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Trinityrhinos Unspeakably Shit Stuff part two

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TrinityRhino · 14/05/2013 20:39

Hi everyone
Thank you for so much help and such kind words x

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mummylin2495 · 31/05/2013 11:27

Another one of many sending you strength and thinking of you.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 31/05/2013 11:41

I don't want you to have to do it either, the whole thing absolutely sucks.

Almostfifty · 31/05/2013 11:46

Are you up now lovey? Baby steps, and remember to breathe.

TrinityRhino · 31/05/2013 11:58

up now putting tights on
just seen billy (cds4) in his smart shirt trousers and tie and it made me cry

we're all getting dressed, potholes are all temp patched and they have gone

cars arriving at 1.15, I'm driving me and dd1

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WandaDoff · 31/05/2013 12:00

You're going to do him proud lovey.

Wishing you strength to get through today xxx

Wishing you all peace as well.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 31/05/2013 12:04

What is it about little boys all dressed up that is so touching?

Well done you, no rush, take your time, and yes, remember to breathe.

alterego2 · 31/05/2013 12:27

De-lurking to send strength and best wishes. Of course you don't want to do this and, God knows, you shouldn't have to but we all know you CAN do it. You are stronger than you know.

Thinking of you.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 31/05/2013 12:33

Thinking of you xx

FromGirders · 31/05/2013 12:37

Hugs trin.
Thinking of you

Goldmandra · 31/05/2013 12:38

You can do this Trinity. You can get through today.

You shouldn't have to but in a few hours it will be over. If you can't do the whole thing you are allowed to walk away. Do what is right for you.

If the power of MN could take away pain you'd sail through today but all we can do is send thoughts and hugs.

I hope you find it more manageable than you expect.

xx

OpheliaBumps · 31/05/2013 12:41

Thinking of you Trin, so so sorry you're going through this again, it's so unfair, sending massive hugs x

Charleymouse · 31/05/2013 12:45

Trinity
Sending you love and strength for this afternoon. As mouse says we are all with you and supporting you this afternoon and the days to follow. Just do what you have to do to get through the day. Take care and hope it goes well for you all.
Much love CM
x

thekatsatonthematt · 31/05/2013 12:46

Another one here, thinking of you and hopefully sending some strength.

ExcuseTypos · 31/05/2013 13:01

Thinking of you all today Trin. X

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 31/05/2013 13:39

I'm with you Trinity - all small, tiny in fact but lined up with the others on our chair.

Giving you a hug, a squeeze, a nod a smile just when you need them.

Oh how I wish we really could do that for you. But you're doing great. More than great - I don't have the right word (Mouse would!)

It's a lovely warm and sunny day here, hope it is with you too and that Cliff's funeral goes just as planned.

Will catch up later.

Xx

Trumpton · 31/05/2013 13:41

I am going into my garden overlooking the sea and I am hanging a tea light in the tree. I will light it at 1.15 and hope the signal of light shines through to you . I feel a great sense of pride for you all.

Trumpton · 31/05/2013 13:42

Thought I had posted ^^ that earlier . Strange. But it is lit now. A tiny flickering flame of love xx

Mouseface · 31/05/2013 13:47

Hello beautiful lady. :)

You won't read this now until after you have said your last 'official' goodbye to your darling, wonderful Cliff but I'm there, on your shoulder as you wanted, I'm just sat, quietly, feeling you gently shaking. That will ease........

It's there, it's still there Trin, that strength that Cliff helped you to find, uncover, the shine too, the smile that you'd hidden, the love...... love will never leave you, his love is there and you'll carry it with you every single day, until you meet again.

Sweetheart you knew you'd go today. It's not that you didn't want to go to the funeral, it's that you didn't and want to say goodbye.

You don't want to see the curtain close at the end of the service, you don't want to be the one who people feel sorry for, they mean it ever so kindly though, we all do, we feel your sorrow, not sorry for you, we feel sorrow for your situation, you being in pain, we feel sorrow for the girls, we feel sorrow because of what you have had to endure already.

Does that make sense?

You don't want it to be now, today, it's too soon. You didn't want to ever be in this position, not ever again. Not in a year, not in four, not in forty. No-one does. Sad

We are all holding a piece of your heart still, we're working on mending it, holding it safe, holding you, each of us have a part of you in our hearts right now.

I don't know what else to say other that I am honoured to know you and have you as a friend. You have shown such courage, such determination, such spirit and such fight to carry on, even when you thought that you couldn't, you did, you have and you are doing.....

Thank you for having me on your shoulder lovely.

Sending all the love in the world, to you, and to you all,

Mouse xxx

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 31/05/2013 14:00

As usual Mouse you find the right words to say what so many of us feel. Thank you.

We're all there Trinity xxx

Fairenuff · 31/05/2013 14:42

I lit a little tealight too Trinity in a sheltered sun-warmed spot in the garden. The wind kept blowing it out so I've put it in a lantern. The flame is still burning. Thinking of you x

Thumbwitch · 31/05/2013 14:43

I'm so proud to "know" Mouse, she's got an amazing knack of saying just the right thing! Thanks

I am too late to post this when I wanted to, so sorry - but thought this might help a bit
Even though the funeral will be over by the time you read this, we are still here. And will be here for as long as you need us.

Holding a teeny piece of your heart in spirit (don't want to drag it all the way to Australia, although I could hand it to a local koala to put in its pouch for you and keep it safe)

Lots of love and strength, my lovely. xxxx

TrinityRhino · 31/05/2013 15:36

havent read all the posts. judy wanted to check in and say thankyou to all you tiny mn'ers thay sat next to me

and to mouse who sat on my shoulder

I told dd1 about you all and she loved the idea.

the poor girl was in pieces

im glad the little ones chose not to go

we are at the wonderful hotel looking out to the sea.

its done
I did it
right this second I cant cry anymore and I can breath again

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FromGirders · 31/05/2013 15:43

oh trin.
I'm not eloquent like mouse, she's said it all so well.
But more hugs.

Thumbwitch · 31/05/2013 15:45

((((((hugs)))))) for you and DD1 and the rest of you.
Well done for doing it.
Keep looking out at the sea - perhaps remember the cow? Or perhaps not, depending.

Bless you all, what a hard day but you DID it. xxx Thanks

Almostfifty · 31/05/2013 15:53

You're so very brave. Well done lovey.