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As we go through this painful journey together

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lavandes · 10/02/2013 21:24

As we go through this painful journey together we share, cry, scream and shout but we never judge, we know that there is always someone to listen. We always remember our precious children who will never be forgotten and will live on forever in our hearts.

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chipmonkey · 20/05/2013 16:57

white, don't feel bad. It isn't up to you to solve everyone else's problems, you have enough of your own at the moment! People really do ask invasive questions, don't they and they can catch you off guard.

whiteandyellowiris · 20/05/2013 17:01

thanks chip, i will try to not feel guilty, i just find the small talk agonising most of the time, i don't really like getting to know new people
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i never used to be like this, i used to be so open and friendly.

i just knew if i went down her house for two hours or more, it would be really hard for me, as we would obviously be trying to make conversation

shabbatheGreek · 21/05/2013 06:44

Morning girls xx

whiteandyellowiris · 21/05/2013 09:51

morning, i thought some of you might like to see this its about Soulumination a company that has has been providing beautiful portraits for families ravaged by cancer and other terminal illnesses for the last several years.

it is a daily mail link, and just to let you know its photos of loved ones before they pass away, with music and words

just had me in floods

whiteandyellowiris · 21/05/2013 09:51

link

this is the link if youwant to see

shabbatheGreek · 22/05/2013 06:41

Morning girls xx

chipmonkey · 22/05/2013 10:38

What a lovely idea, white. I was in floods of tears looking at some of the photos. xx

shabbatheGreek · 23/05/2013 06:46

Morning girls xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 23/05/2013 09:28

Morning shabba! You are such an early bird. Natural, or can't you sleep?

shabbatheGreek · 23/05/2013 13:25

Struggle to sleep often Mias - I get on my own nerves with it!!

shabbatheGreek · 25/05/2013 08:37

Morning girls xx Beautiful sunny morning here xx

whiteandyellowiris · 25/05/2013 11:26

chip, im glad you liked it, i'm glad people attitudes towards breavement are slowly changing.
and that more and normal peopel get to have lovely photos like these.

shabbatheGreek · 26/05/2013 08:16

Morning girls xx

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lavandes · 26/05/2013 20:49

Hi Ladies xx

My candle is lit (as it is every weekend) for all our children xxx

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whiteandyellowiris · 26/05/2013 21:30

thanks lavandes xx

shabbatheGreek · 27/05/2013 07:44

Morning girls xx

Thanks Lavandes - thats lovely xx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 27/05/2013 23:46

Just spent a lovely weekend with family here. Mia is so very present with us always. It makes me so sad for those who feel they can't mention their children's names around others. That must be so hard.

KateRaeganandMichael · 28/05/2013 20:21

For my boys Nathan Jarett & Stanley Christopher 31/5/12
My heart aches for you
daddy's heart breaks for you
Love and Miss you always
xxx

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 28/05/2013 23:08

Sending you all love, Kate. Remembering your beautiful boys, Nathan and Stanley, with you. And saying their names out loud. Xx

shabbatheGreek · 29/05/2013 07:21

Morning girls xx

KateRaeganandMichael · 29/05/2013 21:14

Thank you so much MiaAlexandrasMummy [hugs]

its so tough at the moment - I thought it would be so much easier at this point but it is the absolutely opposite.
I have been crying most of this week, which is very odd for me.

I dont think it is a dr thing, I just finally think that what has happened has caught up with me - if that makes sense.

it makes me sad to think that I will be feeling like this for a long time to come, but glad that I have you guys to share it with x

MiaAlexandrasmummy · 29/05/2013 21:21

kate a year is hard. The time apart feels so short, and yet it isn't. I'm not surprised you are finding it hard. As I say often here, tears are simply liquid love. xx

KateRaeganandMichael · 29/05/2013 21:33

how are you doing Mias? x hope you dont mind me asking?

whiteandyellowiris · 29/05/2013 21:40

hi kate, im not much further up this path than you, but i found it v v v hard in the run up to my ds birthday, which is also the same day he died, so its his birthday and anniversary all in one day.

thinking of you hoping your ok, i hope you will find the build up to the day is worse than the day itself

do you have any plans for the day?

me and dh took somethings to ds grave, a heart thing dd made, some really nice flowers, we let off some ballons and went out for lunch to ,ark the day
and although it was an awful day, i personally found the build up the worse.
and on the day it was nice to spend the whole day remebering dsand it felt like we were doing things for him

KateRaeganandMichael · 29/05/2013 22:05

Hi WhiteandYellow

because the boys were cremated we are going to take their *urn with us and go to go to our local park (which is beautiful), let go of a balloon for each of them and if the weathers nice have a picnic with our DD and feed the ducks. im thinking about getting two plants that flower every year (???) (im not green fingered at allConfused) but that might be a little bit too much...

*i hope that doesnt sound morbid but after considering it for the last few days it feels right.