As we go through this painful journey together

[lavandes]

As we go through this painful journey together we share, cry, scream and shout but we never judge, we know that there is always someone to listen. We always remember our precious children who will never be forgotten and will live on forever in our hearts.

carryme, hi and welcome to our little group, so sorry you hve reason to be here, I very sorry for your loss

I get what you mean, sometimes I see all this fuss about the royal baby and I think ffs every single baby is just as important, and ifeel a bit sick.
but then I think bet km would rather be left in peace rather than hounded

I think its really painful when people avoid talking about our losses, as our children are still a huge part of our lives, even when not here on earth anymore
I just push the point, esp with my inlaws, I delibertly bring up ds this ds that on purpose xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I wont allow them to have ds as something not talked about

Popping my head back in. Difficult day ahead, Sterre's 2nd birthday tomorrow. Can't believe it's gone so quick! :(

Good to see you Blue - that time has gone by very fast hasn't it? But I bet it doesn't feel like that to you.

White - your description of Grandad made me smile and wipe away a tear as well. It sounds like it was a comforting day, I know it must have been very sad but it sounds lovely (I think I am putting all the wrong words in this post!!!)

Tom went to see my parents today - he confessed that he was frightened of seeing his Grandad because he is so skinny. He had a few tears before he went but I was proud of him for going and facing his fears. My DH took him down and they took chocolate eclairs for my parents. When he came back he said 'Mum I am loads taller than Grandad and he was laughing when we measured against each other.' I dont know if I am doing right or not but I keep discussing everything with Tom (he is almost 16 and I think he needs to know). We talked about the way Cancer affects a persons body and what the outcome will inevitably be with my Dad. He listened carefully and asked a 1000 questions then said 'Ah no I know why that Mcmillan cancer advert says 'UP YOURS CANCER'. xx

Morning girls xx

bluetinker thinking of you today. x

My5 -tough day tomorrow how are you keeping?

Shabba your Tom is a great lad, so sorry about your dad.

my DH's aunt has cancer and is dying, basically.
they reckon she has only days left.
we are very close with DH's cousins, it's going to be awful for them to loose their mum and for Uncle M to loose his wife.
we keep praying for a miracle, of course, but it is not looking good.

I've started tensing up every time the phone rings.

I feel like such a different person these day, so guarded and so reserved

I took it for granted in my previous life,before ds, being confident and out going

I hate small talk

I ahate meeting new people and making new friends

im ok with my friends of many many years, but not so much with school mum friends, I worry they talk about me all the time, im wearing giving anything of myself away

I feel I've become "that woman" who lost a child.

Blue my love, the one comfort I take is that each year brings us a little closer to seeing our babies again. I remember so well when you lost Sterre, she and Sylvie-Rose shared a due date, do you remember? And I never thought for a minute that we would be sharing the same sorrow. You never think things will happen to you until they do.

Morning girls xx

thinking the lovely dexter and myfive today xxx
I hope the day passes ok for you
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I also feel like that woman chip, ive kinda accepted that a bit now with everyones help, I know everyone will talk about me and I can't do anything about it
only accept it
xx

morning everyone

Happy Birthday, Belle. Thinking of you today, fioled xx

thank you chip for reminding me :)
It was a nice day yesterday, remembering my tiny girl, she has taught me so much about what's important in life.

thinking of fioled and her precious Belle today, happy 3rd birthday gorgeous girl!

My DD1 said this morning she thinks Belle and Sterre are best friends as their birthdays are so close together. It was lovely of her and I would love to think so, that all our children are the best friends together wherever they are :)

Sending love and light to the lovely blue and Sterre, as well as fioled and Belle on her 3rd birthday.

And many, many gentle hugs to myfive and Dexter today. There will be tears, but I hope some smiles of love too.

white We are all 'that woman' or 'the friend whose child died', aren't we? A title unwanted, but nonetheless given.

shabs I am so proud of your Tom! Sounds like you will all enjoy that holiday together.

Back in the same timezone again, but Finn thinks he isn't, hence two 4am starts to the day in a row!!

mia I think of you a lot. your little girl does live on. she gave me a gift of appreciating baby hugs even more.

I don't know if this helps or not, but most of time my DD (now 14 months) puts her little arms round my neck I think of you and Mia.

I hope this is not upsetting for you. I just wanted to let you know, that even though I don't know her I carry your Mia in my heart. x

Morning girls xx

It's 3 weeks today since my daughter died, one week ago we buried her . It already feels like a lifetime ago. She was seven and born with a congenital heart condition. We took her to the hospital because she had gastroenteritis and I think it was just too much for her.
Last night I couldn't sleep, when I did doze off I had a horrible dream and woke up in the middle of a panic attack.

Snorris I am so glad you have found us - just wish that you didn't have to. I remember quite a few years ago you telling me about your DD, and I was so sad to hear the awful news about her.

The early days of the loss of a child are truly horrible. Feeling like you are going mad, forgetting things, not being able to sleep and the dreaded panic attacks.

I have learnt over the years that all those emotions and physical things (sleep, panic attacks etc etc) are 'normal' - although I am not sure whats normal anymore.

Keep posting here my friend, this is our safe haven but also a thread that I wish none of us were part of xxxxxx

snorris so sorry for your loss what's her name?

Seren, it means star in Welsh.

snorris Seren is a beautiful name. Sending you love and light at the difficult, impossible time. We are here for you. xx

Snorris, welcome to our group xx sorry so sorry you have reason to join us, but a warm welcome
My ds died because of heart problems too, he died shortly after he was born please let us be here for you x x

amazing thank you for such lovely words about Mia. I somehow missed seeing them before. Last night, we were with our friends, whose little girl calls Mia her "twinkle star friend". Apparently, this nearly-three-year-old saw a shooting star somewhere and accurately named it for her mother. Curious, her mother asked how she knew what a shooting star was. "My twinkle star friend told me" was the innocent response. It has happened several times now. It always makes me so happy. I do believe it is Mia.

Morning girls xx

Morning ladies xx