staggering.
Any leftover buttons and custard?

TrinityRhino · 03/06/2013 20:42

ah yes but it was purplepillow I was helping Grin

we always help each other out and she has been such a rock for me..both times...

leftover chocolate?! what is that?

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MelodyBaker · 03/06/2013 21:21

LollyPup is gorgeous, my dog would love to meet her. She's a golden lab.
Glad you got through today, baby steps sweetie. Your a strong women and you'll get through this.

Mouseface · 03/06/2013 21:59

Evening Trin and the gang Grin

Just a quick popping in as MIL has gone and life is going back to normal in the MouseHouse, mind you, that said..... I'm gearing up for me sponsored "Hobble/Shuffle/Walk" with Nemo on June 21st.

Today sounded pretty feckin' tough darling lady, I'm so glad that you got the puking out of the way and moved on. Panic attacks are best dealt with swiftly and then forgotten.........

You're rather like me in that sense....... I tend to get super worked up, puke, and carry on!

Anyway, I'm glad that you are back to custard and chocolate buttons! Can I ask which custard? For me, it has to be Ambrosia. I adore it. Cold, warm, hot, over gooey puddings, solid cakes, alone, with things in, without, on even......... Wink Grin

So, tomorrow my little Nemo is back to preschool in the afternoon so I'm back to admin and housework. Fun, fun, fun and a tiny because of him not being here.

Just wanted to pop in, have a quick read, catch up and tell you sweetest Trin that you are so utterly, amazingly fabulous, strong, resilient, caring, delicate, beautiful, and wonderful if that's okay with you. :)

Night lovely lady, big squidges to the girls, and Lolly, I hope they are okay and that you all get some sleep.

Lots of love,

Mouse xxx

TrinityRhino · 03/06/2013 22:32

oh mouse, what are you like, I'm not all those things, I'm just normal Blush

and I dont do puking, no, dont talk about puking, thats my main issue of panic
I retch, I dribble spit but I dont puke

sometimes I think it would be easier if I did

then maybe I wouldn't be so terrified by the whole prospect

yes quite tough today but a good lesson that I can do it

here's to another day of doing it tomorrow

night night all you lovely ladies

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TrinityRhino · 03/06/2013 22:34

oh and any old custard will do I huess but my absolute fave is ambrosia, spooned cold right out of the tin has been known alot

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 03/06/2013 22:50

Ah, OK, purplepillow does sound like another star, so brilliant that you found each other.

I sort of have a picture of you hovering around your life, looking at it and thinking, Fuck me that's going to be tough and shitty. And then you think, Oh well, off we go, got to get through this. And then you do.

And don't argue with Mouse, she's always right, you are all those thingsGrin

Sleep well. Hoping for no panic tomorrow. xxx

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 04/06/2013 17:57

I've been out all day. Very quiet here.
Hope all OK Trin Smile

TrinityRhino · 04/06/2013 18:27

yup all ok ish

ashes being delivered tomorrow Sad

we are still plodding on

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 04/06/2013 18:35

Oh, not an event to relish.

Have you decided what you want to do with them?

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 04/06/2013 19:25

Another big day tomorrow then.

I've had a long day at work due to extra meetings - i'm not used to it and not enjoying it in this weather either! Is it sunny with you Trin?

McPheelingTheSpring · 04/06/2013 19:44

Oh my goodness. I've been caught up in RL, and my god you must be one amazingly strong women. My heart goes out to you all. Keep going, and keep reaching out xxxx

PacificDogwood · 04/06/2013 19:55

Oh. Cliff's ashes Sad.
Have you decided what you are going to do with them?
Nice to 'hear' you sounding so serene.

Mouseface · 04/06/2013 21:42

Trin - sorry not to have been here today, Nemo's Glue ear is bad and it upsets him, plus, first day back at preschool today so he's wibbly.

Had texts to say he was crying lots and that his 1 - 1 was cuddling and that he was settling so I left him there (it is 1 min away) so when I picked him up I medded him and now he's finally asleep.

Re Cliff's ashes, where is special to just the two of you, OR you and the girls and Lolly OR him?

Do his other children want a 'say' in where he finally flies away to?

It's tough sweetheart, my love is with you, you'll know. Hold onto them for as long as that takes, promise?

I'm sorry for not checking in today, life has been a bit bonkers here.

Night, love to you all.

See you tomorrow dear lady. Big Nemo Huggles?,

Mouse xxx

TrinityRhino · 04/06/2013 22:21

the ashes are being solit, some to me and some to his other children who are putting them on his mum and dads grave down in london

I wont be in a hurry to do anything with ours

there is no rush

please dont apologise mouse

hugs to nemo
x

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 04/06/2013 23:14

That's rather lovely that everyone is having a share.

You're so right about no rush. It's very early to have to make that sort of decision.

One day a thought will strike you and you'll know what's the right thing to do. You're very wise.

Night.
Hugs x

mistlethrush · 05/06/2013 08:12

I hope you get through today OK Trin. You're doing so well!