Please or to access all these features

Bereavement

Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters. See also your choices after baby loss.

Edinburgh Crematorium story

8 replies

RufflingFeathers · 05/12/2012 22:24

Anyone else affected by the news of Mortonhall crematorium?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-20609910

Really shocked and sad Angry Sad

OP posts:
quoteunquote · 06/12/2012 19:52

I'm not surprised we didn't get any ashes back for one of our sons.

benbobaggins · 06/12/2012 23:22

Sometimes, when we cremate babies, there are no ashes to give to families, it's a hard thing to tell them :(

NoJudgementRequired · 06/12/2012 23:28

I heard this today. Its not the fact that the families where told there would be no ashes, its that there wereashes and the families were denied the chance to have them.

I just dont see what the funeral home where gaining from this? Is it a cost thing? Or just laziness?

My heart breaks for those poor families involved.

benbobaggins · 06/12/2012 23:37

My heart breaks too, sometimes I have to scatter babies ashes and it is done the same whether the parents are there or not, we have a special baby garden.

RufflingFeathers · 07/12/2012 07:58

Benbo - I take it you have insider knowledge of crematoriums?
Our son was cremated there in 2004 - we were told there were no ashes and now I fear that they were just swept into the bin or left in there to be mixed with whoever came next !

I do understand that sometimes there are no ashes, or very very few.

I wish I hadn't even read the article Sad

OP posts:
benbobaggins · 07/12/2012 08:05

Yes I work at a crematorium, sometimes there are no ashes to return to a family, please be assured that your baby was not swept into a bin but treated like everyone else with absolute respect and dignity.

I'm very sorry you lost your boy Hmm

AgentProvocateur · 07/12/2012 08:21

I just can't understand why the workers (and was it only one, or all of them?) did it. Was it tacit policy or what? Baffling.

1944girl · 05/03/2013 00:05

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread